To think that you can't actually compare early weaning and child abuse?!

[SirBoobAlot]

Am really angry about this

I received an email from a "friend" earlier - she doesn't have children but is a nanny, and since I have had DS she has been trying to tell me how to parent (which is another thread!).

Earlier I logged on to find this:

Hey SirBoobAlot, how are you doing? How is DS?

Look, I will come straight to the point, I saw your status the other day about introducing second meal of the day, and it really concerned me. You do know that's not right don't you? The damage you are doing his insides, you might as well just be hitting him. I really think you need to stop this. He is not six months yet. Please get in touch if you want any advice, just stop feeding him. He's not ready.

Love, XXX.

I mean, WTF?! Firstly, DS is 5 months, and I was advised to wean early by HV as he was waking up every hour again for food.

Secondly, how can anyone think it is an acceptable comparison between weaning a few weeks early and hitting a child? I was absolutely gobsmacked to read this. She has always been a little high and mighty since she qualified, but has generally been a good friend.

Wow, I thought the general consensus on MN was that early weaning was tantamount to child abuse.

sorry she said what?

tell her to take a flying fuck to herself and if she sends you any more "advice" like that you will punch her in the stomach. Stupid Boot.

I was told to wean my prem baby at 5 months. Bliss actually recommend 5-7 months for prem babies. Just making the point that the 'rules' do not apply to all even if you only rely on 'official' guidlines.

I am really quite relieved to read these responses - as much as I knew she was being a cow being ridiculous, my confidence plummeted and I immediately started going over every single aspect of my parenting to find other faults; First Time Mother Syndrome, I guess!

I have de-friended and think I shall take a Rise Above attitude - and feel relieved she is not my nanny!!

Why is it any of her business in the first place?! How rude!! I feel annoyed on your behalf to read this, what a cheek.
I am getting same but opposite way round from my mil (not ready to start weaning my nearly 4 months and she is going on about it and trying to push 2 feed him, making food for him etc.. but he is not ready) why on earth people cant just leave mums to sort out their own children's food i dont know!

The guidelines in the US have just been changed to 4-6 months and in France Germany and Italy the guidelines are the same. They obviously don't see it as child abuse in those countries.

meant to say send her this link article Infant feeding and allergy prevention: a review of current knowledge and recommendations. A EuroPrevall state of the art paper

CRAP! tell her to FUCK OFF AND MIND HER OWN FUCKING BUSINESS! However did we manage to raise children before we had guidelines to keep us on the straight and narrow?! I had an old mothercare book when ds was born which said that at one time (1930s or so) the guidelines were to introduce pureed veg at a week and meat soon after! As a parent you should do what is right for your baby! I was fed solids at 16 weeks and am healthy as an ox, DD was weaned at 6 months and is coeliac.
I personally don't take any advice from anyone who doesn't have children, since the DOCTOR at GREAT ORMOND STREET told me I was being unreasonable to refuse to feed DD gluten so she could be tested for coeliac. If she eats one biscuit she is up all night crying in pain, doctor wanted her on gluten for six months! The doctor told me I wasnt putting her health first and if she had a coeliac child she would give it gluten so it could have the test!The only reason for the test is for an official diagnosis so she can get food on prescription! I told her to FUCK OFF!

Yanbu.
Tell her you are comfortable with the plan set out by your HV & yourself. (Is an HV a Health Visitor, such as a public health nurse?)

My oldest son is 34, and "way back" when he was born, we were told to by the public health nurse to start him on rice pablum about 2 weeks old. By the time he was 5 months he ate baby foods of all sorts. Second son came along 11 years later. Did not give him pablum or foods for ages, and nursed until 10 months old. Both survived somehow.

I hste people who think because they have a childcare degree/qualification they are automattically a mother.

Being a nursery nurse/nanny whatever does NOT make you a mother.. Tell her this.

My sister has a baby who is 12 weeks old and he has milk like a normal baby of that age but my sister says 'no hes always eating so im going to wean him' He doesnt want weaning, he not ready for it. But she thinks he is!

Also why do mothers want their babies to grow up so fast!