to think that mumsnet is becoming critical rather than supportive??!!?!!!

[sparklycheerymummy]

I have watched a few threads recently and posted on a few and am shocked at how judgemental it has become...... an op starts a thread looking for support and receives a barrage of criticism........ when I started on mumsnet i was in an awful situation but got some fantastic words of support. not sure i would do now!!!!....just wondered who finds the same and want to offer a haven of non judgemental support if anyone needs it!!!! Sometimes it seems people are just using this as an avenue for saying 'do it my way i am the best'. Of course this is NOT the case on ALL threads ..... before i get jumped on.

sparklycheery - what Topics are you looking at? Behaviour and Development/Parenting/Relationships are mostly very supportive. AIBU not so much

It has always been so. Sometimes you get a good response, sometimes you don't.

Don't think it is any worse than it was before.

I think (apart from the dread ff/bf threads) there has been some rather 'playground nasty' stuff going on in the last couple of days on some threads (not just AIBU). Posters leaving etc. Hope it all dies down - have only been on here a few mths and it just made me think maybe it's not exactly the place to be - you could get less depressing 'constructs'.

people come people go.no biggie.no one on mn is indispensable.and people have been chuntering for ever "that its not not like the ole days".

there is a plethora of topics and tbh most i have never participated in but the range is good

yes it's critical more than supportive - I've read a couple of really supportive since I got here but many more critical ones

i kinda like that

I have to spend my day being sensitive and pleasant - sometimes it's nice to open the top of your head and just spew whatever comes first

I'm pretty new and am really enjoying posting on here about all sorts of things, but I have noticed that there's quite a lot of self righteous 'aren't I just the best because I bf for years, never let my child watch tv, only ever feed dc organic homemade food and so on comments. I'm guessing most people come on here to either get some genuine caring advice or just have laugh and make some friends, not to be made to feel like an inferior mum by others.

For what it's worth sparkly, I followed (and posted on) a recent bf/ff thread (newby mistake!) and agreed with pretty much everything u had to say. Wanted to post and support u but had already sworn away from the thread altogether and didn't want to get drawn back in! :-))

i just think its a shame peoplw cant come on here and ask for ff or bf feeding advice without getting a lecture!!! i think as long as you love your baby, they are clean, fed (however its done) warma dn happy you are doing an amazing job. even if you are struggling you are still amazing but needing support. i prefer a constructive approach!!

Thanks Linziwam.....it takes me a lot of guts to say what i feel sometimes!!

No worries. I swore away from it right before u let rip at u know who. Everyone had a go at u but I thought u go girl! ;-)

I agree it hasn't changed one bit! It has always been judgemental! Anyone posting on AIBU is asking for trouble. I think that people are very supportive on many threads and give excellent advice.If people are fixed in their views and are so sure they are right it is a good thing to have someone tell them that not everyone agrees!

YABVU

HTH

i was a bit personal to one person but though i chose the wrong ish words i did sort of mean it. i had a post deleted by mumsnet....yehhhhhh...........my first one to go!!!!!

I meant to say thank goodness my real friends dont give me advice like this..... but what came out was..... thank god your not my friend in real life!!!!

where do people who are struggling with bf go?????? those who may want to give up????? or those who are ff and want advice not crticism.

Jareth....what does HTH mean????????

It means hope that helps sparkly.

I'm glad u put it like that. It made me chuckle! And I think a few people were thinking much worse!

The boards that are specifically for feeding issues can be quite helpful and supportive if u state that you're after ff advice that does not relate to bf vs ff.

Is it possible to send private messages to people on here? Like I said I'm quite new so I don't know these things. I would of sent u one if u can rather than get involved again x

scm,but mn isnt real life its words on a screen.dpesnt matter what some zealot on mn thinks about feeding - switch off and switch off

and you go girl gie it big ye haw. im too dull to have had a thread deleted

hth=hope that helps acronym list

have searched for that certain person and they spend a lot of time on here esp on bf/ff threads.....she states she is an antenatal teacher hence knowing lots of facts.

i just like to chat about my experiences..... i can search myself if i need research and data x

trick is dont personalise mn.have a laugh.no mn grudges

no grudges held just i am not so strongly opinionated. anyway not discussing specifics here just on the whole thing. i have seen from other threads that people can give criticism but not take it!!!!