to say 'Serves you f*cking right!'...

[PersonalClown]

to my DP's father and his girlfriend??

She is being done for £18,000 in benefit fraud.
She was claiming HB, CTB and I think Incapacity whilst working and having DP's father living there.

And now they are on the phone bleating about how hard done by they are.
No more holidays to Florida, no more top of the range laptops and having to watch every penny.
My heart fucking bleeds!

And now they reckon that she will just be made bankrupt and everything will be hunkydory again.

I'm practically chewing my tongue off trying not to shout that They are partly the reason why Carer's are paid a pittance and there are more deserving people than them who NEED this money!

GGRRRRRR!! Rant over and breatheeeeeeeeeee.....

I think your feelings are understandable.

I don't really understand bankruptcy at all. We have friends who deliberatley ran up debt knowing they would declare themselves bankrupt. They managed to fiddle paying it back so have only paid back a fraction at a low rate. They now rent privately, he has a bank account and credit cards and apparantly have a way of getting a mortgage.

They regularly laugh at us for quite diligently paying off debt that was run up paying medical bills rather than plasma TVs.

stop being arsey tethersend. You're disagreeing for the sake of it.

Oh dear god the pedants have caught me!!!
I do apologise Quattro.. I shall go and flog myself for it!

But I shall hold my tongue and say nothing to them. Thank you all for allowing me to rant!!

Maybe try and just look smug rather than sounding like a potty mouth - it is not just benefit fraud that leaves a bad taste in my mouth but the senseless bandying about of foul language!

You're right, Lyra, let's all pile on and celebrate the fact that the OP's family got caught cheating benefits and are going bankrupt!!!

Makes you glad to be alive!!

MadameCastafiore, you may be on the wrong website if swearwords upset you

Tethers. You need a drink

I can tell you need a drink because I recognise the symptoms ...

Tehthersend - I have been here for years and remember when they were not thrown about as often as they are now - I just think people can do better than using profanities to put a point across ar express the gravity of such point.

I work with teenagers and they use these words frankly far too foten and I think if we all made a concerted effort to stop swearing the world would be a nice place.

Got any gin?

Who mentioned celebrating, tethersend?
The OP has every right to feel the way she does. They knowingly fiddle the cash, then they complain when they get caught. And you, apparently, think that's ok.
Or maybe you're just the kind of poster who goes on AIBU threads with the sole intention of disagreeing with the OP, no matter what the subject matter, just so you can say 'well you did post in AIBU'.

Gimme some of that wine

I don't think it's unreasonable for the op to feel pleased that a thief has been caught out in her theft. She is only human and yes ideally we'd all rise above these things but sometimes it's impossible to avoid thinking that people have exactly what they deserve.

£18 000 is a pretty huge amount of money and the op's fil and g/friend have only expressed concern about how they can hang on to what they should never have had. I would have a lot less sympathy with the op if she could report their genuine remorse etc - but as none is apparently on display I join her in thinking 'ha'.

I work with teenagers too, Madame- perhaps that's why I tune the swearing out

I came across as patronising, my apologies.

I don't mind the swearing. In fact, I like it.

There's a difference between feeling pleased and posting a thread on a website inviting others to reinforce how great it is, and share your joy.

"They knowingly fiddle the cash, then they complain when they get caught. And you, apparently, think that's ok."

Please show me where I have said that that is ok, Lyra.

Do you really find it so strange that I disagree with the OP?

Make your own mind up what kind of poster I am

And yet, if the subjects of the OP were house burglars instead of benefit cheats, I suspect your reaction would be different. then it would be ok for the OP to 'celebrate' the fact that they got caught.

OOohh, got me sussed there Lyra!

Can you show me where I've said benefit fraud is OK?

Why not start a thread on a burglar getting caught? I'll post on it if you like

this is going the same way as the benefit fraud thread the other week. yawn.

I just noticed the amount they took - £18000. that's my DH's salary, before tax. sigh!

I'm in no way condoning what your family members did OP, it was clearly wrong,wrong, wrong and theft etc, however, I find it hard to feel any happiness at all at anyone else's misfortune personally- and tbh, I feel a bit sorry for anyone who does.

I can see the point that it's wrong to laugh at somebody's misfortune. I was probably a bit too gleeful at first reading the OP.

however, it's not misfortune is it? to commit a crime, and get caught?

YANBU - what a farking load

It's the buying wholeheartedly into the culture of informing on benefit fraudsters (I am not suggesting the OP informed on her FIL) which irks me, rather than the delight in someone else's misfortune, TBH.

It's such a convenient little scheme for the government to get the poorest in society to police each other, and it saddens me.

I am aware I am a lone voice here, but I honestly find it abhorrent.

Why didn't YOU report them before it got to the £18,000 stage op?????

Good question, ThreeBlondeBoys.

It's not misfortune,I agree, as I said they did wrong, committed a crime, got caught, will be punished in some way etc etc.

It just doesn't give ME any pleasure or satisfaction to think they've been caught, and I struggle to relate to

"yaay nasty benefit cheats will be punished" type posts (not singling anyone's out btw!)

I admit it does give me satisfaction that people get caught, in the same way that if you are in a traffic queue on the motorway and some idiot roars passed on the hardshoulder you have some kind of satisfaction if they are caught.

I find it is a case of "as if we are all loving sitting here in the queue/trying to make ends meet while you are on the scam thumbing your noses at the rest of us"