/ ungrateful to be mildly annoyed by my MIL insisting on accompanying me to purchase nursery furniture just so she can get her clubcard points?

[miamivixen]

esp when my own parents (of similar financial standing) have contributed far more without attaching conditions... 34 weeks and possibly just hormonal...

Can't you just take her clubcard with you? Surely she doesn't need to be there in person, unless she's wanting to stick her beak in?

Is she paying for the furniture? If she is I would say that's fair enough, she's entitled to her points?

if you don't collect them, then why not? (but I do love a bargain...)

She's probably excited too, & MILs often get a bit pushed out as the new mum wants her own parents, so taking her to buy the cot might make her feel like she's going to be involved and so make your life easier in the long run!

i can't see that it hurts...

so she didn't pay, just wanted the points???

give her the receipt afterwards, and she can add the points on at customer services.

Oh wow another "MIL wants to be involved shocker" .

Is she paying for the nursery furniture or is she just accompanying you so she can hand over her clubcard when it comes to paying?

She may be just using the clubcard as an excuse to accompany you because she wants to be a part of the 'choosing' of the nursery furniture?

But I would be annoyed too...but thats because my MIL is annoying FULLSTOP...

she is paying for the furniture, but we live 5 minutes from her and 1000 miles from my parents, so don't think feeling "pushed out" is a factor as she sees me every day. Am definitely just being ungrateful and comparing unfairly to my own parents who prob are throwing money at us as they can't physically be with us.

If she's paying, then the points are hers and instead of being cross about her wanting them, you should be grateful that you have people willing to buy stuff for your baby. She could always just give you the cash and her clubcard of course, she doesn't have to come with you, but maybe she wants to and maybe you don't want to be someone who just wants the cash and not the company.

If she's not paying and just wants the points, take her card or tell her you are collecting them yourself.

get a clubcard and collect them yourself,they are great for bargains! LOL

Just take her along and make her buy you a hot chocolate with some of her points.

YABveryU

oh, shes PAYING - then YABU, the points are rightly hers

And if she's round the corner, it's likely that in a year or two, if not sooner, you'll be very, very pleased she's interested in her GC!! Willing babysitters are worth their weight in gold once you're established as a little family

I'm confused. If she's paying for the nursery furniture, how can your parents have contributed much more money than her?

Surely the furniture is the most expensive baby item?

It's not just the points that make you unreasonable, it's the fact that someone is buying you a not inconsiderable gift and you just want them to hand over the cash and exclude them from the buying process and the thing they're buying is for their grandchild.

You ungrateful sod !!

Me and dp didnt get anything bought for us when I had ds and dd, I would have been very grateful for anything offered and would have been more than happy for the buyers input.

She's paying and you're complaining about WHAT exactly? [shocked]

?

Why are you upset?

even if she wasnt paying, if you dont collect the points why not let her have them?!?
let her be involved now, you'll have an excuse not to see her so much [if thats what you want] when the baby is born.

YABU. Please also envisage an expression of shock, distaste and censure written all over my face, you horrid child!

Why don't you just lock her in a cupboard?

LOL at Headbanger (grin)