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AIBU?

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Original poster

to hope that my neighbours won't have a Bar-BQ every sunny day of the summer...

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thinkingaboutdrinking · 19/04/2010 18:05

like last year? I mean, I love Bar-BQs, but every day ? And they always put it right against our fence, so even with all the windows closed (if I get it done on time) my house smells, and my washing smells.
I know I am old fashioned by trying to wash on sunny days and not use a tumble dryer but I now have to wash all of yesterdays washing again and all of todays if I don't want it to smell.
Last year it was nearly every day. And it got quite annoying. I would come back from being out thinking that I would have lovely fresh, dry washing to iron or put away and instead I would have a garden full of smoke.
Disclaimer - yes I have the occasional BBQ but always try and put it as far away from everyone else's houses, and if I could see washing out I would try and let them know. And it wasn't every day.
and breathe..

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pagwatch · 19/04/2010 18:09

you don't live next to me do you...

we do the barby every day we can thing.

Sorry in advance

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thinkingaboutdrinking · 19/04/2010 18:13

well if you're having one now, then maybe...!

I Suppose it's partly jealousy - my DH is rarely home in time to make it worth it before we all freeze our arses off...

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 19/04/2010 18:17

YABU - they don't smell that bad! In fact, It hink they smell fab and wearing clothes that smell of barbecues will surely just make you want to have a BBQ every niht yourself!

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thinkingaboutdrinking · 19/04/2010 18:23

I agree, they can smell great, but - going to bed in sheets that smell like BBQ? and drying yourself on towels that smell like BBQ??

Perhaps I just have a very heightened sense of smell...

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BelleDameSansMerci · 19/04/2010 18:27

thinking my bloody inconsiderate neighbours are the same. As soon as it's sunny, they're out barbecuing and drinking until all hours. They sit as close as they can to actually being in my garden. To be fair, when I ask them to keep the noise down or indicate that I'm not overjoyed, they always stop but it's hard going and I hate, hate, hate having to ask them to be quieter. I'm dull as anything and like to go to bed early. They seem to actually have lives - most unfair.

I ended up buying earplugs and DD (we still co-sleep) sometimes sleep in the spare room if it's really bad. Makes me long for sunny days and rainy nights!

londonartemis · 19/04/2010 18:28

YANBU

castille · 19/04/2010 18:33

Ours do this. We have to remember to shut DD1's window by 7.30pm so her room doesn't fill with steak-scented smoke.

DH wondered about going round to tell them how carcinogenic barbecued meat is, but he hasn't yet...

AvengingGerbil · 19/04/2010 18:34

Another BBQ hater here.

They're as bad as the considerate souls who come home from work and light their bonfires in time to stop the rest of us using our gardens or opening our windows.

mablemurple · 19/04/2010 18:34

Could you ask them to move the barbecue so the smoke does not always blow into your garden?

herbietea · 19/04/2010 18:35

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LadyBiscuit · 19/04/2010 18:36

Can you do your laundry in the morning?

MillyMollyMoo · 19/04/2010 18:37

Do they not invite you over ?

Pikelit · 19/04/2010 18:39

YANBU. Although I think you have to expect that Sunday washing can often be the casualty of bonfiery-like activities.

But I'm really tired of BBQs. The smell of them gets nauseating. Why is it that people need to rush out and cremate crap sausages and burgers the moment that the sun shows any sign of coming out? Picnics are the business, garden dinners are wonderful. BBQs are cack and, quite frankly, so overdone. Like the outer layer of most "food" cooked on the fucking things.

Prinpo · 19/04/2010 18:39

Could you ask them not to fire up the barbie until after a certain time during the week (5pm?) so that you can make sure the washing is in the house and windows are closed? I'm completely anal about cooking smells on washing so I feel your anguish. At the weekend, I'm afraid, you don't stand a cat in hell's chance. The sun comes out and the nation barbecues. It's the law.

fiveisanawfullybignumber · 19/04/2010 18:42

Could you ask them to knock and give you time to get the washing in before they start?

nbee84 · 19/04/2010 18:44

Our neighbours don't always wait til the evening to have a bbq. They sometimes have one at lunchtime. One year I even wondered if their oven was broken as they were bbqing so much! It is annoying to have your washing and your house smelling of smoke but I've never felt able to say anything.

Like castille I feel like mentioning the carcinogenic barbecued meat aspect - I've even thought about finding a newspaper/magazine article to put through their door anonymously!

Apart from the bbq's (oh yeh - and the parking!) they are lovely people, so I expect I'll never say anything.

pinksmarties · 19/04/2010 18:50

Here here pikelit and @ cremated crap sausages. I've never understood the appeal of barbies.

Portofino · 19/04/2010 18:52

We have gas bbq and always cook food with the lid closed. Next door on the other hand, have a mahoosive thing that seems to use whole logs. At the weekend they cook every meal on it. I feel your pain!

pagwatch · 19/04/2010 19:06

actually I hope you are not my neighbour.
If we have sunday afternoon bar-b-ques she does operatic shrieky orgasms while we are trying to concentrate on our kebabs

Oenopod · 19/04/2010 19:08

We used to live in a basement flat, and the top floor neighbours used to BBQ on the fire escape - we had hot coals, the odd sausage and once a chicken drumstick drop down into our patio. The dog liked the sausages but the hot coals were a problem.

We got our revenge when someone gave us a chimenea (sp?) and we blasted smoke straight up into their windows (we only did it once before we realised how anti-social it was!)

A bit of tolerance all round was needed...

Pikelit · 19/04/2010 19:08

Gives "pork sword" a whole new consideration.

Pikelit · 19/04/2010 19:09

Sorry, that was in response to pagwatch.

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thinkingaboutdrinking · 19/04/2010 20:56

nbee are you sure you're not me? "Apart from the bbq's (oh yeh - and the parking!) they are lovely people, so I expect I'll never say anything. "
pagwatch no our room is the other end of the house so you wouldn't hear me! (although I'm not usually a shrieker!

I admit, BarBQs at weekends should be allowed, I suppose it just reminded me that they seemed to BBQ every day last year (sometimes starting at 11ish so washing in morning has to be done pretty pronto to dry on time)

To be fair, they do sometimes ask us round, but obviously not every day. although that would cut down my food bills I suppose!

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elliemental · 19/04/2010 20:58

oh god, i could have written this. They drink a lot when they have bbqs and then have loud music and people getting louder and they start at midday and never end til midnight.

It ains't the smell, it's the noise

BelleDameSansMerci · 20/04/2010 15:35

ellie same here... I try so hard to remain calm etc but I'm now so obsessive about it that I have to rein myself in just talking about it. When did I get so middle-aged?

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