to have a go at DH for cooking a crap dinner again?

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Basically for about the nth time DH has served raw potatoes (he boiled them for 5 minutes). He thinks of potatoes as a vegetable like brocolli or carrot, which can be served crunchy and al dente. I think of it as a food like rice which is either cooked or raw. So I had a go at him and stomped off to re-cook my potatoes.

Ok, so he did cook a meal for me. But then I've been at work all day and he's been at home, admittedly looking after 2 preschool kids.

And I appreciate that there are much worse things that could be happening in my life and this is essentially the most minor gripe ever. But it's only my 3rd day back after maternity leave and I'm in a grump.

So tell me, AIBU?

Yep, yabu. Help him cook next time?

I'd be happy, my DH is an awful cook. At least he tried.

If my DH dared to moaned about his dinner after coming home from work while I've looked after our children all day I'd tell him where to stick it!

Yes YABU if you were a bloke moaning about his wifes cooking you would be flamed.

Think yourself lucky you have someone there to help and cook dinner for you...I would love someone to have cooked for me and my 3 DC's when I get in from work rather than having to do it alone...raw potoatoes or not.

YABU If I were him I'd tell you where to stick it.

I just cooked my mum a dinner (she went to work 6 30-8) and she's binned it.

I did the veg perfectly (al dente; broccoli, runners and peas) and cold meat as per her instructions

Well, fuck her - she can go hungry.

so no, yanbu ... he should cook properly then you could fully appreciate it imo

If you were a bloke moaning about this, you'd be told if you don't like it, cook something yourself.

So....

Although boiling tats for 5 minutes? Your husband is a bit mad. - Or it's a very cunning plan to be so bad at something that you stop expecting him to do it!

I don't think YABU. Why should she think herself lucky? If it were a bloke moaning to his mates about his cooking you can bet he wouldn't be flamed.

He's at home. He's cooking the tea so should be expected to do a proper job.

Why not write down how long things need to cook?

wife's cooking

Is he doing it deliberately though? You could have just said something gently like "ooh, I prefer my potatoes a bit more cooked than this".

I would never complain about my DP's cooking, even if it's not great - and I'd be outraged if he complained about mine!

OK, fair enough, I probably ABU.

Though this is in the context of me having cooked dinner for him every evening for about the last two years while I stayed at home looking after the kids.

I completely know I'm lucky not to have to cook for myself every night.(though I do most nights, and I did dcs dinner tonight as soon as I got in cos dh forgot) Just think when it's his turn he might produce something a bit more edible.

YABU and YANBU.

DH is not a great cook and what winds me up is that I've told him how to do it, he just refused to take any notice. So because of this we all eat meh meals all the time.

I think it's stubborness in his part.

But yes, OK, he has cooked for you, but making a basically edible meal isn't really too much to ask.

YANBU.
There's no point in cooking if the meal isn't edible.

I fully sympathise, my dh looked after the kids for one day, I get back from work to find the house a complete bombsite, two messy kids and get served a chicken pie which is still frozen in the middle!
To be fair i didn't complain, just binned the pie and helped him to find a replacement.

you know YABU but being back at work is shit isn't it? I too had my third day back today. I'm sure potatoes don't usually have this significance for you

Missus - every other time he has served raw potatoes I have been grateful and a bit more gentle. But it's about the 8th time and I'm just a bit narked

Yabu to "have a go" at your DH. YaNbu to want your potatoes cooked, and it's fair enough to ask him to cook them longer next time.

YANBU to want him to cook the potatoes properly. Raw spuds will give the kids a tummy ache if they eat them and if they dont, they end up in the bin and its a waste of money.

Moaning at him might be a bit U...but raising the issue is not U.

Maybe he needs more practice then! And he should be doing the DCs dinner too - post-it notes to remind him?

YANBU
For the 9th time he's served you un-cooked potatoes!!!
Why can't men take advise?!
My DH expects praise for every meal he cooks (about 2/year) but he can't cook!!!
Yeah, yeah, he tries... -but how about listening to some advise?!!!

He's probably hoping you'll give up and cook yourself.

Is it his third day as SAHP? aNd being expected to produce a meal?

I don't Go with the majority of YABU here. If you'v ebeen at work you do have right to expect a meal, the details are between you and him, But if he's cooking potatoes he sould cook them properly.

So no, YANBU to hope for a decent meal but you would be unreasonable to go off on one quite yet if he has little experience.

Give hime time to learn, cookery books etc anf hope for the future.

I don't think of myself as the greatest chef mankind created. But I made an effort to learn to cook decent stuff for my family. If he can't be arsed to do that over time then... YOu Would Not Be Being Unreasonable!

DH still puts minced beef, onions and mushrooms in a pan and cooks for 5 mins then adds tomatoes and serves it up after about another 15. He then thinks it's bolognaise sauce. No garlic, no wine, no pancetta or bacon. No time! It's not bolognaise it's minced beef and tomato and has no flavour. But it's not hard to do it properly and make a good meal.