giving a present back to the giver?

[Greythorne]

My DH has a cousin who has 4 DCs and I always give / send them birthday presents. I sent a tee shirt to one of them a few weeks ago and we went round to their house yesterday. During the afternoon, the mum said, "Oh, by the way, the tee you sent for X, is lovely but it doesn't fit, do you mind taking it back?" She handed me the tee, which still had the ticket of it.

I took it and apologised for buying the wrong size, but inside, was thinking, "how rude, why doesn'tb she return it herself?"

So, now I have to go back to the shop, return the tee, they will almost certainly not still have that tee in stock as it was a few weeks ago, try to find something that will fit, then send it through the post again.

But if she took it back, she would be able to get exactly the right size and cut out alot of the hassle.

AIBU to think she was not only rude but also expecting me to do alot which she could do herself?

I always get gift receipts and give them to the recipient I have to say...

I've been stung too often as a receiver (only getting the sale price back when I know full price has been paid) so I always do that now....just do that in future with things for her....she'd really have a cheek to get you to return it and replace it when she ahs the receipt...

I think I would probably have said, 'do you have the receipt so I can change it for the size up?'

Close friends have on a couple of occasions given DD a book she already has and I have left it with them on the grounds that they can use the present for someone else. I've always felt a bit rude about it, but am shit at lying and DD would 'fess up anyway. Always say what a lovely book it is and how good a choice it was, though.

Greythorne

Thanks for all the extra info. It makes all the difference.

Yes, she was being a bit rude and in her shoes I would have asked if you had the receipt so I could exchange, leaving it up to you to offer to take it back. Bit presumptious of her