to have a go at DH for cooking a crap dinner again?

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Basically for about the nth time DH has served raw potatoes (he boiled them for 5 minutes). He thinks of potatoes as a vegetable like brocolli or carrot, which can be served crunchy and al dente. I think of it as a food like rice which is either cooked or raw. So I had a go at him and stomped off to re-cook my potatoes.

Ok, so he did cook a meal for me. But then I've been at work all day and he's been at home, admittedly looking after 2 preschool kids.

And I appreciate that there are much worse things that could be happening in my life and this is essentially the most minor gripe ever. But it's only my 3rd day back after maternity leave and I'm in a grump.

So tell me, AIBU?

It's not his 3rd day as a SAHP. He's a teacher and he's on school hols. So plenty of experience in cooking, and can generally produce decent meals (though a few wild cards like fusilli with black bean sauce and bacon). But he has served raw potatoes SOOOO many times. It's not like I'm correcting different cooking blunders each time. It's the same bloody blunder every few months, thinking you can just serve crunchy potatoes. Come to think of it, he does it with pasta too, serves it hard and crunchy in the middle.

Personally I think serving up raw potatoes for the 9th time might make me a tad unhappy if I'd got in from work and had expected something edible. You can't eat raw potatoes, they'll give you a tummy ache.

It's more the refusal to listen to your other half after 8 polite requests. So NBU. But like you said, not the worst thing in the world.

YABVVVVVVVU at least your dh makes an effort to cook unlike my dh who has not been near a hob or oven for about 7 years.

I m issed it being for the ninth time. No YANBU.

What's his response when you point out the potatoes are still raw? Does he deliberately cook them like that, or is he just very forgetful/incompetent?

YANBU - blimey I and many others manage to look after dc's and cook an edible meal.

Shove Delia/Jamie in his direction

ORM, that it exactly what my DH does!!! I slave over the hob for hours to create the perfect bolognaise for the kids;

he chucks it all in and bribes the kids to say 'it was the best bolognaise ever'

YANBU to mind that he served raw potatoes. YANBU to be grumpy after your third day back from maternity leave. But you should share the cooking properly DH and I don't have the rule that the person who is home cooks a meal, we share it ad hoc, but then we both like cooking. Oh I dunno, I wouldn't eat raw pots and nor would DH. Neither of us would be offended if the other person left something they didn't like.

I would suggest you point out to him (gently) that the water needs to be boiling BEFORE he puts the potatoes in. He's probably putting it in cold, and doing five minutes from the boiling point.

Show him how to check with a fork. If the fork easily divides the potato it's ready. A plastic fork is best.

Then if he does it again that is the point at which you call him a numpty.

And incidentally, two minutes in a microwave will finish your half done ones.

YANBU, if you have told him previously, not difficult to boil a potato ffs. May not be able to get it all to the table hot at the same time, but as an adult should have the savvy to boil a potato correctly! IMO

YANBU at all. I've been away this week working and came home to beautifully cooked dinner.... and totally destroyed kitchen. And he shrugged so what. So 2nite when he's out I'm cleaning from last night, prep meal tonight, clean from tonight. Doesn't seem fair..
Then again friends hubbies much 'worse' and I never have to take out bins.
So for me it's YANBU if you wouldn't/don't do this to him but if you do.... take out your own bins...

I don't go along with the "be grateful that he's cooked for you, oh give him a pat on the head" bollocks.

He hasn't cooked for you if it's not edible! Raw potatoes are toxic, that's why they give you a bad stomach. Feel free to google that!

Of course YANBU. If the deal was that he'd do the cooking then he should cook properly. I'm sure he'd not be happy if you gave him a pie with raw pastry.

YANBU

Every time DH cooks, it sets my teeth on edge. He has the reverse problem to your DH. My DH overcooks everything. Meat is never pink, always dry and horribly overcooked. What he can do to vegetables would make you weep. They all get cooked for a minimum of half an hour - end result a soggy unappetising mush. I blame the fact that he was brought up in Yorkshire ...