dh is being irresponsible

[tuarag]

Have a dd aged 9 months. Husband is a mountaineer and has announced that he plans to climb North Americas highest mountain, Denali otherwise known as Mount McKinley. I know enough about this mountain to know that people die attempting to scale this moutain, each year.

Am I being unreasonable to ask him not to go ahead with his plans for the sake of his family. I feel guilty, as I knew when we first met about his passion. What do you think?

I think it depends on how serious a mountaineer he is and the life he is choosing to live - I think mountaineers are a breed apart, and what they do is what they are so to speak. Subsequently, the worlds biggest mountains are literally littered with the bodies of parents - Alison Hargreaves is probably the most well known example.
If the person you married and had a DD with is a professional mountaineer, ya probably bu by asking him to change his lifestyle

I think though it's a big difference if he's more of an occasional climber and how experienced he is; BIL wants to climb the 7 summits (definitely midlife crisis) and DP is tempted to go along to Mont Blanc some time, but I'm off the opinion that if you need a guide to get on any of these tops you have no business being there in the first place. So if it's more of a life experience type of trip, I would ask him at least to set out the reasons, the alternatives - if he's doing it to tick of a list for example, you wouldn't be unreasonable to point out that his responsibilities have changed and he may need to make different priorities.

In the end though, the decision is up to him - tough as it may be to you