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to think its a disgrace that marks n spencers do not accept healthy start vouchers?

354 replies

superv1xen · 05/05/2010 19:22

i think its disgusting.

as if they are saying, we are marks and spencers and are posh, therefore don't want you single parents shopping here with your "poor people's vouchers", piss off to asda, you are lowering the tone.

the look on the cashier's face when i tried to use my vouchers in there, snobby bitch.

aibu?

OP posts:
colditz · 05/05/2010 22:32

disagreeing with someone and challenging what they say is not bullying.

Stalking someone across the entire realm of the internet is bullying. Allowing anger to spill over onto other threads is bullying. I don't recall ever disagreeing with cupcakes before now, and as I am the one being told I should "look less of a div when replying" - I'll not agree that I am a bully.

colditz · 05/05/2010 22:35

You said that you only object to players of the system

And yet you have just spend 20 minutes objecting to someone being cross because they couldn't use their healthy start voucher in their closest food shop.

So is that person a player or not? And if they are not a player, why are you objecting?

woosam · 05/05/2010 22:38

Colditz, what I think is bullying is everyone piling in on one poster and in this case making it sound as though she must either be jealous or fascist. New people coming on and jumping on the 'piling in' bandwagon. When actually, if you read her very first post on this thread it doesn't come across that badly at all.

And TBH, the OP is being unreasonable to expect everywhere to accept the vouchers. Not to use them where she pleases but to expect everywhere to accomodate them.

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:38

I didn't say I ONLY object to players of the system.

You're doing it again. Seriously, can't work out if you're doing it deliberately or whether you're genuinely dense. The playing the system comment was made in a post unrelated to the OP. Scroll through and have a read.

jessiealbright · 05/05/2010 22:38

Woosam

You have a point. Not that it's any excuse, but I have been carried away by my enthusiasm for M&S offers. I'm still so p'd off with myself for not going in there before because I assumed it would be so pricy. The money I could've saved...

But this way is unlikely to convert people...

jessiealbright · 05/05/2010 22:39

oooh, sad baby...

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:40

THIS is what I object to:

i think its disgusting.

as if they are saying, we are marks and spencers and are posh, therefore don't want you single parents shopping here with your "poor people's vouchers", piss off to asda, you are lowering the tone.

Talk about me having a chip on my shoulder... Some places don't accept them. Big fucking blouses. How the HELL can you complain that not everywhere accepts vouchers that you get for NOTHING? How?

woosam · 05/05/2010 22:41

But I read it as she was telling the OP she was BU to expect M&S to accept them, which she (OP) was.

And her 'scumbag' comment was at those who cheat the system, was it not? Not at all those on benefits.

usualsuspect · 05/05/2010 22:42

her 2nd post was a bit off tho

Sassybeast · 05/05/2010 22:44

Cupcakes second post was clearly having a go at ANYONE who was on benefits. The scumbag comments only clarified her attitude.

woosam · 05/05/2010 22:44

So was the OP!

I'm actually an old leftie supporter of the WS just don't like the piling in especially when I don't actually think it's warranted here at all.

LaurieFairyCake · 05/05/2010 22:46

wouldn't it be really shit to get these vouchers and live next to an M&S and not be able to use them

my nearest local shop that sells food is M&S

Tesco/Sainsburys is a car drive away

OP can moan about whatever she likes - this is mumsnet not poker-up-arse-prim-net

usualsuspect · 05/05/2010 22:47

Div ,scumbag no one else has used words like that on this thread ..anyway I'm off to worry about waking up to a tory goverment on friday..bored of bananas now

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:47

My second post might have been a bit off but so was OPs. It's not "snobby" of anyone not to accept these vouchers. No-one is obliged to and just because you're in receipt of them doesn't entitle you to shop anywhere with them. Just be happy that you're getting them. I'd be happy if I was on benefits and getting them even if I could only spend them in Aldi...

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:49

Yeah, me having a go at anyone on benefits even though my SiL, mum, best mate and two of my cousins claim benefits.

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:51

Usualsuspect, I didn't call anyone on this thread a scumbag so please stop misquoting me and trying to make me look like a bully. Yeah I called you a div for misquoting me. I could have called you a manipulative, misleading twat but I chose div; lighthearted and immature yes, malicious, no.

usualsuspect · 05/05/2010 22:52

you never called me a div ..read the fucking thread

woosam · 05/05/2010 22:53

Laurie, absolutely the OP can moan about whatever she likes. But this being AIBU, others are allowed to disagree and say so without being hounded.

I'm not sure the living next door to M&S things makes a difference. We live 5min walk from an Aston Martin garage. DH often sighs as he walks/drives past but that's life!

colditz · 05/05/2010 22:57

I don't like starting with "he said" "she said" but anyway

" cupcakesandbunting Wed 05-May-10 22:18:48
Well, why don't you come back and quote me from posts where I have said that I am a fan of the welfare state and that I simply object to players of the system? I'll tell you why; because it doesn't fit in with your agenda of painting me up how you want to paint me up. It's called quoting out of context. You should get a job as a journo for a red top. You'd nail it. "

You did say that. You denied that you said it when I called you on it, and you haven't yet given any explanation for your irrational vitriol, but never mind. It's your aneurism.

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 22:58

Apologies Usualsuspect, I got you confused with Colditz.

It's this foaming rage you've got me into I can't think straight!

colditz · 05/05/2010 23:02

Something about the term foaming rage always makes me think of Basil Fawlty

I'm gone. I've had enough, I'm going to bed. No bullying was intended by me and never is, I hope none was felt.

LaurieFairyCake · 05/05/2010 23:03

woosam - makes a difference if you have to make a special journey in a car to buy some fruit (I think buying an Aston Martin counts as a special journey )

I would be right annoyed if I only got vouchers of £3.10 to spend in Aldi (though cupcake's saying she wouldn't). It's an hour away the nearest one

I remember 27 years ago my mother was allocated school uniform vouchers which could only be used in one shop in Glasgow - she couldn't afford the bus fare to take us there so we went without.

thank fuck times have changed.

mayorquimby · 05/05/2010 23:03

yabu it's a company,they can accept whatever vouchers they like

usualsuspect · 05/05/2010 23:03

Think you need a lay down ..jeez only on mn ...

cupcakesandbunting · 05/05/2010 23:05

BIG SIGH.

Just for you COlditz, just for you, here is the post I made which was the reason for making the "scumbags" remark...

cupcakesandbunting Wed 05-May-10 20:53:22
Erm yeah. I work in exchange for wages. I EARN my money so you're damn right I can piss it up the wall if I like. If I was/ever get into the same situation as the OP, I will not be getting my knickers in a twist because I cannot spend my free vouchers in M&S.

I used to work in a women's clothes shop when I was a student and we used to get lots of women in with vouchers from JSA entitling them to buy £200 of clothes to be worn at job interviews. A vast majority would spend the vouchers on going-out clothes and because the receipt didn't give a description of what the items were, they got away with it. That used to fuck me off no end too. Get the gallows out.

THEN in regards to the same subject I posted:

cupcakesandbunting Wed 05-May-10 21:01:25
It most certainly is not bullshit, Smallishsheep. The voucher states it is to buy formal clothes, doesn't mean it got spent on formal clothes. And if we questioned it, it was "what is it to do with you? it's not YOUR money"

But yeah. It's my fault, not the fault of the scumbags abusing the system. Those vouchers have been done away with now because of idiots abusing them. Shame for the people who did use them properly IMO.

So there you go, since you cba reading the thread properly.

You ought to be careful about making gags about aneurysms.