To be secretly pleased that the girl who bullied me at school because I was fat is now fat herself?

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I hope this doesn?t make me sound like an awful person! At school, one of the girls in my class used to call me really horrible names and make school an unpleasant place to be when she bullied me because I was fat. At the time, she was slim.

Have seen some very recent pictures of her and she is now rather fat. AIBU to feel a little bit happy that she?s now fat? ( I?m not for a second saying I want anyone to bully her though so please don?t think that?s what I meant!). But it would be nice to think she would remember what she did to me and feel slightly sorry now she is the same position herself!

AIBU to feel pleased about it? She never apologized for how badly she treated for all those years at senior school. If I ever see her at a school reunion in the future etc, would be interesting to hear what she had to say me! A sorry wouldn?t go a miss!!

YANBU. I'd be secretly pleased too!

YANBU. As everyone else has said, Karma's gonna get you.

Thank you for all those who mentioned karma, hadn't thought of that but it's so true, what goews around comes around!

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YANBU! It's a lovely thing.

I'd be tempted to say something like 'Oh, you used to call me fat at school' and just nothing else, as it will be obvious that she is now fat and you are not but you won't have said anything nasty.

Enjoy!

I would be Smug on a smug day in a smug way and I would relish it. Enjoy

YANBU.

It's wonderful how things work out sometimes. And also nice when nature does your revenge for you.

Went to my school reunion and the bully in our year was recently divorced and seemed unhappy. I was with my lovely husband, gorgeous toddler and was pregnant - ended up feeling sorry for her. Though YADNBU!

I remember looking through facebook at one bullying girl from school and ds came up behind me and asked "who is that? Is it Grandma?"

My Mum is in her sixties .

I have definitely aged well compared to many of my school mates.

It is probably karma.

Honestly I'd be surprised if she even remembered making your life difficult. Ime, the bullies are having such a lovely time at school that they never even realise that they're making other peoples' lives a misery, let alone remember later. That's why bullying is so insidious- it gives the victim an inferiority complex that can last for ever, whereas they completely forget what they did and have a perfectly clear conscience. So, no, YANBU, but I doubt she will remember.

I love these examples of karmic retribution. If only children would realise this while they're still at school I'm sure schools would be nicer places to be.

OP - love it.

An old bully from my primary school (blonde, loved herself, used to be mean about my freckles and green eyes) still lives in the village, left school at 16 and her looks, well smoking soon killed that.

YANBU!! A girl who bullied me ( headbutted me and a black eye) is now huuuuuuge ugly got nasty friZzy hair, bratty kids and enjoys a glittering career as a part time glass collecter. It was a good feeling!

send her an anonymous message saying "whos the fat bitch now", make her life hell I say!

porcamiseria that is breilliant!! A tiny bit mean but absolutely brilliant!!

"She must have been an unhappy person to want to bully in the first place?"

this is such crap, it's possible she was just a bitch.

I'm not sure Libra. There was one girl who was a year above me and was awful for the first 3 years of secondary school, in my fourth year, her fifth - we just kind of put things to one side and got on. Looking back with the clarity I have as an adult she was living in a horribly neglectful household, was screwing a 25 year old man and then went on to take a job at a very "famous shop" - I met her a year after she'd left school - she told me she'd had to quit because the owner had sexually harrassed her.

The others in her gang? Cunts.

Yeah of course she could have just been a bitch but you're not born a bitch - what makes you like that then?

YADNBU, this happened to me, except it wasn't a bully but my 'best friend' at the time who used to make me feel like absolute crap. I was soooo pleased when she sent me a friend request on facebook

If you do go to a school reunion, you could just smile at her and say

"Wow, look at you!"

And she can take it however she pleases. Either as a compliment that she looks great or that you think she looks like the back of a bus. And no-one could accuse you of being bitchy.

I realised that I was a bully at school. Not a terrible one but I used to rib one boy a lot and about two years after we left school, we got to mix in the same group and he got pissed and vented at me and told me what a bitch I was at school. Mortified, I was.

Now karma has dealt me a blow cos I'm a bit of a chubby chubbington Serves me right for being such an insufferable dick, I suppose.

Im just glad Im not the only one who has looked up the popular girls and been sooo happy then are fat / ugly have 6000 kids and live in 'the towers' - the worst place you culd end up apparently . I was bullied relentlessly at school for being skinny with a mass of frizzy hair i was really shy and it took my years to become the real me.
Im now happy with my lot, have 3 beautiful children (with no 4 on the way) and a gorgeous loving DH.
One guy did get in touch on facebook and apologise for being so horrible to me. He said he liked me at school but didnt have the guts to ask me out as everyone was mean to me but he really did send a grovelling apology which made me feel bad for him as it was 13 years ago and he'd tracked me down to say sorry.

Love karma! To all the super confident bullies/bitches who thought they knew it all age 16. How tragic you peaked sooooo young.

Loving "wow, look at you"! Bloody brilliant.

The only thing that's unreasonable is being secretly pleased...