Oops. SIL deleted me as a friend from FB.

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She said in her status that she thought the Catholic church has finally lost the plot asking for CRB checks on all parents who bring other people's children to church etc.

I responded saying only now has the Catholic church lost the plot after decades of shielding paedophile priests?

She's deleted both dh and I. Oh dear. She's a Catholic, more observant just now so her kids can go to a good Catholic school for which I don't blame her at all. I'd do the same.

Is she bu or am I?

and sparing others feelings - was she?????????

not saying that we should all just do what we want, but the op certainly has a right to say what she did.

She shouldn't have put it on her status update if she didn't want to discuss it. Status updates have a big space for comment or like or dislike button. Erm, someone commented. And she beefs?

Someone has made daft comments on my status updates before. I just delete them.

She's being a goon. Hope it doesn't affect wider relations. Does she have children?

in some families, such forthright banter is normal - and she would have been unreasonable to delete you if this was the case. In others, polite observance of social norms is more it , in which case you'd have BU for not respecting that.

I think you're BU. You have to appreciate that when the phrase 'Catholic Church' is used many Catholics think of themselves as the 'Catholic Church' not just some distant figures in Rome.

Many Catholics are very sensitive about these issues at the moment as there seems to have been a massive increase in catholic bashing. I know that the Muslims wouldnt put up with it and it wouldnt be acceptable to openly slag off the jews but somehow it's ok to bash catholics.

Hardly surprising that a religion where priests can't marry attracts sick individuals who arent interested in persuing a sexual relationship with adult females. However these people are in the MINORITY.

It's really hard for Catholics who care about their church to listen to people continually chipping away-particularly when they don't feel able to put up a defense due to the horific nature of what happened to those children

There was no need for you to pass the comments that you did on her FB page.

i think yabu more than her. if you didnt like her status just ignore it, you really were very rude responding as you did and considering that she is family and would have been better to keep a good relationship you are definitely the one in the wrong

wel, I think this whole deleting people from facebook because you don't like one comment is just pathetic.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but the SIL was the one that started the anti-catholic stance with her status, op merely commented.

If you don't want negative comments, then don't write comment-provoking status updates.

She might have been asking for trouble by posting her comment, but then you didnt have to respond did you? You scored an easy point there but not good for family relations - YABU.

She is bu to block you, but I presume you knew something of her character before posting so perhaps would have expected her to be OTT.
It sounds like not talking to each other on facebook is a good thing though, I think it's best left to teenagers to discuss who they fancy, and adults are better off talking properly.
Ignore it.

Yet another reason that confirms my beliefs that you should not mix family and friends and work colleagues on Facebook. Or even not bother with Facebook at all! But that is another debate altogether

She was being incredibly obtuse by putting such a comment as her status. I mean, honestly? What did she think might happen? Everyone would just ignore it? Since when has that been how FB works?!

Having said that, since it's faaaaam'ly, you probably should have been the bigger person and just ignored it. Although I do still think SIL shouldn't have been so disingenuous as to put a status up that most people would have to sit on their hands not to respond to.

DH is Catholic and gets pretty defensive about all of this. I have, um, problems with Catholicism, so I just tell him that I can't discuss it, since I don't want to get into an argument. Peace reigns at 5Dollar Height.

"Hardly surprising that a religion where priests can't marry attracts sick individuals who arent interested in persuing a sexual relationship with adult females. However these people are in the MINORITY.

It's really hard for Catholics who care about their church to listen to people continually chipping away-particularly when they don't feel able to put up a defense due to the horific nature of what happened to those children"

A few sick individuals? A few sick individuals who were hidden, supported and reinstated by those high up in the Church so it's not just a matter of a few sick individuals at all. It's the whole lot of them, standing by and letting children be raped.

I think it's tough on Catholics right now, of course but if you don't want to talk about it, don't for god's sake post it on your FB status and then start deleting people because of responses to it.

YANBU and she sounds like a right silly mare and you're well rid. Fancy deleting you and your dh.