we have separate bank accounts and dh 'gives' me housekeeping each month, we both have full time work and at home is my Ds(10) and dd (6months), dsd (15) stays occasionally and I give the kids pocket money into their accounts each month as well as sort all the household bills etc..
Dh keeps around 2-300 a month for himself, and all he has to pay for is treats for himself such as beer... And bus fare if he doesn't want to walk to work which is about 30mins away...
He is so tight at times, won't break a note and is always asking me for the odd pound for bus fare... I usually lend it to him but I have to nag to get it back and its such a fight, when we go out I always have to day for coffee etc and I even stormed out of a cafe once when he'd suggested we go for coffee, I sat down and said i'd love a latte, Ds asked fir a hot chocolate and he said he had no money and thought I was paying ! it later transpired that he had a tenner on him!
Anyway, towards the end of the month he also asks me to lend him twenty quid or so so I usually do and insist he pays me back which he does eventually while moaning like hell. Last month he asked to borrow a tenner and promised to pay it back the next day, he then renaged on that saying he 'gives' me too much housekeeping anyway and doesn't see that this is separate nor acknowledge that I financially supported him for 18 months while he was ill!
Aibu to refuse point blank to ever lend him a pound again or pay for coffees etc?