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Original poster

Oops. SIL deleted me as a friend from FB.

37 replies

ItsGrimUpNorth · 26/04/2010 22:39

She said in her status that she thought the Catholic church has finally lost the plot asking for CRB checks on all parents who bring other people's children to church etc.

I responded saying only now has the Catholic church lost the plot after decades of shielding paedophile priests?

She's deleted both dh and I. Oh dear. She's a Catholic, more observant just now so her kids can go to a good Catholic school for which I don't blame her at all. I'd do the same.

Is she bu or am I?

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Hassled · 26/04/2010 22:43

Well a) you're right, but b) you're not being particularly respectful to her faith. So you'll have to agree to differ.

A proper conversation would be better than all this FB stuff, though.

SugarMousePink · 26/04/2010 22:44

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lifesucks · 26/04/2010 22:46

i think she is bu and very petty.

WinkyWinkola · 26/04/2010 22:47

What a silly, petty woman.

If rabbis has been doing as the Vatican had, I'd leave the faith. I swear.

Mind you, what else is going on? Do you get on as a rule?

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 26/04/2010 22:47

truth hurts.

MilaMae · 26/04/2010 22:49

Err no she is, you asked a perfectly valid question.

Ignoring the truth and questions(as she is doing) is exactly why so many children (who could have been saved from such an ordeal) ended up being abused.

She sounds like a nutter to be frank.

rlp · 26/04/2010 22:49

She is being oversensitive, it is different to unreasonable. Hopefully it will blow over. Casual comments can be taken the wrong way and are more dangerous when written down!

runnybottom · 26/04/2010 22:50

You both are.

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ItsGrimUpNorth · 26/04/2010 22:54

How, runny? Tell me because I don't get it.

This current issue with the Catholic church is incredible and to be offended by someone bringing it up (after she brought it up in the FB medium) amazes me. It makes me think she's been itching to delete for a while. Obviously the delete isn't the problem. It's the wider family thing.

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JaneS · 26/04/2010 22:56

I think she is being more unreasonable than you.

In the sixteenth century, the Catholic Church ordered that paedophile priests should be controlled/defrocked. It's a shame it's taken so long.

runnybottom · 26/04/2010 23:04

IMO, she shouldn't have put it up there if she didn't want comments, and I think you probably knew what her reaction would be, so were BU to comment like that. Unless you wanted to provoke a reaction.
Either its not important to you and you should have left it, or it is important and you should have an actual conversation about it. Either way, sparring publicly on FB- both BU.

realfreedom · 26/04/2010 23:16

She is BU, and petty as well.

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ItsGrimUpNorth · 26/04/2010 23:25

But to provoke a reaction? That would mean she agreed with the Catholic church shielding paedophile priests. She can't agree with that surely?

Especially if she thinks crb checks on parents are madness when it's the priests within their own ranks they need to be looking out for.

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PhoenixRising · 26/04/2010 23:25

You have a point of course - but to me (as an agnostic with no axe to grind) your comment sounded as if it was designed to provoke and I wondered what motivated you to be so ...errr, 'forthright'?. In her situation I would have been peturbed.....

Linziwam · 26/04/2010 23:25

Have you spoken to her face to face? I only wonder as you said she was a little more practising lately because of the school thing. It may be that shes not that upset but there are people from her church/prefered school on fbook that she is worried about offending?
if this isnt the case then she is BU i think.

PhoenixRising · 26/04/2010 23:26

For the record - I don't agree with her sentiments though. I all for CRB checks as a necessary step in child protection

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ItsGrimUpNorth · 26/04/2010 23:30

Yes, there are people perhaps on her friends list she might have been worried would be offended. Then just delete my comment and message me why, surely?

Never mind. I'll just carry on as normal.

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PhoenixRising · 26/04/2010 23:49

So do you not think that perhaps your comment could be construed by her as attacking her personal beliefs, and thus quite needlessly aggressive?

KerryMumbles · 26/04/2010 23:51

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Heracles · 27/04/2010 00:32

Fairly classic stuff: posting a contentious opinion on a public forum then wetting your knickers when someone disagrees.

Ah well, she has to forgive you, it's in that book they read, isn't it...?

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ItsGrimUpNorth · 27/04/2010 07:06

Attacking her personal beliefs? Not unless her personal belief is the paedophile priests are ok. I said nothing about her religion or her faith.

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PhoenixRising · 27/04/2010 11:22

I think you are being obtuse....if I were her I'd drop you like a stone

SugarMousePink · 27/04/2010 11:49

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Pikelit · 27/04/2010 11:55

What I find most hilarious is the way that Facebook - of all things! - is being considered a serious arena for moral outrage.

SIL is clearly v.silly. But then you'd all do better holding these enjoyable, theological discussions in RL. Or not, of course, because in RL we tend to have a better grasp of cause and effect.

warthog · 27/04/2010 11:58

she is bu.

if she's prepared to slate the catholics on her status, she should expect others to as well.

and it's not as if you were making it up, or exaggerating.

they have a lot to answer for. in fact i'm getting pissed off just thinking about it.