...to think the mum on Embarrassing Bodies should have

[Ladyanonymous]

...done something about her daughters nits before now?!

Good grief?!

Or am I being judgy?....

Just read about shaving heads- bloody hell. I really wouldnt want any children to be stigmatised, but I just dont get why schools cant approach parents in a sympathetic and subtle manner and get it sorted out.

Oh dear Lord.

Dear dear Lord.

My daughters friends mum shaved her head just before the six week term because she couldnt be bothered to deal with it. The fact that it was spotted 3 weeks before, made my jaw drop.

The poor child scratched for weeks and came back after 6 weeks, with a scarf covering her head!

I've got this show on v+, so i'll be watching it tomorrow

In my humble opinion, as JJJ said, its neglect, not just lazy parenting.

We had a family like this in DCs school. Everybody knew the kids had them. Other kids could be really nasty about it, although in this case, the infested kids were quite nasty in there own right.

The school was working very hard with this family, they got them involved on a Webster Stratton course, and offered all kinds of support. I wouldnt be surprised if the school welfare officer had actually been round to the house with nit lotion in hand personally. Unfortunatly, with this family, and a lot of others like them, Head Lice are way down the list of priortiies for them and the school.

Um, what's wrong with the phrase "lazy parenting"? Or has parenting come to mean something different? Why do you prefer "lazy mother" - are fathers exempt?

The most unreasonable thing about this programme is that it always seems to be aired when I've sat down to eat.

their was a family in dc school who would regularly infect the rest of the class with nits. It only got better when the children went into long term foster care as the parents could'nt cope

My sister worked in an eastend school and shaving the head for lice was the standard procedure in some cultures.

I always seem to watch that at dinner time. WHY????? not as bad as anal fissure episode

ref nits, I am guessing she did try?

it's trite and cliched and very Daily Mail, that's all, so sniffy and judgemental and meaningless but increasingly used on MN. it's like our own little buzz phrase and makes me laugh as an expression, because in itself it's rather lazy and unimaginative iykwim? and 'parenting' is ghastly as well, so american and therapised.

not that i said i preferred lazy mother in any case... anyway it's clear that it's downright neglectful to leave your child infested for four years, lazy hardly covers it.

and doing the DM quote isn't trite and cliched as well as very childish and boring.

There was a girl this bad in dd's class. One of dd's good friends in fact. The other children didn't want to sit near her on the carpet as her hair was literally moving with them.

We would get general letters and then she would get a specific letter and and sometimes she would use hedrin [once came to school with it still on] and it would improve for a bit but then go back to how it was.

I talked to her about it several times, epecially when she [rarely] came to tea. She said she wouldn't LET her comb her hair properly and they didn't like to use 'stuff'.

She has moved now and we haven't had nits since.

I know one other family with permanits and again, the kids won't 'let them' comb properly.

oh man, that waqs horrid. just watched it on 4od. when they combed through and the comb was full of eggs i almost puked.

poor girl and at her mother.

doing the dm quote? you mean saying it's so dm? well, it's a shorthand i'll grant you, possibly on its way to becoming cliche. mine was just an offhand comment, tbh, i don't think i expected such a weird reaction from caininthepunt, who for some reason thought i was saying to her directly that she reads the daily mail.

maybe i'm just speaking to the wrong audience choir here, given that this whole thread is a big ol' judgefest, it does inspire sniffy, tropey cliche from the kneejerk type. but 'lazy parenting' will always make me laugh, i'm afraid, because it's such lazy writing.

it is judgey really

but hard not to when the girl said she was bullied for it and it can be sorted out with persistance.

One comb through was thick with eggs and there were the recently deceased in her hood. Imagine
carrying little corpses around on your shoulders. Shudder. Poor thing.

I thought she had lovely hair too. When it was all clean it was glossy and shiny and a such a nice colour.

"lazy parenting" is a pretty accurate description of letting a child get totally infested with nits.

really? i think it sounds like outright neglect, tbh, and the woman should have been reported to SS for investigation. plus, as i've explained, it's the kneejerk quip of 'lazy parenting' that makes me lol. where did the expression gain currency?

I'm afraid I think you are the one being judgey here Aitch.

I realise you picked the fight because you dislike my choice of username but to carry it on and insult all the other posters on this thread in an effort to justify your comment is really quite petty.

I think "neglect" is a bit dramatic for a nit infestation that was known to the parent, who then failed to deal with it. "Neglect" is more descriptive of total failure to parent. Though of course we are in the field of semantics here...

A child in my DD's class has had repeated nit infestations and is generally dirty and visibly less well cared for than her peers. I still think it is lazy parenting rather than neglect.

truly, 100%, on my life, cain, i didn't pick a fight with you, lol, you weren't even the only person to use the lazy, unimaginative, kneejerk phrase... so nothing to do with your revolting name, i assure you. but in retrospect, odd that you are so thin-skinned and can't take a bit of fun poking, i think, considering the big front of a cunt name.

and i definitely think that four years of non-treatment for nits is neglect, absolutely. surely it is? she must have been driving the school and other parents and kids absolutely mad, through no fault of her own.

Poor kid! Bad enough being the source of the entire class's nits, but to have your mum parade you on national TV because she can't be arsed to treat them properly for four years?

'won't let me comb them'.

Oh, bullshit! Just too lazy to do your job, lady! You're the boss, not her.

If the little girl had been infested for four years surely she'd have had open wounds from all the scratching?

I suspect mum was told to leave well alone after she applied to the show so as to make good telly..

AIBU to think aitch is getting more stick for daring to cite the phrase 'lazy parenting' than the 'lazy parents' get for allowing their child to get to think point and not dealing with the ' she won't let me comb' issue??

Zoo i agree she doesn't seem to have sores as you'd expect if shes been itching for 4 yrs but perhaps she just keeps getting them or doesn't sctratch too much as shes use to it.

None of us know the parents or situation but it does seem a bit off to allow your child to get like that.