AIBU to think DH could think for himself sometimes?

[MrsDermotOleary]

DH is in a pretty high powered job involving a lot of decision making and manual labour. He is very thorough and has an excellent reputation in his business. He is regularly headhunted and never out of work.

However, at home he is just so different. I work two part time jobs, he works full time but erratic times and is away a lot. I juggle my jobs around the kids nursery (they are 2&4) and DH being at home. I am at home more than him so I do more housework, fair enough. But I am sick of having to look after him as well as 2 dc. For example, I loaded the washing machine and asked him to fetch his washing down and switch the machine on. I left the door open and the drawer open too so he could see I had put the powder in. So DH gets his washing, switches machine on. Later I got into kitchen and floor is flooded. He left the drawer open because "you didn't tell me to close it"

He goes shopping and asks me what we need. I make a list through the week as I notice we've run out of something. If I don't give him a list he will come home with random food, nothing to make a meal with. He will take the kids out but won't take nappies/wipes/drinks because he assumes I will pack them. Then he spends money on snacks/drinks/nappies which tbh we can't afford.
Lately he has taken books and a dvd out of the library on the dc's cards and not told me. Then I get an email saying they are overdue and he gets all defensive saying that I should have asked him. Wtf?
Am struggling to cope with work and 2 dc's, I really don't need to be responsible for DH too. I just wish he would finish a job. He is driving me mad.

Coldtits - have you thought about writing a book or a play? Brilliant

Coldtits does work but it does take patience.

I also went on strike which meant dh had to step up. I didn't actually tell him I was on strike, I told him I was heavily pg and tired from work so couldn't do everything when he finally realised things were not getting down. I hated to play the pregnancy card but he had to learn before the baby born, as I wasn't going to be his mother as well as a mother to a newborn.

It worked and he took control of the washing (as he had no clean boxers!) and after a few disasters (flooded kitchen, dyed clothes and rock hard towels) he mastered it and 2 years later he considers washing his thing and does it without any complaints.

But he still needs asking but will do anything that I ask. I do resent the fact that I had to teach him everything and his mother did nothing to show him how to look after himself. But I guess the up side is now when he cleans he does it the way I like!

His favourite saying is 'I didn't think' though ahhhh!