I have exams next Wednesday and the Wednesday after. I have asked DH to please help as much he can - just for the next 10 days by keeping the housework ticking over and taking over the kids so I can study. Just for 10 days.
Am so, so stressed, these exams are huge - first in Constitutional Law (massive) and second in Contract Law (not as bad). He is fully aware how stressed I am.
Im on maternity leave and ds is 13 weeks old. I understand that Im "off" work and dh is working every day but (and he often and openly admits himself) has a very cushy number (deemed as a full time job but works on average 20 hours a week - in at 9.45am, home at 2pm most days).
He does, in fairness gig the odd night in pubs etc for extra money. Its about 4 hours one night every other week and I appreciate it (although he enjoys it, he says).
We do now and have always split childcare down the middle between us - night feeds etc although, things like baths/ washing clothes/ cutting nails dont occur to dh.
Despite being quite sick after birth of ds (post partum haemorrage at 8 weeks and infection to the lining of my womb) I have kept this house spotless, washing up to date, dinner on table etc.. (Im not looking for a medal for this - I understand this is what Im supposed to be doing but am doing alot more than I would have when I was out at work - e.g. dh would do all cooking). It seems hes taking the complete piss now though - the more I do, the less he does - he wont even pick his dirty socks off the damn floor. Have also 4 year old dd and new baby to look after and have kept all college work up to date at night (assignments etc..).
I am wrecked. I am so tired I could cry. DH took a notion when ds was born to take up rugby - two nights a week and most Sundays for a match (including mother's day I might add ). He has also started going to an music practice thing (just for recreation) one night a week.
I honestly wouldnt mind any of this, as Im at home anyway and he is working but its all leaving me so little time for study. Im exhausted by the time I sit down every evening and have had essays etc.. to write in the last few weeks.
Started study Friday gone - dh was supposed to take over housework. Loaded dishwasher twice and wiped down counters. Today - house a total fucking mess. Have 2 subjects studied - 5 to go before Tuesday night - he knows this. In fairness he had to go to work for a couple of hours today, my mother, who lives next door kindly offered to take kids for a couple of hourse but house was so bad I had to spend 4 straight hours cleaning and sat down to study at 5.30 just as kids arrived in. DS was up all last night - I asked dh to please take him at one stage because I needed a fresh head in the morning (today) for study - told me he couldnt as he had being gigging and was working today so needed sleep (he had to be in at 1.30pm for 3 hours).
I cooked dinner when he came in, asked him if he would clean up after dinner - no problem. Hes gone out tonight now. I've just cleaned up all the dinner dishes and kitchen. I will now, of course, have to get up with ds again tonight as obviously, dh will be drinking and wouldnt be capable.
Am also thinking hes going to be hungover all day tomorrow and completely useless to me (hes off til Wednesday).
I am fuming but unsure if Im out of order - any opinions?