Does anyone else think this is a bit wierd?

[MadameCheese]

My DS was given birthday presents by my in-laws which have to stay at their house for him to use. We hardly ever go there so it seems a bit unfair that he's not able to use them most of the time.

I think they were actually trying to be nice so that the kids have their own toys away from home and would feel comfortable there. I think if your dcs are too young to understand this you should say that they are really excited with their new gifts and next time you will bring some toys that can be left there.

I don't think it's spiteful either really - just a bit ill considered and perhaps a touch parsimonious

lol. I neither get the good bits nor the bad bits. So it's easier for me to be understanding.

How many grandchildren do they have? Maybe you should compare notes.

I have the opposite problem.

Gave my DGD a you beaut bike with mobile phone on the handles (plays music.

Handle on the back for adult to push. Proper safety harnesses.

Plays music when you push it along.

It has been at my home for 12 months.

They won't take it home

Yes we do use it a lot (DGD is now 2 and 10 month old has taken it over}

But I gave it to her as a present with the idea that she would take it home and use it.

I don't say anything, because I don't want to rock the boat.

Aw, I am sorry your dcs are missing out on gps, and sad for you too

HMC - no worries, I wish it was different but it's not. They have loads of aunties and uncles tho! (and cousins).

Coral - Wonder why that is, do they have the space for it?

My mother does this, but a) she has my daughter one morning a week at hers, b) it's made clear from the outset that it's a toy to be opened and kept at Nana's house and c) I love it, because lord knows I have enough crap at mine as it is.

Her birthday present, e.g., was a wading pool. I don't want to faff about with setting that thing up, so it can stay at Nana's.

What were the gifts, though, OP? Small things or big?

My ex and his girlfriend brought my DD something 2 weeks late for her Birthday and she had to leave it there and when i Pulled him up on this'the something' that he brought her ,dissapeared, how selfish and werid.

I've told my mum if she wants to buy DD giant dolls and water tables she can bloody well keep them at her house! We live in a flat and there is only so much crap it can take!

But yes GPs being weird. It's one thing to have special toys for grandma's, but different when it is a birthday present.

What a great response and probably because I spelt weird weirdly . While I understand it is great for DS (2) to have toys to play with at PILs I object to them being his presents. I also wonder why I'm told "they're to stay here" straight away. I did mention that I thought it unfair to him and MIL got very emotional so I felt bad. I still think it's a bit mean spirited as they're pretty well off. As for visiting they come here fairly often so it's not like they don't get to see DS on a regular basis. Far more often than my own parents in fact.

I asked inlaws to keep some toys (gifts) at their house. We have too many here. Not that ds has been to stay for a while.

Sounds normal to me. I deliberately 'forget' my girls' presents at their grandparents house because we have so much junk toys at my house.

My sister's children have gps that do this, including some really lovely wooden toys which DN has played with about three times in as many years........ I think the gran(who is step) is just banking them for when she gets her own gc.

That's fine if it is your decision to leave them...