Not to answer the door?

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I am often on my own overnight because DH works away. I just had someone ring and knock quite persistently on my door. I didn't open it but did go and ask who it was. It was a young looking guy who said he was from a homeless charity. I said I was busy and didn't open the door.

AIBU to think that charities shouldn't be knocking on doors at almost 9pm. It really frightens me when people knock like that and makes me feel really vulnerable.

YANBU. we had two charities come by tonight, at 7:30 and 8:20 and I only answered because my MIL was here. I would never donate on the doorstep anyway so it just really annoys me.

We have loads of scam artists in my neighbourhood so IMO it is better to not answer at all.

Unfortunately last week I felt very rude when I very nearly didn't answer the door but only did after persistence and some curtain twitching, to find it was a neighbour who'd signed for a package for me, dropping it off.

FLiight: Are there any self-defence courses in your area that you could get to? They don't just teach you how to look after yourself, they help you feel more confident in your ability to look after yourself (and your DC).
TBH you would be more at risk, statistically, of violent assault if you had a man living with you (domestic violence being the sort of violence that most women are most at risk from).

Thanks SGB. I like to think I'd not allow a bloke to live here if I considered there was any kind of risk he might assault me. Though obviously, people do get taken by surprise...it's pretty rare though if there aren't any prior signals.
I've often thought about doing some self defence training but no, I don't have time to do a course...sadly.