to think that mumsnet is becoming critical rather than supportive??!!?!!!

[sparklycheerymummy]

I have watched a few threads recently and posted on a few and am shocked at how judgemental it has become...... an op starts a thread looking for support and receives a barrage of criticism........ when I started on mumsnet i was in an awful situation but got some fantastic words of support. not sure i would do now!!!!....just wondered who finds the same and want to offer a haven of non judgemental support if anyone needs it!!!! Sometimes it seems people are just using this as an avenue for saying 'do it my way i am the best'. Of course this is NOT the case on ALL threads ..... before i get jumped on.

Try looking at the threads not in AIBU, I've had loads of help here. Mainly not in AIBU

the aibu attracted all the riff raff

to be honest some of the threads lately have been pedantic,silly or just downright stupid!!!

no wonder the response you described!

perhaps ...... its not threads i have started but mainly others. especially the bf ff debates etc........ its just so harsh sometimes. i have my safe haven threads where i know i can go but feel sorry for some who look in the wrong place!!!!!

Did you read the threads with regards to SpookyCharlotte? If that's not supportive I don't know what is. 'That'is the heart of MN.

If you dont discuss threads my way you are NOT the best- end of

I think you see what you want to see on MN and in many cases it reflects your own mood, bit like that moral about the dog who goes into a house full of mirrors and thinks it is full of scary, snarling dogs as opposed to the one who sees it full of waggy, happy new friends.

mitchy..... i like that.....perhaps i am just falling upon the wrong threads. x i do love mumsnet!!

I love your name, we need all the sparkle and cheer we can get

thanks mitchy.....chuckling at your name!!!!

Mumsnet is neither critical nor supportive. It is simply a construct that allows people to come together in order to be critical or supportive as they choose.

ooh trillian that's deep

I agree you get out of MN what you want.

AIBU, BF/FF threads, etc ae to be avoided if you are feeling even slightly negative or sensitive.

I like threads with a mix of replies in terms of 'said with love' and 'now stop fucking about' harsh directness. I have started threads before and often the harsh responses are the ones I should be listening too, but the ones sending virtual choc/wine have got me through that difficult day/hour. You can get something from all responses IMO.

I love MN.

Please excuse my typos {hides from pedants}.

I don't think it's over critical and I don't think it's al cutes-wutesy either. Just the right balance, I think.

And you can choose where to go to get the response you want or need.

Just hide AIBU if you are not open to critical chat.

mmmm i do look at a lot of bf ff weaning threads i suppose.

Mitchy - thant dog thing is brilliant. I am a waggy tailed dog, me.

Sorry, I know that it is a while up this thread, but just wanted to add that!

i have had some fantastic support on MN lately & even on a AIBU thread

Me too, usually - sometimes skulk about with it curled up between my legs though. That doesn't sound quite how it's intended?

You need to move on from bf ff threads.

mn is many things to many people.there is no universal experience.so dont expect one.one cannot expect strangers to always get us.sometimes they do.sometimes they dont

and good advice re bf and ff threads they are always mental as eggs

Agree with SM. Step away from the bf ff threads. You'll go mad.

It's not changed at all.

It has always been both critical and supportive, depending on the thread

And it's always had people saying variations of "mumsnet has changed."

Nope. It hasn't. Not a bit.

Well, maybe there's a bit more text-speak.

I agree there's a place for everything.

So I can say here that your posting name is so very chirpy OP - how it brightens up our day OR I could say it's a bit too bright isn't it - couldn't you dour it down a bit?

Which one you get may well depend on which side of the bed I got out of and that's the risk and the joy of posting on a public forum.