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to be so cross at parents' parking at school?

40 replies

deaddei · 04/05/2010 11:46

We are very fortunate to have a drive through drop off area in front of school- no parking and take your child in, just pull in, chuck child out, and off you go.
This morning there were 5 cars parked- parents had taken dcs in to school- and one arse of a dad who pulled in to do the same, blocking off anyone else going through (unless they mounted the kerb on the other side)
I wound my window down as I squeezed by, and said that it was drop off only.
He ran round to my open window, shoved his head through and told me to mind my f*ing business, he would do what he wanted and then punched side of car.
I quickly wound up window (sadly he'd removed his head) and drove off- have called the school and they've said they'll have people outside tomorrow.
It's so unfair and selfish- eventually the school will stop parents doing this at all and it is very handy.

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pagwatch · 04/05/2010 16:14

what pisses me off is that DD and I walk to school every day and she will be able to walk alone when she is big enough.

This will be much later than I would like as the parking near the school by parents is so fucking awful that the roads become a lottery. Parents mount kerbs inches from us, screech across the road if they spot a space, drive too fast and generally get possesed by the Evil God Of Get Out Of My Way.

Some parents are on short time frames - other kids to drop, work to get too etc etc. And some make a huge effort to drive carefully and park considerately.
But a sizeable ppn really are just fat, lazy, inconsiderate fuckers.

RatherBeOnThePiste · 04/05/2010 16:19

Pag, I think our DC must be at the same school. What I don't get is that to get into DS's school children practically need to live in the playground as it is so oversubscribed. Why then is there a need to drive?

giveitago · 04/05/2010 16:20

Spooky - your in my situation then - I just had a run in with one parent who suggested they were on the pta so I'd better watch out!

I don't want to lose my rights as a resident just because my kid will attend a school.

Have to say, and no, offence, I'm glad it's not only me.

deaddei · 04/05/2010 18:03

Queenclarion -I have to disagree with you and go with trixie 123.
It's all this low level annoying flouting of rules which annoys me- and children see it and they don't care either.
I bollocked 2 youths in Tesco a few weeks ago for being rude and obnoxious and they left the store [wink0
Now obviously I don't want to get punched in the face, but I believe standing up to people sometimes has to be done. If we don't do it- who will?
Car punching twat- sums him up.
No idea who he is...I'm sure he's slagging me off to his wife as we speak

I'm available for general bouncing activities if anyone requires a doorman

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Summer76 · 05/05/2010 13:07

I live in a cul de sac next to a primary school. Probably enough said.

My main issue is that the Local Authority decided to amlgamate two small primaries, sounds reasonable so far. To achieve this end they knocked down a ten year old school, built a new school in the playing field and sold off the 150 year old school for building.

The builders have gone bust, the new unfinished estate is not safe and the only way to the huts used by children guides/ Scouts is through a walkway now built by volunteers through the housing development. The Council have taken no responsibilty.

The new school is 4 times the size, the council refused to build a turning circle, because it was against their enviromental policy- give me strength. The school, is on a single carriage way very busy A Road.

The council decided that the way to resolve this was put double yellow lines in all the neighbouring streets, including mine, so now we can't park outside our house for fear of getting a ticket, but the parents can park there and drive off should they see a parking attendeant.

The head teacher is sympthathetic, but powerless, it is a nice area, but the worst performing school, with a falling birth rate. So the new enlarged school is filled by children driven in by their parents. Who do swear and are abusive.

However as a parent my main fear is that one of the children will be killed, due to careless driving, mouting kerbs, sitting in cars instead of collecting childen.

As a previously working mum, I used to park in a church car park and walk a little further to my childrens school.

I think poor planning and busy lives combine into a selfish mentality. Which is sad, this combined with politicians who live from election to election causes me to despair.

What is wrong with common sense and courtesy.

Parents work and need to be able to drop their children off safely.

Householders and other communters do not wnat to be abused, inconveinienced or harrased.

It is rude to block someones drive,
it is ridculous to block a road by parking adjacent to another parked car,
it is silly to park opposite a drive so the householder cannot reverse out,
no matter how late you are it is not acceptable to mount the pavement at speed, It is not acceptable to send your mum aunty gradma etc to get a good spot and arrive 30 mins or more early and block entire roads.

It is never reasonble to verbally abuse people who politely object to your behavior.

It is not as most parents/ police say only 15 mins twice a day. To be honest if that is the 15 mins when you would like to arrive or leave your home, it is a problem.

It is unforgiveable to abuse and malign, householders, older people, teachers and parking attendants who attempt to install order.

I have seen it all, I have even had to intervene as my 95 year old neighbour was told she shouldnt have bought a house near a F* school. As she waited for transport for an appointment. The fact the school wasnt built when the houses were seems to have escaped the chain smoking abusive parent.

On the other hand, these parents on whole do look normal, I wonder if they go home and are embarrased at their behavouir. If they realise the impact on the householders, if they ever put themselves in the householders place.

It is also ridiculous that child safety is compromised by poor planning stupid political decisions and rushed parenting.

My plea is that parents should have a safe haven to drop off their children. They may have to walk a little further. However it would make life safer for our children and less stressful for all.

If only mums were in charge!

stickylittlefingers · 05/05/2010 13:14

sounds like a miserable situation, and not totally disimilar to dd1's school. We live really close to it, so I would be smuggy mcsmuggins to point out that we walk to school, but it is a worry the mad way some parents drive/park. The school is always sending letters home about it, but (obviously) that doesn't do anything.

You have my sympathy!

stickylittlefingers · 05/05/2010 13:18

also - re saying your piece. I don't gon in meaning to - but once filled with the Righteous Indigation - I tend to go a bit Wat Tyler...

But hey, I may well have a pointless vote in this election. I have to get my voice heard some time!

sarah293 · 05/05/2010 13:35

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fernie3 · 05/05/2010 13:45

It is awful outside my daughters school. There is a bus stop outside which people seem to think they can park in making buses stop in the middle of the road to let people on and off. Also not long ago we were walking along the pavement and a car drove very fast up onto the pavement to park missing my 5 year old by inches (the car was a high one I am assuming they didnt see her). They took one look at my face and drove off - no apology, no comment just drove off. Drives me mad.
Blocking pavements as well so you cant push pushchairs past and have to go out into the road to go around grrrrr.

I KNOW some people cant walk to the school because of distance but to be fair most can. We walk its not that far, I manage it pregnant my three year old manages and yet the people next door drive everyday even in mid summer to pick up much older children at the same school.

EcoLady · 05/05/2010 15:33

Could you suggest to school that they get some stickers done, to put on the offenders' car windows, reminding them that the zobne is for dropping off only?

sarah293 · 05/05/2010 16:17

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Lizcat · 05/05/2010 16:26

It's not just a primary problem. My business is close to a very popular over subscribed senior school which no child lives more than 1 mile from the school. Between 3pm and 3.30pm we are prisoners in our own car park so much so that we no longer book clients for these times.

biddysmama · 05/05/2010 16:29

sudocrem is better than shaving foam

donkeyderby · 05/05/2010 16:30

The same zig-zag/double parking happens twice daily outside DS's school despite reminders from the school about the dangers to the children's lives. Even the Head Teacher was attacked by a parent because she asked him not to park - I think it was limited to verbal abuse.

The parking attendants - ever zealous round the corner in the pay-and-display parking where money can be made for transgressions - saunter up about once a term to sort out the double parkers.

Some just don't care and while the law and the local authorities don't care enough to do something about it, they will be allowed to continue.

Cogitoergosum · 05/05/2010 16:36

Blimey Lizcat, round here it's social suicide for a kid to be seen being taken or picked up from school once they're in secondary!

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