to have this as our 1st dance (another wedding thread, oh joy)

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DP is insisting on me choosing something for our 1st dance at our wedding (it's in august, so plenty of time to choose).
I have the natural grace and balance of a blind 3-legged hippo on roller skates, so dancing in public does not fill me with glee.

hence I have given him 2 options

1. this

or

1. this

ok, so I know I'm being unreasonable, but I am hating this wedding tweeness. does anyone have better ideas for 1st dances - songs that aren't too vomit-inducing, but a wee bit romantic?

They are really, their only purpose is to encourage everyone else to get on the floor. At our wedding I shall be instructing all the bridesmaids and ushers to make this happen within seconds of the song starting

We had 'we have all the time in the world' by Louis Armstrong. Here it is

Romantic without being cringeworthy.

My other choice was this

Of course, if you want to be all kinds of awesome, go for this.

We had "you're the best thing" by the Style Council

Can I be brutally honest and say that I find 'wacky' and self consciously non-traditional type songs used at weddings and funerals as an assertion of the personality and non conformity of the happy couple (or deceased!) to be just as cringe inducing as following the cliche routes.

You don't have to 'dance' for a wedding song, you just stand there, having a hug, and move your feet a wee bit if you can manage it. If you have parents etc there they will probably enjoy the tradition of joining you.

If you really don't want to do even that, then just play any 'floor filler' disco tune that will hopefully get them all up. Bear in mind though that many women and almost all men will not dance at all until they are plastered, so be realistic about how full the dancefloor will be early on.

But where do you draw the line between 'deliberate statement' and 'well loved if unorthodox song', Morris? I mean, all the songs that DP and I have considered are genuinely 'an assertion of the personality' of us, in that they're all songs we both love that mean something to us. None of them were chosen in a deliberate attempt to convey our wackiness (the clown shoes and kipper ties should do that ).

It would be much more cringe-inducing to have something that neither of us liked just because it's what's expected, I feel.

i would go for option 2. i had robbie williams angels for first dance. i didn't want a first dance but everyone said we had to do something. it spoilt an otherwise fab day.

cyteen I agree, of course you should pick a song you both like. But if it's Black Sabbath or the Birdy Song or something and it's all 'we're crazy, we are' then to me that's no better than having Robbie Williams or whatever.

I find it hard to believe that any couple can't come up with a song they both like that their parents can slow dance to - Snow Patrol is fine, Elvis is fine, it doesn't matter what it is. But having some wacky number that is totally undanceable for many is a total cringe imo and one step away from exchanging vows and eating wedding cake on a roller coaster.

My now SIL is a Choreographer so she put together a fab full on dance routine to She Will Be Loved by Maroon 5 for us.

We spent hours learning it. 10 mins before the big display of affection was due, I got ice for feet and chickened out. Queue glass of vino and ta da! There was me all ready to go!!!!

I have to say I'm not usually a fan of this sort of thing but really enjoyed it, as did our guests, apparently!

Cyteen we have the same taste in cheesy songs!
I walked down the "aisle" to that Fleetwood Mac track (sniff), and I considered the Divynils as 1st dance. (I did a poll on FB the day before my wedding)

I didn't want a first dance, but the ILs like this kind of guff, and they paid for most of it.

Oh haha this thread has brought back so many memories...

Im not a wedding person either. We didnt have a clue about a song and ended up picking Texas "Put Your Arms Around Me"which wasnt the worst - but it was such an effort to come up with that when the registrar asked what I wanted to walk up the aisle to I said oh heck just whatever you have - and ended up walking up to Martine McCutcheon!!! Even worse she played it three times before I actually managed into the room......

On a serious note, a fab and beautiful love song is Nick Cave Into Your Arms - lyrics are amazing. Sorry I dont know how to put links on here...

crankytwanky - DP is even less impressed with the fresh prince track than with 4'33''!! nice!

Into Your Arms is gorgeous but not permissible as part of a civil ceremony due to the religious references (obviously would be fine for a first dance though).

if you're going for the proclaimers then sunshine on leith is the way forward, it's actually quite a romantic song.

Think we're going to have 'Dirty Old Town' by the pogues.

We said we couldnt be arsed with a first dance song, didnt have a very traditional wedding and just didnt fancy doing one.
DJ had other ideas and 'chose' one for us. It was 'crazy' by Patsy Cline I think and it sounded very much to me like it was all about divorce. Good job we found it funny

We had Elton John can you feel the love tonight. It makes me well up thinking about it. A pianist was playing it as we said our vows and it was our 1st dance song too.

Oooh a different but appropriate Into Your Arms is this by the Lemonheads. It's so jangly you can just sway a bit and it's gorgeous and romantic and only two minutes long.

DP and I are having Postal Service - Such Great Heights if we have to have a first dance. We do not do cheese.

Good Lemonheads spot, Chutes I might suggest that to DP actually...