If your 14 yr old went for a sleepover, puked a few times, then came home and took to their bed for the next day what would you think?

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Call me suspicious but my first statement was 'Have you been drinking?'

She denys it.

DH thinks I am unreasonable and DD is far too sweet, little and innocent to do such a thing.

Ah well, either way it's not the end of the world, is it?

Just because 14yo are prone to silly experiments with alcohol doesn't mean they are any more immune to stomach bugs or food poisoning than the rest of the population. I'd give the benefit of doubt if there were no obvious telltale signs.

I would act as if you believe her, but still watch carefully. If it was an experiment with alcohol it may have put her off.
I'm not sure I'd want my DD going to a sleep over with only lax Dad in charge.

But on your DDs side, I still remember going to Bristol for a party when I was 20, drinking one Martini, and being very ill afterwards. I only discovered 6 months or so later there had been a spate of stomach upsets in the area due to slightly contaminated drinking water. I'm sure most people still think I got drunk quickly.

And Alcohol is one of those things that you sound more guilty when you deny drinking.

possibly was booze related but sure a hangover/sick will make her think again if it was

think i started drinking about 15 and got into pubs and had southern comfort/lemonade - which btw makes me heave now if i smell it, let alone drink it

and yes vodka smells, why people say it doesnt is beyond me - has a kinda bitter/pungent smell

boffy - i shall remind you of your reply when your dc are older and coming home drunk/throwing up - i expect you to be sympathetic and not emailing me saying omg they were pissed

HA - she has been drinking. Sounds like first hangover to me.

My extremely sweet & innocent & well behaved niece (aged 14) came home & went to bed one day late afternoon. Puked everywhere - passed out. My sister came home from work about 6 took her to the doctors with niece swearing she hadn't had a drink but felt dreadfully ill.

Once seen by docs she was sent to A&E - when she was eventually seen they were so concerned she was sent to specialist childrens hospital. Who ran many tests very late in the night.

8 hours after they left home the results came back - high levels of methanol in the blood.

Yep she'd been drinking alright and took the 'deny deny deny till the cow's come home' policy even in the face of all the treatments & her Mum going "just bloody tell me will you for 8 hours". She really was/is the sweetest girl.

then again, sure it could be a stomach bug - but she'd tell you if that was the case wouldn't she?

Glitterandglue - I agree with you. Why all the assumption that she has been drinking? I think it's a bit of a sad asssumption.

Imo if you stress / threaten/ act disappointed at her behaviour etc you are a 'caring parent' and someone she can complain about to her mates (and use as an excuse not to do it again).

And at least she knows what to expect of she does it / does it again.