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AIBU?

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To be getting really fed up with my neighbiour now

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 11:49

grrr, we have 2 cats, chickens and 2 dc, she tries to steal the cats, feeds them, brushs them etc, we have to go round every evening att he same time to get the cat back, and yes I know cats choose where they want to live but if you feed them they will stay there.
She is always walking down my garden and openeing the chicken run, filing the chooks food and water up and generally messing about with them, giving them treats etc. I know she is being nice but I like to have my own garden as my own space.
Lsast year she called the rspca on us because the broody hen we borrowed to hatch some eggs wasn't moving much, even though she had food and water in reach etc, the rspca told her to co co basically.
We are getting a puppy, I am so excited and it something that we have thought very long and hard about. I have just had a mother style lecture off her in the garden about being mad and my poor cats and chickens and what on earth do I think I am doing and what about when her visitors go through my garden etc.
I wish she would just f off sometimes, I am in most of the day so have to be nice, she treats my dc with absolute disdain.
I love my house and one of the main reasons is because of my lovely garden which I wish she would just stay out of. grrr

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GypsyMoth · 20/04/2010 11:51

well how is she getting in? is there a gate you could lock?

failing that,just tell her!!

posieparker · 20/04/2010 11:51

Just say that now you're getting a dog she needs to keep out of your garden.

gingernutlover · 20/04/2010 11:51

why is she in your garden?

get a gate, a big one with a huge lock and a high fence with barbed wire

ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 20/04/2010 11:52

Why is your neighbour having access to your garden?

FioFio · 20/04/2010 11:53

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 11:53

she has access across the back garden to her house. so can't lock her out unfortunatley.

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thumbwitch · 20/04/2010 11:53

Yes, WTF is she doing in your garden? Unless she has right of way, that is trespass!

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/04/2010 11:55

Oh yes- explain that now you are getting a dog you will be fencing off the garden (especially if you were reading the other thread about dogs in unfenced gardens ) She mustn't open the gate or your pup might escape.

as for your cats, tell her that one of them has a urinary problem and needs to eat special prescription food from the vets, so can she please stop feeding both of them?

She sounds a pain!

Mouseface · 20/04/2010 11:55

Is your garden shared access? Do you own a water pistol?

Why is she in your garden? Is she lost? Very odd.

itsmeitsmeolord · 20/04/2010 11:56

Put up a fence across the back of the garden so that she can still walk through but can't get into your garden if you see what I mean.

Also, tell her to stop feeding your animals, overfeeding is just as dangerous as underfeeding.

And why the fuck do you have to be nice to her? She called the RSPCA and treats your kids with disdain!!
Toughen up woman!

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 11:56

oh and ~I forgot once my mum brought me a tray of plants round and about a week later when I got round to dealing with them she had planted them in my garden.

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Mouseface · 20/04/2010 11:57

Sorry, x posted.

We have the same, shared access, but our neighbour would never do anything like that!

Get a water pistol and hide behind something!!!

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/04/2010 11:58

Just seen that she has access rights- bah! get a padlock for the chicken run. Assure her that your pup will be well supervised. Go into HER garden and prune all her bushes to death

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 11:59

Oh yes I did put a padlock on the chicken run a week or so ago, she hasn't had the nerve to ask me about it yet.

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Callisto · 20/04/2010 12:00

She sounds totally insane. Planting your plants and feeding your chooks? I'd have told her to eff off and mind her own by now.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 20/04/2010 12:00

Fence off the majority of your garden so that she and her visitors only get to walk through a small bit of it for access.
That solves the problems of dog upsetting her visitors and her feeding your chickens.

As for the cat do what Joolyjoolyjoo said.

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 12:08

my kids are talkers to put it mildly so in a passive aggressive way I decided not to constantly tell them leave mad old bint alone dd's but leave them to mither her till her ears bleed.
I was strting to feel like I am being unreasonable getting a puppy but my friend sid actually I can have as many animals as ~I want so long as I love and loo after them all and it is nobody elses business.
And we are getting the dog after much discussion and recommendation from my cbt therapist as well as months of discussion between dh and I.

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itsmeitsmeolord · 20/04/2010 12:13

DO THE FENCE THING!! YOU KNOW IT MAKES SENSE!

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 12:15

itsme, but aren't fences about 2k
have actually discussed this with dh but he is not keen as garden is not massive and he thinks it will make it seem too small.

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mrsfred · 20/04/2010 12:21

how about an 'open' fence, or trellis? We bought 6ft trellis panels for climbers around our garden. I can't remember how much they were, but I know it didn't work out too expensive.

itsmeitsmeolord · 20/04/2010 12:25

oh yes, you would deffo need to re-mortgage.....

YY, we did the trellis type thing in our last house and grew clematis up them, we put a mirror on there as well which looked pretty cool and sort of opened up the garden.
The bit you cut off would only need to be small. You could do a lower picket type fence if you didn't want to go for a 6 footer. You can get 5ft panels as well,

You can also get those rolls of bamboo.

We paid about £18 per panel, v easy to fit.

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ditavionteased · 20/04/2010 12:25

I thought about getting a really low picket style fence, the garden is ppatio and lawn, so at the edge of the patio, thrn if she went past the fence she would definatley be trespassing. I like to be able to see down the garden, I sit here for hours on the computer watching the chooks out of the window.

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JaneS · 20/04/2010 12:26

Could you inset paving slabs as a path and tell her that when the dog comes, you'd rather she stayed on the path as otherwise you won't be able to teach him about intruders?

grumpypants · 20/04/2010 12:27

Poor you! I had shared access once and it used to drive me mad when neighbour's kids charged thro garden, or her mum did to get to the back door. So cannot imagine how awful this must be. can you look at the plans and then send her a letter asking her to keep to the access area only?

itsmeitsmeolord · 20/04/2010 12:27

So is the access at the house end of the garden then?

If so, you can put low trellis (3-4ft) along the edge of the patio, with an arch in the middle and a gate which you can padlock.
That way you would still be able to see down the garden and cowbag next door wouldn't be able to interfere.

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