to want dh to close the en suite's door when he uses the loo.

[StayingDavidTennantsGirl]

I ask this because dh got all huffy last night when I asked him to close the door of our en suite when he's using the loo - and pulled a nasty face when I explained that leaving it open makes it feel like he's weeing in the same room as me.

We do use the loo in front of eachother, but only if we both happen to be in the bathroom together - I don't want to see and hear him weeing when I am cuddled up in bed reading a book.

AIBU?

you see this is why i hate ensuites. when i am at home alone or with the dp/dcs i always leave the door open but in an ensuite it seems wrong, exactly like having a wee in your bedroom

Course not. Personally I don't mind wee quite so much. Or maybe I have just got used to it as dh has no boundries! Poo annoys me so much though. Dh didn't used to think anything of coming in while I was in the bath to do a poo

yanbu

YANBU at all

YANBU and like Witch - this is why I also hate ensuites. I really cannot see the point of them and all houses seem to be built with them now. You really cannot use them at night: we never do because if you flush it always wakes the other one up. I am looking to move and really dont want another house with an ensuite (although two bathrooms would be lovely). A friend recently extended her house and deliberately went for the two bathroom option and it works much better.

YANBU.
We had an ensuite built last year, but no toilet- we already have 2 toilets on the first floor.

Totally agree YANBU, but my DP is just same. Once read column (i think) where person described the manner in which either partner used shower in ensuite, woman:has shower with door closed, wraps hair in towel/turban like and body in large towel/robe then discretely goes past partner to bed, man:showers loudly with door open, dries self roughly using towel picked off floor, walks past partner naked going 'woohoo!' while wiggling pelvis. Self & DP both found very funny and true

Dh has just said that you are all wrong. Don't worry - I have given him one of my sternest looks.

He is a very lucky man. In my all male other than me household nobody is allowed in my bathroom ever. Even when loo collapsed in their bathroom they had go ALL go downstairs for a pee. My bathroom is all mine!

Have you considered 'dropping the kids off at the pool' with the door open while he lies in bed??

Add some faux groans and sighs and he may get the point!!

Christ I could have written that post.

I hate it. I can't even use the en suite with the door closed when he is in the bedroom. I have to go and use the other loo.

iamreallysilly that is me. DH never sees me nekkid. Yet he would spent all day walking around waving his pelvis.

er..your dh NEVER sees you naked? how is that possible?

YANBU...but its not really that big a deal is it?

erm, it's the other way round in our house. I will happily pee in front of DH and don't bother about shutting the door... I get lonely

I'm glad I don't have an ensuite then!! The bathroom is out of sight so DH can have the door open all he pleases.

I also am one of these people that leaves the door wide open when I'm peeing, so DH gets to see and hear it all. He is much the same. We don't bother.

I wouldn't mind the sight but it is so never-endingly loud it would distract me from my book.

I think I have worked out what the problem is - like minipie, dh gets lonely. Apparently when he stands at the downstairs loo, the dog pushes the door open and comes in with him and watches.

(Disclaimer - I think this makes him sound like even more of a wierdo, but he is fine with me posting this).

I so hate this so much so that the en-suite is MINE and Dh has to use the family bathroom LOL. I hate stepping on wee dribbles with my bare feet too - DH always manages to miss the bowl or splash - bleurgh!

That's why we never moved into the master suite, I don't like the idea of hearing each other on the bog, so we use that part of the house for guests and scamper across the landing to the bog

God, I don't like ensuites, either, and nearly all Australian houses have them. It seems so weird to have a lavatory next to where you sleep.

The only thing worse than this is that the second bathroom leads directly off the kitchen area!! I'm used to the old building regs in the UK, where there have to be two doors between a lavatory and a kitchen.

I gather these rules are no longer in force, so newer UK houses areas bad as the Oz ones.

It nearly, but not quite, makes me nostalgic for the outside lavatories of my youth

YANBU - I hate ensuites too for that reason. It's not rocket science is it?
Shut the door.
Put the lid down.
Replace toilet roll.
Put empty tube in the bin, not on top of the cistern which is a metre away from the bin!
Sod the election, let's vote on the issues that really matter!!!

iamreallysilly, you mean this joke?

How Men and Women Shower
How To Shower Like a Woman

Take off clothing and place it in sectioned laundry hamper according
to lights and darks.
Walk to bathroom wearing long dressing gown. If you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.
Look at your womanly physique in the mirror - make mental note to do more sit-ups/leg-lifts, etc.
Get in the shower.
Use face cloth, arm cloth, leg cloth, long loofah, wide loofah and pumice stone.
Wash your hair once with cucumber and sage shampoo with 43 added vitamins.
Wash your hair again to make sure it's clean.
Condition your hair with grapefruit mint conditioner enhanced.
Wash your face with crushed apricot facial scrub for 10 minutes until red.
Wash entire rest of body with ginger nut and jaffa cake body wash.
Rinse conditioner off hair.
Shave armpits and legs.
Turn off shower.
Squeegee off all wet surfaces in shower.
Spray mold spots with Tilex.
Get out of shower.
Dry with towel the size of a small country.
Wrap hair in super absorbent towel.
Return to bedroom wearing long dressing gown and towel on head.
If you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.
How To Shower Like a Man

Take off clothes while sitting on the edge of the bed and leave them in a pile.

Walk naked to the bathroom. If you see wife along the way, shake wiener at her making the 'woo-woo' sound.

Look at your manly physique in the mirror.

Admire the size of your wiener and scratch your butt.

Get in the shower.
Wash your face.
Wash your armpits.

Blow your nose in your hands and let the water rinse them off.

Fart and laugh at how loud it sounds in the shower.

Spend majority of time washing privates and surrounding area.

Wash your butt, leaving those coarse butt hairs stuck on the soap.

Wash your hair. Make a Shampoo Mohawk.
Pee.

Rinse off and get out of shower.

Partially dry off. Fail to notice water on floor because curtain was hanging out of tub the whole time.

Admire wiener size in mirror again.

Leave shower curtain open, wet mat on floor, light and fan on.
Return to bedroom with towel around waist. If you pass wife, pull off towel, shake wiener at her and make the 'woo-woo' sound again.

Throw wet towel on bed.

SDTG, YANBU!

Vallhala - I think my dh may have read this and consciously decided to live by it. Especially wet towel on the bed. On my bloody side. Sod.

OP is not BU. Why do some people insist on sharing their most sploshy moments? I hate en-suites though, and cannot see why anyone wants a lav in their bedroom. Years and years of progress have elapsed since the days of pissing in a chamber pot so why recreate the effect?