I'm married in my 30's with DS. When 20 I met a guy from home, fell in love and we moved to London. When we were 28 we split, not acrimoniously, I bought a flat and moved. We'd had a lot of stress in life but still liked each other etc etc.
One weekend we went to the same rugby match, we had bought tickets months before. I had a spare and invited my female boss who was 40 & a bit lonely, used to date ex-con, lost touch with all her friends through this relationship. They got on, & I didn't realise but she went back to our old flat and slept with him. I was ok about it, just jokingly said spare me the details.
This she couldn't do, and announced very loudly in work constantly every intimate detail of their blossoming sex life. I left the company and distanced myself - I didn't want to hear it all the time. Also fed up of going for work drink, him turning up and them snogging the faces off each other. I'm nearly 40 now,like she was then and don't think it's appropriate behaviour for after work drinks.
I thought I could put in the past but every few years they get in touch. First time she kept telling him that I had saved for a deposit whilst living with him and therefore half that money for my flat should be his. (I paid him through Uni and 4 foreign hols and left with the debt but that was forgotten about).
The following year i got phone message on Xmas night "if you died tomorrow it wouldn't be a moment too soon". It was her (brummy accent) i called and told them to shove it, he then met me and apologised his excuse - she is devastated that i dumped her after she was such a good friend to me.
8 years later they keep contacting my family or me through facebook.Why can't they leave me alone. I am happy they're married, have dogs etc why can't they just get on with their lives and stop reminding me of the past i would rather forget?