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to wish i'd never gone over to itsyrdayhun.com?

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 14:30

i know i'm not!

i've come back because i'm fed up of trying to drum into these women some decent hymn suggestions.

i quote "we've chosen Give me joy in my heart and Lord of the Dance for our service because everyone will know them and at least they'll sing"

no they won't!!!
they'll just wonder why you've chosen "songs" that they knew in junior school and weren't any good then!

Lord of the dance? WTF? it's not an appropriate wedding hymn!!

there are about 80 million hmyns around: most of which are suitable for weddings and LOOOOAAADDDS that your guests will have heard of!! why choose rubbish???????

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babyicebean · 08/04/2010 15:29

They veto'd a couple of the ones I wanted on the reasoning no one would be able to manage them.

They were
Panis Angelicus
Salve Regina

Apparently most of his family would not know them being as mine were church goers and his werent.

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 15:31

shallishanti

i found this

Will your anchor hold in the storms of life,
When the clouds unfold their wings of strife?
When the strong tides lift, and the cables strain,
Will your anchor drift or firm remain?

We have an anchor that keeps the soul
Stedfast and sure while the billows roll,
Fastened to the Rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Savior's love.

It is safely moored, 'twill the storm withstand,
For 'tis well secured by the Savior's hand;
And the cables passed from His heart to mine,
Can defy the blast, through strength divine.

It will firmly hold in the straits of fear,
When the breakers have told the reef is near;
Though the tempest rave and the wild winds blow,
Not an angry wave shall our bark o'erflow.

It will surely hold in the floods of death,
When the waters cold chill our latest breath;
On the rising tide it can never fail,
While our hopes abide within the veil.

but i don't know whether the omitted verse is in it...

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SuziKettles · 08/04/2010 15:31

Will your anchor hold in the storms of life,
When the clouds unfold their wings of strife?
When the strong tides lift, and the cables strain,
Will your anchor drift, or firm remain?

Chorus:
We have an anchor that keeps the soul steadfast and sure
while the billows roll;
Fastened to the rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Saviour's love.

Will your anchor hold in the straits of fear,
When the breakers roar and the reef is near?
While the surges rage, and the wild winds blow,
Shall the angry waves then your bark o'erflow?

Chorus

Will your anchor hold in the floods of death,
When the waters cold chill your latest breath?
On the rising tide you can never fail,
While your anchor holds within the veil.

Chorus

Will your eyes behold through the morning light,
The city of gold and the harbour bright?
Will you anchor safe by the heav'nly shore,
When life's stroms are past for evermore?

Chorus

SuziKettles · 08/04/2010 15:32

And the only reason for ommitting it was that it seemed particularly gloomy to sing it at a wedding - not that the rest is all that marital, unless you consider it a hymn to hanging on when things get tough

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 15:33

babyicebean that's really actually.
did they not suggest that they be played during the signing?
you could have had a CD or a choir do it.

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 15:35

and i would scream blue murder if my choices were vetod or overruled.

it's my day after all

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scrappydappydoo · 08/04/2010 15:39

I feel your pain..
Lotd - chorus fine but the verses - not very weddingy
All things bright & beautiful - my db and sil had this and all of my dbs immature friends fell about laughing whilst singing 'the purple headed mountain'
My Mil deliberately got married in September so she could have 'we plough the fields and scatter'

Mind you I went to 'christian' wedding last month - they had 'happy day' (the Tim hughes one) and everyone joined in the vicar (who wasn't their pastor) nearly fell over with shock at the noise. It was the best wedding I'd been to in along time because they had spent ages choosing the right songs (groom is a worship leader)

shallishanti · 08/04/2010 15:40

oh thank you
I can hear him singing the chorus now

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 15:52
Sad
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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 15:56

that's what i like scrappy!

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FioFio · 08/04/2010 15:58

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2shoes · 08/04/2010 15:59

i didn't get married in a church, but if I had I would have "oh jesus I have promised"

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 16:02

ah, but which tune 2shoes ?

on purpose Fio?

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2shoes · 08/04/2010 16:03

well the one from when I was at school, it was quite up lifting.

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 16:07

is it the one where you repeat the last line of the last verse?

it's called hatherop castle, if it is (and IMO the best tune for it)

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 16:08

on here you can listen to all three tunes for it.
if it doesn't come up with the right page, click on "special occasions"

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nickelbabe · 08/04/2010 16:14

ooh, here's a gem (not hymn-related)

"What about what Dads say? I had to enlighten my dad as to what table runners are. He looked completely confused! I even had to draw him a picture! He just said 'But what are they for?!'"

i think your dad might have a point, hun....

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FrozenFlowers · 08/04/2010 16:46

At our wedding we had:

Love Divine, All Loves Excelling (which I don't especially like but DH wanted it).
Be Thou My Vision (which has the same tune as Lord of All Hopefulness, but different words)
and
Guide Me O Thou Great Redeemer.

Our church were pushing for only two hymns: DH wanted five, which everyone else agreed might be excessive. In the end the organist said she wouldn't play for more than three, so that's what we had! It was a struggle to narrow it down.

2shoes · 08/04/2010 17:02

bit hard without the singing, but I think it is the first one

pranma · 08/04/2010 17:48

My dss had Kumbaya at his wedding because they thought everyone would sing.There was something about 'Someone's crying Lord..'that made everyone try not to snigger.

MadameDefarge · 08/04/2010 19:44

At my best friends wedding, the organist managed to turn Make Me a Channel of Your Peace into a Rumba. Impressive.

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nickelbabe · 09/04/2010 10:59

Frozenflowers: Be thou my vision were the worsd before Lord of all hopefulness. the one you had is better.
i can't believe your organist would only play 3 hymns! what the hell were you paying them for? we were even thinking about 5 hmyns (and communion), on top of which will be the 2 anthems (and if we'd had communion we'd have had to have another anthem or two)!
our organists will play whatever they want and often feel guilty if the couple want a CD instead of the organ during the signing!
weird.

pranma i'd probably have missed that verse out!

madamedefarge, i love that! now i want it!!

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FrozenFlowers · 09/04/2010 22:07

nickelbabe, in fairness to our organist I think she was joking! Although they really really didn't want us to have more than three hymns, and the vicar kept pushing for two. It was a bit weird.

He also kept trying to steer us very firmly towards more modern forms of service, when we wanted the 1928 Scottish Prayerbook. I'm fond of him, and he's a lovely man, but we don't always see eye to eye!

Be Thou My Vision is my favourite hymn. I think the words are lovely.

MadameDefarge I'd love to have heard the Make Me A Channel of Your Peace Rumba!

ShellingPeas · 09/04/2010 22:18

I can't remember exactly what we had (far too many years ago...), but did have one sung to the tune of the Dam Busters. DH works in aviation.

Hulababy · 09/04/2010 22:25

WE had 3 hymns:

Lord of all hopefulness
Love divine..

and I think..

I vow to thee my country

Might have to go find an order of swrvice and check.