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SELFISH PARENTS

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shellio · 03/05/2010 00:24

What the hell are parents thinking bringing toddlers/under fives to the cinema to see films meant for adults??? I am disgusted at seeing these poor children dragged along with their selfish parents to see films that are so obviously not meant for their age group. Not to mention the racket they make! Any wonder kids are messed up these days.

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Choconellie · 03/05/2010 14:31

YABU !!!!
"Films meant for adults"??? Up until you said it was a film about a comic book character, I almost saw your point.
But come on, you can't expect to go to a cinema knowing that children will be there and then complain about them making a noise.
It's like trying to get a nice quiet bite to eat in McDonalds without being disturbed by the sounds of children.
If you don't like to hear children then go at a later time.

notyummy · 03/05/2010 14:33

I don't think I would sit through a whole film to decide whether it is suitable for my child (and then presumably have to sit through it again when you take said child....at £8 a ticket?!) I would look at reviews etc and decide whether it is suitable for a child. It does depend on the child. If it is a 12A then the Film Baord (who include psychologists) have decided that it is suitable for children to see with adults present. There is obviously a big difference between a 10 year old child going to see Lord of the Rings with a parent, and a 3 year old. There has to be a certain amount of parental judgement, and unfortunately some people are obviously foolish enough (or want to avoid paying a babysitter..) to take very little children that is more suited to a more 9/1- year old.

overmydeadbody · 03/05/2010 14:35

YABU

Why? Because you are being just as selfish as them. Why should other people not be selfish about when they go to the cinema and with who they go with when you sre allowed to be?

It's rated 12A, if you go early in the day you should expect there to be young children there.

Bonsoir · 03/05/2010 14:39

My DD saw Iron Man when she was 3.6, and adored it. We will be off to see Iron Man 2 just as soon as we can (she is 5.6 now).

She is quite, quite able to sit through a film without making a disturbance of any kind.

cory · 03/05/2010 14:54

Different children are frightened by different things anyway, which makes it virtually impossible to decide what is unsuitable for all children.

Ds at age 6 was totally unfazed by Lord of the Rings and generally speaking could cope with any number of monsters and aliens, because he knew very early on that those things are not real, but would be reduced to tears and nightmares by the mildest family comedy featuring families arguing or being unfriendly to each other- because that was real and only real things were scary to him.

Dd otoh could be totally callous in the face of human strife, but, even in her preteens would have nightmares from anything featuring ghosts; even kiddie cartoons were a bit too much for her.

I was frightened by skeletons (even in the most harmless and erudite of contexts) but could cope with other stuff that most people would consider far more scary.

thesecondcoming · 03/05/2010 14:54

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runnybottom · 03/05/2010 16:56

not exactly the same thing is it, babies in wine bars and kids at a kids movie?

drinkyourmilk · 03/05/2010 17:04

I went to see the orphan when it cameout and there was a child of about 9 sat there! I complained to the assistant taking tickets and he told me that it is legal for anyone, regardless of age, to see any film when accompanied by a responsible adult (child was there with parents). I was gobsmacked!! In fact - think i'll go see if i can find any legislation.

LynetteScavo · 03/05/2010 17:15

You see...people are relying on the nanny state if it's a 12A, then it's obviously fine for any child, as long as they are with an adult.

I wouldn't take my child...but hey, I'm old fashioned.

runnybottom · 03/05/2010 17:19

Or maybe they are as intelligent as you, and have checked it out, making an informed decision that its ok for their child?

Shodan · 03/05/2010 17:28

I have no problem with young children being taken to see Ironman 2.

What I do object to, however, is when those children are allowed to keep getting up and down, leave the cinema, slam the door, come back in, slam the door, gossip, cry, whinge and generally behave in a way that disturbs other cinema-goers.

Not that this happened only the other day. Oh no.

Miggsie · 03/05/2010 17:35

I saw Lord of the Rings and there was someone there with a tiny baby and kids ranging from 4-12.

That is selfish, the baby would have been trashed by the amount of noise (cinemas are too loud for young children as most films these days come in at at least 90-100dB.

Young kids lost interest half way through and the parents had to go out about 5 times for various loo breaks with all the kids at some point or another.

I don't go to the cinema any more.

CaveMum · 03/05/2010 17:59

I agree that it is all down to the individual child.

I remember my mum telling me she had to tale me out of the cinema when I was about 4 or 5 becasue I was crying. The scary film we'd gone to see? Disney's Cinderella! Apparantely the ugly sisters scared me!

I might add this was NOT the original release of the film but a re-release in the 80s!

Some children are more sensitive than others, I was one of them!

I do object to children under the age of 15/18 watching these certificate films though. I remember being at school aged about 12 and one friend telling me she had watched The Exorcist and hadn't been able to sleep alone for a week!

MadamDeathstare · 03/05/2010 20:43

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shellio · 04/05/2010 00:08

These posts are all very interesting! Some people would let their kids watch ANYTHING by the looks of it. When the tiny little boy in the same row as me at the cinema asked his mum about the man biting the other mans ear off i felt sick. I love my children and that is why i did not bring them with me. I would not have gone to the cinema if i could not have had my kids minded. Simple as that! I stick to my guns, parents who bring small kids to these films are selfish! Why bother having children if you are only concerned about your own needs/wants?

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runnybottom · 04/05/2010 00:11

Fucking hell, judgy much?

Heres a tip love, if you don't want kids in the cinema, don't go to a kids movie.

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shellio · 04/05/2010 00:19

Yeah kids maybe but not 3year olds!!!!!

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shellio · 04/05/2010 17:18

Actually i didnt go to see a "kids movie". Kids movies are rated PG. The film i am talking about was not rated PG.

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MillyR · 04/05/2010 17:37

If a 12A is generally considered to be unsuitable for young children, they put an additional warning on - saying that is likely to be unsuitable for under eights. This is what they did with the Lord of the Rings films.

As far as I know there is no such additional warning on Iron Man. There are obviously going to be lots of children at a film about a comic book character, especially one where that has many marketed toys. A demand to keep kids out of the cinema is more about the problem of kidults and people's desire to watch gratuitous violence.

That said, if a child cannot sit through a fill without disturbing people then they shouldn't be taken to a cinema to see any film.

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shellio · 04/05/2010 17:52

Yes i agree with what you are saying but its ultimately up to parents to say no and use their brains to know what is unsuitable for their childs age. That said in my recent experience it was the parents who wanted to see the film not the kids. One little boy was saying "is the film over?" on a loop for ages to his parents.

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runnybottom · 04/05/2010 18:45

Ironman is hardly an adults movie is it? Its a comic book movie with a million toys and related shit, did you not use your brain to realise there would be children there?

Either way you are being a superior judgypants, and bloody rude with it.

nancydrewrocks · 04/05/2010 19:02

Is it a kids movie though? I don't know but I think the argument that it is based on a comic book is besides to point - I believe the comics are similar in content to wolverine (which DS 4 loves in cartoon format) but I was horrified when he was (innnocently) bought a wolverine comic book which contains such graffic violence (dog butchered/woman sexually assualted/man having brains blown out) I was !

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shellio · 04/05/2010 21:37

Im afraid runnybottom you are talking out of your runnybottom [and your brain seems to be in there too]. YOU are accusing ME of being rude ha thats funny! Anyway, nancydrewrocks you understand what i mean.There is a huge difference between a Marvel comic and a cbeebies comic! Some posters here get my point,some i.e runnyarse dont.

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fernie3 · 04/05/2010 21:47

Its different if a child is upset by a film - then yes obviously he/she should be taken out. Having said that alot of children wouldnt be scared by iron man at age 3 or 5 or whatever. It isnt a horror film.

GetOrfMoiLand · 04/05/2010 21:51

Mumsnetters - please note that the OP is far superior to all us dullards and neglectful slatterns. I think we should all stop taking the piss and bow down to her higher authority and wisdom in parenting.

So, let's gather around and listen to more of Shellio's priceless and calmly delivered advice.