I am going to sound like a right cow but hear me out...
DS has made friends with another boy at a toddler's group we go to and I sit and chat to his mum. She seems nice enough and I sense that she doesn't have many friends here and I know her marriage is in a bad way because she tells me as much. I listen and try and give impartial advice but as a relative stranger, feel a bit awkward discussing things that I would only discuss with family/good mates.
She had been pressing for a while for DS and I to go back to theirs after group and I had a free afternoon yesterday so we went. This is going to sound terrible but her house was really iffy It smelled and I don't just mean housey smells, it was really pungent and offensive. Then she made me a cup of tea and there was a weird oily film floating on the top so I didn't want to drink it, then she offered me some lunch but I said I was saving myself for my curry for tea (which was true tbh) but I really didn't want to eat anything from her kitchen I know I sound like a real snob, my house is NOT pristine whatsoever but it's pretty clean. Her kitchen was just really dirty and whiffy.
I feel really sorry for her but I really don't want to go again but she's already extended an invitation for next week. I don't want to have to be making up excuses every week for why we can't go. TBH, I like chatting to her at the group but I don't want to extend the friendship past that. We don't seem to have anything in common except for the fact that we're both mums and i don't want to become he person that she vents to about her marriage.
I am totally prepared to be told IABU and for a ruddy good flaming...