I told him 3 times to slow down on his bike

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and stay away from the remains of the gravel left over from the gritting attack we had last week. So AIBU not to mollycoddle my DS1 when he goes flying off his bike after going too bloody fast and skidding in the gravel?

I mean i picked him up, disentagled him from his bike, cleaned and dressed all the scrapes on his hands, elbows, knees and the one on his chin where the handlebar hit him.(thank god he was wearing his helmet with the chin guard), but i refused to "pet" him or give him cuddles because as far as i could see it was his own bloody fault and he should have listened to me?

he has just turned 6 by the way.....

I would have cuddled, then I would have done the 'you should listen to me next time' speech. I'm a soft touch sometimes though.

YANBU. Actions have consequences.

You warned him of the danger..which he ignored...so I wouldn't be OTT with sympathy either. [smile}

YABU not to give him any cuddles

Yes it's annoying
Yes he didn't listen
Yes you get fed up of telling them
Yes you get fed up of being ignored

However, you are still his Mum and cuddles shouldn't be rationed on being 'good' & 'compliant' - if he's hurt, he's hurt...

You can tell him off after

I don't see anything wrong with combining a good telling off with a good cuddle. In fact, I think it's a much better combination than just one or the other - they need to know boundaries but at the same time need to know that when they do bad/ silly things it's not going to make us reject them.

But I guess that also depends on how long you withheld cuddles for.

I'd have told him off for not paying attention to me, then said 'you can see that was a silly thing to do, can't you?' and given him a cuddle.

honest to god the looks i got from some of our neighbours because i didn't drop everything, rush over there or call an ambulance.... i swear if that silly bitch from 2 doors down had tutted loudly one more time i was going pull her bottom lip up over her head.....

He wasn't badly hurt but he was a bit shaken but he did go slower on his bike today so i reckon lesson learned.

I think it was wrong not to cuddle him. A scolding and a cuddle can go together quite well and he's still very young.

Actually, having read chipping's post, I'd have given cuddles at the beginning if he was upset, then a telling off afterwards. I find that doing it that way also helps me to manage my temper better, rather than just exploding because I'm cheesed off. Which I think/ hope is, ultimately more effective.

he got his usual bedtime cuddles and kisses and got a wee extra squeeze cos i'm not all bad really.....

I wish your neighbour had tutted one more time - if she does, will you please post a photo of the result

Aww hope hes better tomorrow - if its any consolation to you .....ds2 aged 14 begged and mithered for his new xmas bike so much so we relented and let him have his bike on the 19th of December on the 20th I spent hours and hours in a&e with him and a lot of strained and stretched muscles between his shoulder and collarbone cos he rode about 250 yards then fell off.

chipping in - i swear i will happen before the end of the summer holidays. She is one of those parents who don't believe their darling offspring can do anything wrong and takes great delight in shouting at all the other kids in the neighbourhood but no one is allowed to tell her darling off.

I have caught the little shit more than once hitting, spitting, nipping or otherwise picking on my DS2 (who has only just turned 3 and has a speech delay so cannot articulate exactly who or what hit him).

My mum would have picked me up, whacked me on the backside for not doing what I was told, spat on her hanky and wiped my cuts, told me to shut up crying or she would give me something to cry about, told the neighbour to sod off and mind her own business, dragged me inside, given me a biscuit, rung the council to complain about the bloody chippings, and given me a hug when I had calmed down. I love my mum. X

jurisfiction - are you my long lost sister? your mum and my mum MUST be related..... lol

cute!

yeah but my mum would also have kept me in for the rest of the day and made me sit on the floor in the corner waiting "for your father to get home"

Oh look there you are again, am i following you, or your following me

And i tell ds2 things more than ten times he has got gdd, but still never listens. he knows best, he is 7. lol

DS1 turned 6 on monday and is now the "man of the house" lol yeah in your dreams buddy...

If you mean me tiredmum, I'm not following you, I am just an opinionated old trout and have to get my oar in enerywhere, (plus I have been in bed all day, and now can't sleep!)

na jurisfiction she meant me we were having a dance together on another thread but she buggered off cos my music was better than hers.......... lol

Fair enough!

Oi you, i now have on spandau ballet - gold, is that good enough

and i did not bugger off i was showing you i can dance better lol

she's got the bar open now on that other thread if you fancy a baileys or a WKD

Jurisfictionoperative you can join in but i must warn you i am the better singer and dancer, i am simon cowells dream

ohmigod!!!! SUBO is on mumsnet in the guise of Tiredmum!!!!! lol

yeah i'm not dancing though i just keep getting tangled up in the headphone cord....lol and whaurs ma drink?