If your 14 yr old went for a sleepover, puked a few times, then came home and took to their bed for the next day what would you think?

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Call me suspicious but my first statement was 'Have you been drinking?'

She denys it.

DH thinks I am unreasonable and DD is far too sweet, little and innocent to do such a thing.

you think Vodka doesn't smell.............maybe to you it doesn't

'Vodka doesn't smell. '

LOLOLOL

I´d probably think drink-or a mixture of cräppy food/sugary food/fizzy drinks.

How´s her head?

Im pretty sure youd smell it on her if she was being sick through drink.

I would under no circumstances suspect drink! I would think tummy bug. But dd is a total chicken so I need to hang onto that for as long as I can, because I was def. drinking when I was 14. And smoking.

No idea re teenager stuff (I was obviously really boring when that age and my dcs are much younger!). But, my dh recently had food poisoning from dodgy bought tuna sandwich. He was sick several times, about 18h after eating it, and then very sleepy for the rest of the day. Does that sound similar?

Hah, I suddenly got all zen there and thought.. "Yes. To me vodka does not smell, therefore it has no smell.".

I was drinking, smoking & clubbing at 14 My parents didn't have a clue as I always slept out.

Geek - I was doing the same - 400 miles from home...........

but my mum knew ..............but I only found that out once I was an adult and she told me that she knew what I'd been up to

So Flook - I don't think vodka has a smell either, unless you get very close and get a whiff of pure alcohol up your nose that is.

What do other people think vodka smells like?

Is there something wrong with my olfactory senses?

I would under no circumstances suspect anything other than drink.
Unless they'd nommed on undercooked prawns from the Mekong delta.
Hope she feels better soon.

Vodka stinks of alcohol, i can smell it in drinks and if someone has been drinking it. Don't need to be particularly close either.

Could they have been smoking weed?? Not everyone will puke up on that but some do ....and you cant smell it (on the sick)

id think party ! ....btw they (teenagers) are all too cute, too sweet and innocent to start with .
think its time to give cuddles, and lots of fluid...the chat about drinking/responsibilities will be better recieved when shes feeling better.

DS at 14 at school had to put themselves into groups regarding their alcohol intake They were drank alcohol regularly enough to be drunk through to never ever drunk alcohol. He was the only one in a class of 30 who had never drunk alcohol (teetotal parents so never got a chance) so think it must be pretty common to drink at 14.Now 22 he seems to be making up for the late start unfortunately

Just curious as to when you all started drinking?

I didn't even try it while at school (left at 16) but remember drinking cider while at college 16/17 and sometimes Southern Comfort.

On my 18th there were 18 lined up for me in the college bar, by friends, and I was still in college as normal the next morning, but would never describe myself as a heavy drinker... and has be months between my having anything alcoholic for the last 25 years.

Well.. At that age I went to a friends for a night, got wasted on Pernod and threw up all over my clothes which I had to take home stinking of aniseed. I blamed it on too many black jack sweets and my mum seemed to believe me!
I don't agree that she would smell of booze the next day if she was drinking the night before.

Then again of course, it could really be the tuna. Not much you can do to prove it so I wouldn't give her a hard time (not that it sounds like you are)

(18 Southern Comforts, not pints of cider)

I was nearly 16

Didn't smoke until after i left home was always accused of it, never ever forget that.

Not every word that comes out of a teens mouth is a lie, nothing made me want to smoke more than the fact i was getting the grief for it even though i wasn't.

I think I was about 13 when I first got drunk enough to puke - it only took one bottle of cider. First smoked weed when I was 14, but it was very infrequent until I was 18 - and then solidly until mid twenties when the paranoia set in.

First of all if she HAS been drinking then her punishment is the hangover. They're not the nicest things in the world. Plus it might put her off in future. (I havent and will never touch a drop of whisky since I got drunk on it 17 years ago)

However, I would take her word for it. She could have a bug from something she ate, or could just simply have a bug. I would imagine at 14 if she had of been drinking she would try to concele any sickness from you as she wouldnt want the truth to come out. Maybe at the back of your mind you may be thinking she might have, but unless you have proof there's not a lot you can really do, but to think well if it is a hangover then its her own fault.

I would ask her later how she is feeling and make out like you honestly believe she just has a bug for whatever reason. She would maybe respect you more for that.

However, she is your DD and I dont know her AT all. so you know what to do for the best.

Hope she gets well soon.

None of those hideous alcopops smell of booze though. A couple of fruity bacardi breezers might be enough to make her ill and she won't necessarily smell of booze.

I first started drinking when I was about 16. I would go out regularly and my parents knew, so all my friends slept at mine. (I told my mum so the taxi was cheaper)

Now I have the occasional night out, but cant take any more past 11 ish.

I dont smoke now, but first tried it at 14 when I used to sneak out the school gates, and find quiet spots in town on a Sat with my friends. When I started my A levels I was on about 5 a day, but when I went to Uni I went up to 20 a day at first (novelty value of smoking whenever I liked knowing I wasnt about to see my parents), but that wore down. I quit during my last year at uni in 2001 and havent touched them since. The reason why I wanted to (I remember watching Grease when I was young and wanted to when I grew up) was because it was forced down my throat about how bad it was etc.

I was drinking at 14 as well and the rebel of our little group who were all well-behaved girls who never wanted to push it as far as i did.
I would be suspicious too - but more for weed as well than the alcohol. It can make young women (especially if they don't have much meat on them) quite queasy and won't smell as much as booze will do.
I also agree with the various posters in the sense that - if she has dabbled in drinking or smoking - it's probably been her first time, she will be super-embarrassed, and it will have probably put her off it for a while!
I would drop the subject and just keep a comforting/careful eye on her for next time she comes home from staying over at friends.

Step DD (and friends) drinking from time to time at 14 & butter wouldn't melt! Fortunately not come to any harm - she's legal now. No advice but just to say I wouldn't be surprised. Its a fine line between discipline and making them all secretive but easier for me to discuss with her as not a 'parent'. DH & SDD have had a few cracking arguments over the last few years about all this- maybe I should get him on here instead. Hope your DD is feeling better soon whatever the cause.