To think it is out of order that

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my MIL did not bother to call my children on Easter Sunday or buy them an egg? Especially as she went away with the rest of her grandchildren. I don't want to sound petty over it, but I feel a bit peed off really, I think it's quite cruel of her. My children are only two years old and four months old, so they couldn't care less but they do tend to get left out a lot.

YABU, because, as you say yourself, your children are too little to care. Which is probably why she didn't call. I would have thought it was a bit weird if my MIL called DS, he's not old enough to chat on the phone.

They are also too young for chocolate!

Why would she buy a baby of 4 months an easter egg?

Cruel in what sense? It's not as if they are old enough to be aware of any percieved slight.

as with all MIL threads, I suspect there is more to it thatn this...

YABU. As you said they are not old enough to care, so why even think about it?

My MIL sent my 16month old a bunny and some little chocolate bunnies through the post, and my first thought was, why would you bother? She's too young to care?

But then I realised I was being horrible, it's just that my family don't really do Easter, and my daughter has enough soft toys and doesn't eat chocolate.

Maybe your MIL is more like me?

My son speaks to relatives on the phone all the time, so it's not unusual here. They ask to speak to him he chatters away! As a treat I think a small amount of choc is fine for my son, not my daughter - each to their own! I guess my real issues is the fact they get left out! Good point RRR, but I doubt it with her.

I don't think YABU at all. I have a 14month old DD and we didn't hear from my DPs parents either. My mum got her a little present, because she is too small for chocolate.
But then again, my PIL said they would not get anything for DD for Christmas because she has too many toys, which made me feel really sad.
I would be peed off too.

Why would you buy chocolate for babies? Or call them? Bizarre.
I can just imagine the opposite of this AIBU... my MIL sent chocolate for my babies, how dare she give them rubbish, and she insisted on calling us and talking to the children, how dare she she interrupt our family time....

Yawn.

You see, this is what I meant about DILzillas on the other thread.

YABU. (and I hate MILs usually)

Gosh I find it odd that most of you think it's odd that I want a phonecall from my MIL to ask how my children are, what's their day been like etc? And then for her to ask to speak to DS? It's not odd to do this in my family so perhaps that's why I am feeling sensitive about the whole thing.

Why ask if you don't want to hear any answer that isn't agreeing with you.

I disliked talking to my own young children on the phone, never mind anyone elses, that isn't unreasonable at all!

Actually by your standards everyone i know is U!

Maybe she doesn't realize what a massive deal easter has suddenly become.

I don't mind hearing answers that don't agree with me, I didn't expect to come on here and everyone to agree with me - that's why I posted. However, I didn't ask whether people thought it was okay that I give my son choc or whether it was right or wrong that my two year old son talks to relatives on the phone.

I am close with both my parents and my PILs. My DD is 8y. But neither called on Easter Sunday and we didn't expect them too. PILs had sent DD a chocolate egg last time we saw them, and my mum buys her a book - which we will collect next time we go. But I wouldn't expect a call on Easter - but then other than a bit of chocolate we don't really do Easter.

To me Easter is not like Christmas or birthdays, when I would expect a call yes (although at 4m and 2y it would be a call to me or DH, not DD).

Is Easter a much bigger event for you and your family?

Oh, and I have no problemw ith chocolate for toddlers. My own DD had her fair share at that age, although not at 4m obviously. But she had chocolate before a year old - so my comments are not chocolate baised.

YANBU.

In mine and DH's families, all GC get treated the same regardless of age - so my 3yr old and baby DS's got an egg and a little pair of socks respectively from MIL, equivalent to what the older GC's got. SHe also called to say Happy Easter.

If people actually bothered to read the OP, they would see that the question is about the OP's children getting treated differently to the other GC's.

I think it's odd that you think they should call your 2 year old on easter sunday... xmas and birthday yes, but easter?

YABU

I read the OP Sal, but she doesn't seem to be complaining that the grandmother won't go away with her children. More that her children should have some easter fuss, because it's easter.

I suppose the fact that she spent the Easter break with eight other GC and my children didn't so much as get an invite makes me feel that a phonecall to speak to DS would have been nice.

At least you don't have to pretend that they have eaten an easter egg/offend the person who bought the egg by telling them your child has not eaten it. YABU.

I read it as she was annoyed that she was doing something with her other GC's - presumably for the Easter weekend - and not bothering with the OP's. WHich is fair enough. I can't beleive everyone thinks the OP is BU because she is upset her MIL isn't bothering - normally it's DIL's getting stick for not wanting MIL's involved!!

You didn't say that in the OP. Drip drip...

nowherewoman...I wouldn't pretend anyway...rofl I have no issue with my son having a bit of choc every now and then! I wouldn't dream of giving it to my four month old....just yet!