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to be so cross at parents' parking at school?

40 replies

deaddei · 04/05/2010 11:46

We are very fortunate to have a drive through drop off area in front of school- no parking and take your child in, just pull in, chuck child out, and off you go.
This morning there were 5 cars parked- parents had taken dcs in to school- and one arse of a dad who pulled in to do the same, blocking off anyone else going through (unless they mounted the kerb on the other side)
I wound my window down as I squeezed by, and said that it was drop off only.
He ran round to my open window, shoved his head through and told me to mind my f*ing business, he would do what he wanted and then punched side of car.
I quickly wound up window (sadly he'd removed his head) and drove off- have called the school and they've said they'll have people outside tomorrow.
It's so unfair and selfish- eventually the school will stop parents doing this at all and it is very handy.

OP posts:
warthog · 04/05/2010 11:47

wow

OhYouBadBadKitten · 04/05/2010 11:53

blimey!
I know our school carpark can get like that. I am very very grateful to be in easy walking distance.

Tiredmumno1 · 04/05/2010 11:53

Ass-hole, i would have taken the reg and called the police, if he punched my car, and its verbal abuse, they will have words and i bet he wouldnt do it again

BetsyBoop · 04/05/2010 11:58

I bet his DC are a delight with an attitude like that as an example

Did he damage your car when he punched it? If so I'd be contacting the police to report him for criminal damage

Original poster
deaddei · 04/05/2010 12:39

No, car fine.
And at the risk of sounding judgy (!) he wasn't a huge hulking oik- but a normal looking guy in his early 40s- hey ho.
So we'll all be getting letters home tonight about the perils of parking.
I'd like to spray his windscreen with shaving foam- no lasting damage, but annoying.

OP posts:
EricPicklesFatNeck · 04/05/2010 12:41

school should just stop the drive by drop off.

traceybath · 04/05/2010 12:44

We have the drop off bit too but there's always 2 or 3 teachers there to help children out of the cars and make sure people don't park in the lay-bys.

The father sounds hideous though!

Mouseface · 04/05/2010 12:49

There so many times when I see idiots parents park across driveways, on double yellow lines, white zig zags near crossings and even double park just to get their precious child to school.

The rules do not apply them.

God forbid they should have to walk any distance to deliver their offspring.

stealthsquiggle · 04/05/2010 12:53

Drive-by drop off zone sounds like an eminently sensible idea if parking is a real nightmare, but it does need to be staffed/policed.

at the car-assaulting father - do you know him/his DC?

queenclarion · 04/05/2010 13:11

It astonishes me that people like the OP are willing to get into confrontations with strangers!

The dad was clearly in the wrong, the OP in the right, obviously there was no question of that. However, I don't think that I would have said anything in the OP's position.

I don't know what the OP was hoping to achieve? People who are ignorant and arrogant enough to flout the rules in the first place are not going to take kindly to being picked up on it! Being sworn at was the obvious outcome, lucky it wasn't worse IMO.

OP it is not your place to police the situation. I would have reported reg and description to the school and let them handle it.

Obviously I'm going to get flamed now!!!

paisleyleaf · 04/05/2010 13:17

It's other parents' arrogance with their parking that can really spoil my mood for a few minutes every morning. They really just don't care that they are holding up and blocking a lot of people, when they could have pulled in a few yards away and walked.
I don't say anything. But people are going to snap at times. Like Michael Douglas in that Falling Down film.
Especially if you need to be somewhere and there's no other reason for being stuck for ages.

trixie123 · 04/05/2010 13:27

queenclarion it does seem a shame that we are now so fearful or each other that we dare'nt raise any kind of objection when someone behaves badly or does something inconsiderate. If more people did raise polite but firm objections to this sort of "low level" poor behaviour maybe there would be less of it (and that applies to tackling teenagers as well - though I'll let you off the hook on that if you are in certain areas of the country where there are real and very present concerns about violent retaliation)!

no flame, just a small scorch maybe ;)

EndangeredSpecies · 04/05/2010 13:55

Was really to read this. I cannot imagine anything of the kind happening in my lovely little village school.

Unfortunately Queenclarion, if nobody stands up to them, the ignorant car-punching twats of this world will take over.

IIWY I'd get on the school's case OP, I hope they do something to stop this from happening again.

RunawayWife · 04/05/2010 14:08

Wow what a dick head, (him not you)

Paarents who park outside the school have small brains and fat arses

RatherBeOnThePiste · 04/05/2010 14:18

This topic comes up time and again - we have parents who park on the zig zag lines outside school and genuinely do not care. I spoke to the police who said it is a country wide problem and they cannot be outside every school at the start and end of the day.

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRR

EndangeredSpecies · 04/05/2010 14:19

Hang on a sec RW. Surely you mean people who block the road outside the school. I park outside the school every day. My brain may be small but my arse is definitely not fat

RunawayWife · 04/05/2010 14:28

We have no parking lines outside the school it is in a narrow little road, (the road is only there as entrance to the school and a plumbing shop) and people (the same people) park there time and time again, they block the road, they try 3 point turns where there is no room to do them, they back in to the plumbers it is bedlam, The head went and asked them nicely please do not park here and got told to fuck off!!!!

It is illegal to park there but the same people do day after day, and trust me it is the ones who could do with a bit of exorcise that are the worst offenders

Piffpaffpoff · 04/05/2010 14:30

Right, I am going to rant. This is not just a school parking problem, it is a whole cultural problem now that we have so many people who think that rules just do not apply to them. And they are teaching their children the same, and that the way to deal with people who question this lack of respect is to be aggressive and intimidating. And those of us who are trying to teach our children respect and politeness struggle to do so because they see all these other muppets doing what they like regardless and so think why should they? But what can you do?

Sorry, rant over. (piffpaffpoff goes for a quiet lie down in a dark room....)

ilovecanada · 04/05/2010 14:32

We have this at our school. We have a long driveway that goes around the back of the school to the carpark (plenty big enough for everyone to use) and a selection of stupid parents INSIST on parking ON THE DOUBLE YELLOWED DRIVEWAY for upto half an hour at a time. Numerous letters have gone home to the school asking people NOT to do this as emergency vehicles wouldn't be able to get through and there is a risk to the children stepping out from inbetween cars on the driveway but it makes no difference, they do it anyway.
They're either really, really thick or complete twats.

RunawayWife · 04/05/2010 14:37

Ilove, we have the same fat lazy parents park day after day half hour before school ends, do these people have no life that they can sit outside a school for 2 and a half hours a week?

mrswillscheuster · 04/05/2010 14:48

we did have some luck with the police coming and talking and giving fines to parents parking on yellow zigzags ( slightly different situation i know).... but we are in quite a low crime area
i just wanted to say well done for having the guts to stand up to him. If more people did then maybe he would think twice about being so inconsiderate

giveitago · 04/05/2010 15:58

Oh blimey - that's bad. I live v. near a school my child will attend and every bloody day we have parents cutting through, walking past, waking up dh (who works shifts) parking in the flats' car park - residents are every day blocked in or blocked out. In fact this morning dh quickly popped out came back - parking taken up by the parents, so parked outside a bit snug and was partly overhanging across the entrance but allowing full access. He got a parking ticket - the attendant clearly thought he wasn't allowing enough space for the parents to get in and out.

You got to say something - but expect the response to be nice though.

CheekyVimtoGal · 04/05/2010 15:59

Wow! i bet his children are a delight with a father figure like that bringing them up.

spookycharlotte121 · 04/05/2010 16:03

my kids are preschool but we live opposite a school and the parking is a joke. I get so angry that one parent puts their convenience before the safety of the general public. Im constantly contacting the school with reg numbers but they dont seem to give a monkeys.... really looking forward to sending my kdis there in a few years time

ProfYaffle · 04/05/2010 16:07

Sorry but lol @ "the ones who could do with a bit of exorcise". I suspect demonic possession is responsible for many cases of inconsiderate parking.

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