to be angry with my friend for pretending her dp has left to get a housing assoc house??

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she was given her notice by her landlord a few weeks ago and her and her dp have pretended he has left her so she can get a housing association house.

he is renting a room off his mate in a shared house (but obviously doesnt actually stay there), so that "on paper" he offically has moved out. and they are intending to give it a few weeks once she and the kids have moved in the house and then "move him in" officially.

and she has just found out she has been offered a 3 bed HA house today.

i know all this because she actually told me about what they were doing quite boastfully, saying she wanted to "do the best for her family" and that they couldn't afford some private rented house for £700 a month that can just be taken off them at any time. she wants the security and cheapness of having a housing assoc or council property.

i just feel a bit about them playing the system when there are people in genuine need out there.

btw, he works, she doesn't. but he has a reasonably good job, he is a shop manager so i am sure he earns a decent wage.

Missus84 I agree with you, fifteen years ago I owned my house after buying it of my exh, ten years ago after struggling to work full time with two dc I had to sell it to pay of debts and had to rent. I did this for five years and rent of nearly £1k a month.

Last year I was in debt with the landlord who was great for the first five years but would not do the essential repairs in the property and was fortunate to be offered a flat for myself and my daughter. I say fortunate only because I had put myself on the waiting list the previous year after my son had left home and was bidding for a few months. The housing officer that came round to see me was in fact someone that I had worked with a few years before. I am sure she pulled a few strings to get us into the ha flat we are in now.

Did I cheat the system? No I dont think so. Would I report someone who I think is? No I would not, purely for the simple reason that I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around.

TheHeathenOf.... The NI number have some of the same functionalities, but is very limited compared to the National Identity number, as it is used in Norway and Sweden. It is a number allocated you at birth (or you need apply within 3 months of coming to Norway if you plan to stay). You need it every time you have to access health care, for applying for a passport, for benefits and taxes, when opening a bank account, being assessed for loans, for online banking, when voting, getting electricty or other utilities/supplies. Basically everything. This means that a whole lot of information is gathered about you, as you go about your daily business, and this information is held on the Peoples register, and accessible by the police or authorities at any time. Quite the nanny state, in fact!

no, i would NEVER grass on her (or anyone, even if i hated them) i am so against that as it happened to a friend of mine a good few months ago now and she is still financially fucked because of it. and she is still paranoid about who did it and feels she can't trust anyone

but yeah i have to say since my OP i have changed my standpoint somewhat and while i think she was BU for boasting about it i can see why she has done it.

why does it have to be so damn unaffordable these days for normal folks to buy?? or even rent a decent place? i don't understand about house prices etc but why have they gone up so much, my DP is 10 years older than me and he used to own a house, he bought it in 1995 (i think) and it was £30k. when he sold it 3 years ago he got £130k for it (sadly he didnt see much out of it as he had to pay off his ex and pay off loads of debts but thats another story )

Well, an aquaintance of mine did this and both she and her husband ended up in PRISON for fraud! I´m not making it up. They had other fraud too, loads of unpaid credit cards, and "playing" the system. Her DH pretended to be living somewhere else for a bit, she went into a hostel with kids and was quickly given a house, upon which her DH moved back in.

Whilst life is hard and unfair, it doesn´t mean you are entitled to "play" the system. It is fraud and you CAN go to prison.

The girl I knew only went to prison for 2 weeks, she thought she´d never be sentenced as she has 2 young children and was pregnant.

It was a real eye opener for me (and I bet for her too!).

Well, I do sincerley hope they take it this seriously, Chandon, with all reported cases.

chandon - omg

what other fraud type things were they doing then?

and how did they get caught out, did someone grass them up? what happened when she had come out of prison? did her kids get taken off her?

/nosey

BUMP because i want to hear about the woman who went to prison!!!!

Hmm.. No morals, no sense of community, an ugly sense of entitlement, victim mentality, only looking out for herself.

Great friend material