to expect DH to occasionally get up with DS in the week?

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DS has recently started waking at 630 am again, after a long stretch of 7/730, or even 8 (yes I know we were spoilt!) I am a mostly SAHM and my DH works full time. This morning I suggested that perhaps he would get up as I was knackered. It did not go down well! - as I don't have to "sit in an office all day and concentrate" In the morning my DH does not need to get up until 8am, so I have had an hour and half of my day before he surfaces. He seems to feel all he needs to do in the morning is get up, shower, dress, breakfast and out - with a quick goodbye to us.

Generally I just put up with this and he does always get up one day of the weekend and is a good dad. However, AIBU - do other people just accept that the morning it is easier to do it yourself? I would not expect him to get up often. In fact this morning DS cried until he came in to me anyway as I always get him up! Just like to know that it was a reasonable request.

YANBU. I work part-time, dh is full-time. We have a rule - if the kids wake in the night, I am the one to get up and settle them. But he is the one to get up with them when they wake at 6am. It works for us. We are usually asleep by 10.30pm though! If I was you, I'd try and negotiate a rule like this - then it becomes embedded in daily life. Maybe start with him getting up one morning a week?

fair enough i read it as only dd at school.yes 22mth is demanding and hard work.that is along day.but still dont think he should get up 630

I don't understand why some DHs get the option to be parents, just because they work!
My lovely DH works full time in a stressful job. I am a student and a SAHM. DH is up every morning with our two who get up at 6 (he doesn't need to leave for work til 8), because he doesn't see them all day. He feeds them, has a play, so I can get ready for my day, and by the time I roll downstairs, they are fed and happy. We alternate lie ins on weekends...and though I go to bed early, too...I often use my 'lie in' time to read or just have a lazy morning. YADNBU...just because he works full time doesn't mean he can't get up a few mornings a week to spend with his DC.

YANBU, i don't see why he can't get up a bit earlier so you can shower etc. Could he not do breakfast time with DS while you get yourself ready?

I'm lucky in that DP has always realised that a long day looking after DS is just as strenuous as his 8 hour day in the office. (and it usually starts at 7am and finishes at 7pm at BEST, so bloody long day with no break at all).

Obviously depends on what job someone is doing.

But I can tell you that my job (office, mainly at desk) much easier than days at home with 2yo and 3yo who do not nap. At work I get tea break, get to have conversations with people (not just about work) and go to the toilet without needing to take anyone with me

Like what LG is saying about equal free time, that's absolutely it. Being a SAHP doesn't mean you are on duty 24/7 surely?

Interesting replies everyone - thanks. Can I just say again - that I am not really complaining that 630 is too early (my DS used to wake anytime from 430 ish when younger) - just that having an hour and a half entertaining DS and doing jobs etc round the house whilst he sleeps is annoying!

Also - some people are assuming that being a SAHM is always a choice. I do work (only a few hours a week) and would like to do a little more but due to recent move have not found a job yet. I love being at home with DS but like the adult company and brain work of work too.

Neither of us our morning people unfortunately. I do all the night time get ups (not that we tend to get them) as I know he needs to concentrate more than me at work.

He does play and bath DS in the evenings when he can and I put him to bed (DS that is - not DH!) so that is great. We take it in turns at the weekend to get up. Overall it tends to work. Just feeling tired and pissed off this morning when I posted; but it is interesting to hear how other families function and your opinions - so thanks.