We both have a DS and DD each but in the opposite order so her DS hand me downs come to me and vice versa. Although she only works outside the home part time, we both have high earning jobs and have high earning husbands. I fully admit that I buy way too many clothes etc for my Dc's (mainly out of guilt) but my sister expects to get everything that my DD has grown out of. She has even rung me up and asked for certain items along the lines of "where is that lovely coat that .... had when I saw her last Christmas?" I wouldn't mind if they were in a fix, financially but they really aren't - my sister is too lazy or too tight to go out and buy her DD some nice clothes.
Our parents think that I should give her everything, mainly to keep the peace but I prefer to give some of it to charity shops.
I know this sounds really petty and in the grand scheme of things is really not a big deal but this has upset me. Most of you will think I am B totally U but I feel a bit taken for granted - good old big sis will buy it and take care of it then she can have it, trash it on the boil wash then send it back in a condition that leaves most of it only fit for the rag bin.
Thoughts please, ladies.