to think toddler session is at a stupid time

[florencerusty]

Really struggling with leaving the house at all (long story) but feeling bad because DD3 ought to go. But its from 1 til 3 Its ridiculous, she wants to be napping then

Well, considering all children and families are different, I think YABU to be annoyed that a toddler session hasn't been arranged purely to suit your child.

Personally I lived for afternoon sessions when mine were little - the afternoons were the part of the day that dragged and dragged.

A lot of toddlers do have an after-lunch type nap but YABU. Just dont go!

It's fine not to go
go to the park in the morning or swimming or to the library
how old is she?

And why ought DD3 to go? My youngest two never went to toddler groups - would have bored my older ones silly! They both seem to have survived!

YANBTU

i too used to think that 1-3 was a stupid time too LOL, I stuck with the morning ones as dd napped in the afternoon

Toddler groups are often in the afternoon in village/church halls because playgroup/ preschool where the kids are left are usually in the morning

well my two year old no longer naps in the afternoon so 1-3 would be a godsend! There is no ideal time really but if it's only once a week it's not going to hurt to shuffle her nap a little

YANBU to be annoyed that the only activity you've found to do with DD3 is at the time she is napping. Especially if you are having a tough time and struggling to get out of the house.
Most young toddlers I know (including mine) sleep after lunch, so its a fairly common nap time ime.

Keep looking for something that you can do with DD3 in the mornings. Have a look at the surestart website in case there is something like that in your area. I've found them to be brilliant.

I think it is probably secheduled at this time for mums who have to do school pickups.

If she wants to be napping then let her nap. Get up in the morning and get out of the house even if its just to the park.

Sounds like you are a bit low. Hope things get better soon.

ha! you don't know how lucky you've got it! i would be thrilled to have a toddler that slept in the day! my two stopped napping at 18 months. stop moaning and be grateful!!! meanwhile, for the rest of us, thank god there's SOMETHING on between 1-3.

YABU - 1-3 is a stupid time, every toddler I know has a nap sometime between 12 and 3pm, not the greatest time IMO (we have the same problem here)

Do you have a childrens centre or surestart centre near you? There must be other toddler groups you could go to?

Most toddler groups I've seen are timed around the school run to suit the mums who need to drop off or pick up older kids on the way to or from the group. So either 9:30-11:30 or 1-3. Kind of makes sense to me, really.

Surely there are other groups you could get to in the morning?

Is your DD3 your third daughter, or your DD who is 3 years old? It's a bit confusing!

YANBU- Nearly all toddlers I know have a nap sometime after lunch- I would be surprised if many go to this group.

In my defence not really moaning and defiately not annoyed, just having a bit of a whinge.

She is only 20months and could possibly move a nap but if I put her in the buggy she'll fall asleep on the way

Old mother with grown up children completely lacking in confidence (complete sea change) since the stillbirth of my little boy at term

By LadyintheRadiator Tue 11-May-10 12:01:56
What kind and gentle replies to someone who sounds as though they're struggling.

thank you

Florence - it can be a pita when things are scheduled over a naptime as when things are hard you really need that couple of hours to yourself in the middle of the day.

I have found that the surestart centres normally do morning activities - as do the ymca's if you're near one.

Have you looked at yuor MN local site?

Sorry for your loss btw - that must be imcredibly hard

Where are you florence? Someone on here might be able to help you find somewhere that you could go to?

Sorry about the loss of your little boy x

florence, go anyway, my eldest used to fall asleep as we arrived at every group regardless of time, i still went and made friends and felt better for it. she would usually wake near the end and get half an hour or so of benefit from it which made it worth my while getting out. Also i struggled to get out, for different reasons, but making one friend who i arranged to meet at or on the way to groups forced me to get out and did me the world of good,

good luck

YABU. When DS was younger he used to have a nap about 10ish. We went to a group that was 9-11. I would still take him and he would either fall asleep when we were there or he would manage to stretch it out til the walk home in his buggy.

We also went to a group that was 1:30 til 3. This was fine until he got a bit older and moved to an afternoon nap. I did the same thing - took him and he would either last it out until the walk home, have a bit of a sleep on the way there and wake up for the last part or play for a bit and then maybe sleep in his buggy.