To expect to be a priority

[KatiePul]

OK small rant!
Monday I was 3 days over my due date, I rang my surgery to book an app with my midwife for today, Friday, as I would be a week over. They told me they would not book me in as may have my baby between that time and If I had not I was to call Friday morning and they would DEFINITELY fit me in!
I have just got off the phone to the surgery who have told me she is fully booked and cant fit me in! and I should have booked sooner!!!!!!! Thoroughly P'd off I rang the midwife directly who had the same attitude. I got so upset on the phone as I'm so fed up mow of having absolutely no sign of my baby coming! The midwife cant see me until Monday at the earliest, I just cant believe it, I just want someone to help me. AIBU to think my midwife should either squeeze me in or reschedule someone of much less priority?

I was 6 days over...I don't think I saw anyone (but I didn't want any induction, so that may be why), and didn't call...baby eventually came when she was ready.

Is this your first baby?

YANBU because you are heavily pregnant.
But...what exactly do you need to see the MW for? Are you wanting a sweep?

What would you want her to do? They dont do sweeps here for example until at least 7 days over.

help you with what? Do you want them to send you to the hospital to be induced?

See her on Monday. It's bloody uncomfortable (I remember! ) but it'll be ok.

if you have particular concerns then you aren't BU in the slightest by the way, and you should push to see someone.
I don't think there's much point in a general checkup at this point - you'll have been checked for anaemia recently I assume?

Sorry should have said, yes I want a sweep. They can actually be done from your due date.
I have been in the early stages of labour for 3 weeks now, I went to hospital for 24 hours contracting, decided to come home as nothing really happening so my husband could sleep, then everything stopped! Nothing since, but cervix ripe and softened ready to dilate. Have been constantly told that 'it will be any day now, you will never reach your due date' HA!

YANBU - if they told you to ring today and they'd definitely fit you in the they should have done so. Not because you're necessarily a priority, we don't know the condition of the other ladies. Going over 'due date' is not unusual (dates aren't always exactly right to start with), try not to get too stressed about it.

that's for not giving the relevant information in your OP

YNBU to be irritated you where given wrong advise when you tried to book the first appointment so a firmly worded letter stating this and send to the HOM should sort that out.

But I DO think YABU to expect to be a priority because you are a few days overdue If you had high blood pressure or suspecting preeclampisa or other pregnancy complications then yes resonable to expect to be a priority but really not being a priority is a good thing it means you are doing a good job at baking your baby

oh and I have gone overdue 6 days 7 days and 10 days so I do understand

Thanks all for the advice, guess I'm just frustrated. Want someone with magic wand to go poof its your time!

Oh I remember that feeling!

At the end I was hot and bothered, fed up and if a plumber had come along with a sink plunger I would have been on my back with my knickers off before you could say "legs akimbo"

HA HA, Brilliant justmytwopenceworth. I like your style xx

you poor thing

Agree that mentioning the wrong advice about getting an appointment is a good idea

(You do realise we're all going to keep bumping this thread to see you go into labour, don;t you??)

Good, I'll give anything a go! xx

and make comments like "Ooh she hasn't been back for 2 hours, maybe this is it!"

I went overdue with DS by 4 days. Then everyone says your next baby is earlier, plus I felt the dates were a week out, so I expected DD to be a little early. She was 6 days late but it felt like a month!

ok well sweeps are a waste of time. there is no evidence that they trigger labour and they're painful.

i would not try to see mw. just wait. when you get to 14 days then make a stink because you want the placenta checked.

is this your first?

my first was 1 day early, my second was 7 days late.

all this gumph about which babies will be early / late is bollocks.

Certainly is if you asked me
Although my sweep seemed to work. I went into hospital thinking I was ready to push to find I was 2cm . Was swept and felt the contractions immediately get much more intense and closer together. Went home at 8ish but set off back a couple of hours later to find I was over 9cm dilated - DD was born at 11.30.

polar bear - diff story if you're IN labour. very little evidence to show they TRIGGER labour.

Have you tried the normal stuff?

I believe sex is very highly rated

My friend recently triggered her labour (was 9 days over) by putting clothes pegs on her nipples.

She was desperate.

Ouch.

YANBU, they shouldn't be messing with a woman who is 40weeks pg and fed up.
Poor you, I was 6 days late with DS1 and had been convinced he would be early.

DS2 was 2 days early and I convinced myself it was because I'd done the have sex/eat pineapple/eat hot curry/go for a long walk thing. He would probably have arrived then anyway but I felt I was doing something constructive.
It's worth a shot

BTW - know how you feel - tried everything with DS1 - sweep, sex. curry, homeopathy, the most excruciatingly painful reflexology, enough Rasperry leaf tea to drown the Navy. But was not "ripe" like you

Clary sage oil is supposed to bring on labour too - in an essential oil burner, perhaps. I think I used it in the bath - with some sort of bubble bath, to disperse the oil. But that was nearly 13 years ago, and at the moment I can hardly remember my own name from one day's start to the next (thanks to depression and tiredness), so my memory of how I used the clary sage may not be entirely reliable.