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To Wanna Smash In The Head Of Sisters BF

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CheekyVimtoGal · 17/04/2010 11:34

Grrrrr i am soooooo mad.

My sister found out on tuesday that her boyfriend of 5 years has been cheating on her for 7 months with someone he works with.

They have a 13 week old son

She gave him an ultimatum 'Me & DS or HER'

He said he loved my sister and wanted to be with her, as soon as he got to work, he rang her to say he loves this other girl and wants to be with her.

He has left her.

I messaged the girl on FB who he is seeing telling her i think she is disgusting after what she has done, she was warned to back off a few months ago when she first came on the scene, my sister sent her an email telling her to stay away and find her own bloke.

I messaged her this morning, So she must have texted sisters BF telling her she has recieved a message from me on FB (he is at their house sorting through mail and other things)

My sister then ring me up BOLLOCKING me for messaging her.

FFS what did he expect or she expect? A congratulatory text wishing them the best on their new relationship! Grrr i am so mad

My sister has told me to leave her alone. I am so upset.

I wanna smash his head in and hers for what they have done!!

OP posts:
springlambanana · 17/04/2010 12:49

this is like jeremy kyle

cluckyduck · 17/04/2010 12:56

I'm sorry that your sister is going through this BUT you need to respect her wishes and keep out. She needs someone to support her, not someone making threats.

thesunshinesbrightly · 17/04/2010 12:57

Once again, it's all the other woman's fault.

Your sister's boyfriend, would not of got stolen,if he did not want to be.

Horrible thread title.

You really need to grow up.

Tiredmumno1 · 17/04/2010 13:24

My dh says he should be hung up and castrated. what type of fecking bloke would be thinking about getting his end away while his missus is pregnant. he sounds like a prat and she is better off without him, why on earth would he leave his newborn.

this happened to someone i know, he decided he didnt want to know his kid for years, he got his though, the bit on the side started beating him lol, that'll teach him cos now he has no one.

is that even allowed in a workplace how unprofessional.

dont worry op maybe your sis feels obliged to stick up for him at the mo, that will pass. get your arse round to hers, laden with pressies if you can, and tell her he aint worth it. tell her about this site or netmums, i am sure others would be more than happy to show her support and let her know she is not alone.

cluckyduck · 17/04/2010 13:27

Hahaha tiredmumno1 domestic violence how funny! Lolll!

RedRedWine1980 · 17/04/2010 13:31

Domestic violence? Huh?????

thesecondcoming · 17/04/2010 13:34

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Tiredmumno1 · 17/04/2010 13:36

Well he got himself into it, and he knew what he was letting himself in for, because others had warned him, but he was to busy getting his end away.

hocuspontas · 17/04/2010 13:38

Can understand you are angry but it's her boyfriend who is the bad person here. Just support your sister in being strong and helping with practical things and the baby. Obviously apologise first! And Facebook is the devil's work as others have said.

RedRedWine1980 · 17/04/2010 13:41

Oh sorry just read the part in tiredmums post about a fella getting beaten.

I agree not funny at all.

RedRedWine1980 · 17/04/2010 13:43

Tiredmum would it be so deserved if one of your female friends/relatives left their partner for whatever reason and their new partner beat them?

I doubt it would be.

Tiredmumno1 · 17/04/2010 13:53

What goes around comes around.

did you also read the part that he was warned and knew about her, but he wanted a trophy on his arm and to get his d**k wet.

and i actually really dont give a toss what happens to him, he aint nowt to do with me. i was merely saying it dont always work out the way they want it to

RedRedWine1980 · 17/04/2010 13:58

Nobody deserves to be battered by their partner regardless of what they've done in the past- ffs whats wrong with people today?

FiaGrace · 17/04/2010 14:04

I would've thought that your sister could probably benefit more from you taking the baby for a few hours and giving her a chance to get her thoughts together...

Ladyanonymous · 17/04/2010 16:29

I feel quite speechless after reading this on so many levels.

People can be stolen? People can be "warned off"? Domestic violence is okay and deserved because they had "been warned"?

What about emotions and love and the intricicies involved in being in an adult relationship??

Surely it takes two people to fuck up a relationship and anyone who was happy wouldn't - rightly or wrongly - cheat.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 17/04/2010 16:34

Your sister is acting with dignity by asking you to leave the ow alone. You should follow her lead.

McSnail · 17/04/2010 16:52

5 pages on, I suspect the OP has got the message...

Much as I squirmed a bit after reading the first post, I felt that after dozens of posts from people saying and implying exactly the same thing (ie. you've acted like a common teenager and your thread title's horrible) I felt I had nothing to add. Until now.

I actually feel a bit sorry for her. I suspect she's extremely young (from what I've read of her other posts) and it looks like she's gone now. Poor cow...

junglist1 · 17/04/2010 17:02

Oh how logical and rational you all are looking at it from the outside. If I was cheated on with a newborn I don't know how I'd react. Nobody knows, so I don't agree with all the talk of dignity. These issues are emotional, and emotions aren't always rational are they.
OP I understand your anger. Your poor sister

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 17/04/2010 17:04

But the woman is behaving with dignity - it is the op that isn't.

junglist1 · 17/04/2010 17:07

I admire her sister for that, but TBH in her situation I'd go berserk. OP is being protective is all, I don't think she needs flaming. We all react differently

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CheekyVimtoGal · 17/04/2010 17:28

?I was doing what a big sister should do - Sticking up for her sibling.

My sister called me and said she knew why i did it, she said she wished i wouldnt have but at least now the OW has got the message that no one will be happy with her.

Also sis BF has fucked him self because OW has told him not to contact her when she is with other people and he has to text her first to see if he can ring her. She also isnt telling her parents - oooh because she is ashamed of what she has done!!

OP posts:
Ladyanonymous · 17/04/2010 17:41

I don't think its the OW your anger should be directed at IMO ... she has no loyaties to your sister at all....hes the twunt who has shagged about behind her back, whatever his reasons were for doing it.

You sister needs you to be calm, rational and quietly supportive right now, however much self restraint that may take.

McSnail · 17/04/2010 17:45

Quote:"I don't think its the OW your anger should be directed at IMO ... she has no loyaties to your sister at all....hes the twunt who has shagged about behind her back, whatever his reasons were for doing it."

Sorry, shouldn't be flippant really, but OP DID say she wanted to smash BF's head in....

If that's not directing her anger at him, I don't know what is.

Ladyanonymous · 17/04/2010 17:47

McSnail She messaged the OW on FB which is why her sister is annoyed?

RedRedWine1980 · 17/04/2010 17:52

Oh ffs how old are you? 10?
'Sticking up for' your sibling does not give you the right to contact this OW on facebook! What exactly did you say to her? Am I right in thinking you gave her some abuse? NOBODY has the right to do that (and its downright embarrasing) 'sticking up for' your sister or not