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my MIL did not bother to call my children on Easter Sunday or buy them an egg? Especially as she went away with the rest of her grandchildren. I don't want to sound petty over it, but I feel a bit peed off really, I think it's quite cruel of her. My children are only two years old and four months old, so they couldn't care less but they do tend to get left out a lot.

Who organised the meet up?

yabu this is not something to be upset about

OK, so this is about the meet up then? The OP did not really make that clear IMO.

Who arranged the meet up?

Were you and your children delibertely missed out?

Have your children not spent time with MIL at other times when the other grandchildren were not there? (kind of evening it out maybe)

Are the other GC a different age? Maybe MIL finds older children easier ti handle or commnicate with (some people do)?

If your children are being shunned in favour of other GC all the time then yes, I can understand your upset. And your DH/DP should address this.

How can it not be relevant that people have opinions on chocolate or phone calls to small children? I don't think it's WRONG to talk to them on the phone, I just don't think they're terribly chattable. So it wouldn't be a big deal to me that she hadn't phoned. And if you'd said she hadn't given your 4 year old an egg, I'd have thought that was a bit mean, but as I wouldn't give chocolate to a 2 year old myself, I didn't classify it as mean.
And I don't think Easter's a big deal either.

So it's a shame you're upset and if the children are always being left out, then yes I can see why. But the whole Easter thing is a bit of a red herring really isn't it? It's more like one more event that's getting to you.

Yes it's just one thing after the other, but as I say my son is very chatty and in our family all the children get on the phone and talk to family members, so again it's unusual if it doesn't happen. Also, I should have said he was two and a half not two and again I don't see anything wrong in giving him chocolate....as a treat?!

But in many families it is not the norm to telephone family on Easter Sunday; it just isn't treated in the same way as Christmas or birthdays for many people. Do your family treat it differently? Does MIL normally treat it dfferently with her other GC?

Re. the telephone thing. Many people don't really enjoy talking to toddlers on the phone. Whether he is 2 or 2and a half doesn't make much diffference in that sense. Maybe MIL isn't keen on talking to toddlers via a phone.

You never answered about the meet up - how. who arranged it, etc?

It is bone-headedly daft to give chocolate to children who are too young to know that it even exists. Fact.

But this has nothing to do with chocolate does it? It is all about the rest of the family leaving you and your children out of an Easter get-together. On the face of it - because we don't know what other vital information will be dripped our way - it sounds rather hurtful and yes, I think if I was the mother of the Uninvited Two I'd be pissed off as well.

My MIL oftens phones and asks to speak to DS, so does my mother and father, they actually enjoy speaking to him. The choc thing I am bored of, in his life time he has been given some as a TREAT....he will not be a binge eater like the children deprived of such things!

Anyway, as I say it's all down to the fact my children tend to get left out and this was just another example of her doing just that.

Apologies, but I am bored of this thread now, it seems all some people want to do is dictate to me about phonecalls and chocolate...but thanks for all your comments.x

I ate heaps of my DS's easter eggs tonight. They were delicious! Of course I did it to save him from tooth decay, childhood obesity and so forth.

I think most of you (especially Runnybottom, quite contrary) are missing the point.

I see it as the OP is just a bit miffed that her DC got left out and not that they missed out on a bit of cheap chocolate. My MIL just sends DC a matchbox car for easter. That's more than fine by me, it's a token gift to say that she's thinking of him and not excluding him when she buys his older cousins easter eggs. It does hurt when you feel that your LO is getting left out and others aren't. It might not make your LO hurt but it makes you hurt for them.

No-one in my entire family bought my DCs an egg. I am not bothered in teh slightest! There are no rules to say you must buy kids chocolate at easter.

Actually, it wa smy Ds 2nd birthday yesterday, and he didnt get a single phonecall. Have only just realised, so it obvioulsy didnt bothe rme before lol.