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to be peeved at stealing preggers glory?

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SulkyMcSulksulk · 04/04/2010 19:58

.. yeah I think I know the answer to this, but will rant anyway...

I am 13 weeks pg and am the first in the family to sprogginate... hence am quite enjoying the excited attention from my family and the in-laws. Then had a call from my (much loved) twin sis yesterday saying that lo and behold, they are pregnant! She's due 2 months after me.

I AM happy for her, really I am but I can't help feeling very much like stamping my foot and whinging 'But its MY turn!! Get out of my spotlight!!' Doesn't help that they managed it first time, and it took us almost a year to get that BFP (and I know, that's not really that long, unless you're in the middle of 2ww hell..)

.. Ok, I will stop behaving like a two year old now...

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WidowWadman · 04/04/2010 20:00

It's the hormones I guess. Your child will have a cousin close in age, you can compare notes, it's actually a good thing,

titch7069 · 04/04/2010 20:02

Just think though, you'll have done everything first and can enjoy being thoroughly superior whilst telling her how to do things!

Alternatively you could just enjoy sharing the experience with your twin

you are being a 'tiny' bit U,but you are pregnant and hormonal you can be as difficult as you like! (just try not to alienate the family)

mad4mainecoons · 04/04/2010 20:03

ok you know you are being a little U. but IMHO you are entitled to be!

you are entitled to be a little at how easy it was for them. FWIW i was a little too about my good friends pg as i was enjoying the attention from all an sundry in our small village.

get over it now,move on and enjoy!

Many congratulations

EggcentricaGallumbits · 04/04/2010 20:04

YABU for using preggers, sprogginate and they are pregnant.

don't bloody do it again. ever.

congratulations though.

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SulkyMcSulksulk · 04/04/2010 20:05

Yeah it IS great that we'll be on ML together and the babies will be so close. I need to focus on that really.

Haven't said any of this to the family as (in my few rational moments!) I can see how crappy it is to feel this way - thats why I love MN so much! I can rant without (too much) fear of recrimination! Thanks both

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moomaa · 04/04/2010 20:05

I am jealous, my poor sister has been trying for ages to get pregnant and I am now pregnant with DC3. I really hoped that we would be sharing the experience and having babies together this time.

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SulkyMcSulksulk · 04/04/2010 20:06

Lol eggcentric, I like sprogginate!! (that could be the hormones though.. )

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moomaa · 04/04/2010 20:06

yes, good to rant on here

rubyslippers · 04/04/2010 20:07

huge congratulations

how special for you to be able to share something as wonderful as a pregnancy with your sister - the spotlight will be big enough for the two of you

however, please, please refrain from using terms such as sprogginate

SpeedyGonzalez · 04/04/2010 20:08

YABU and self-centred and childish and ohhhhh I totally understand where you're coming from! Luckily for me, owing to the way our families have worked I've never been in this position, so my pregnancies have always been the only ones at that time.

Go on, have a sulk, and then, call your sis every week and have fun getting excited over your new babies together!

Congrats - having children is bloody knackering, unbelievably challenging, but also the BEST THING EVER!!!

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SulkyMcSulksulk · 04/04/2010 20:10

Ahh you lot are fab, thanks for the sense-knocking-into-me. Will call sis and talk baby delights. Thanks all.

So how long can I use the hormonal excuse then?

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JazzieJeff · 04/04/2010 20:10

Haha! It's actually quite funny in a way, I think I'd feel the same way. Just don't say anything to your sister

MorrisZapp · 04/04/2010 20:11

I'm the opposite. I'm 13 weeks too, and my best friend has had 2 MMCs in a row.

My only sadness about this pregnancy is that she isn't pregnant too, and that I can't really share the details of my scan joy with her as she had such awful ones.

As for the attention, I can't wait for the general election - anything! - to take away some of the attention I am getting just now. Feels like I've lost my privacy and identity already and still sooo long to go.

I wish the whole world was pregnant right now, and I could get some peace.

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SulkyMcSulksulk · 04/04/2010 20:14

God Morris (and Mooma) you're right, those are much worse scenarios. I hope that the respective situations get better.

Morris - I'm loving the attention, but that may have something to do with being a twin AND coming from a large family - it's nice doing something that no one else has done yet! Also, it means I get to talk baby all the time, which is fab.

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posieparker · 04/04/2010 20:17

Congratulations, the joy of feeling your baby kicking soon and becoming a parent will be difficult to be outdone. The overwhelming feeling of love and happiness when you hold your baby will be too wonderful to ever think anyone feels as amazing as you do. So experience a little stamping feet behaviour and get rid of it. Your new baby will have a cousin very close in age and it will be brilliant to have someone so close to share that with.

I think we all like to be the centre of attention first time round, so make sure your DH spoils you!!

elmofan · 04/04/2010 20:18

my sister & i were pregnant at the same time & due the same week , our babies were born four days apart , my parents were running from one ward to the other it was great as i was on my first baby & my sister was on her third .

congratulations xx
ps - my sister in law was pregnant the same time as me when i had my second dc, so i always seem to share my pregnancy's lol

RockSteady · 04/04/2010 20:20

haha i like sprogginate! but unfortunately yabu, itll be nice overall because you can talk to eachother about pregnancy and babies and wont have to bore anyone else

MorrisZapp · 04/04/2010 20:20

No worries at all sulky, my friend is doing great and hoping to get pg again v soon anyway.

Good luck with it all!

RockSteady · 04/04/2010 20:21

oh and congratulatyions

ChunkyPickle · 04/04/2010 20:23

I was actually hoping my sister would get pregnant first and take the heat off me.. as it is, I'm getting the well-meaning questions/advice and am soooo grateful I'm halfway around the world and not having to deal with prodding too...

The one good thing is my cousin is 6 weeks ahead of me, so at least my little one is only the first grandchild, and not the first great grandchild (so I can escape presenting the poor thing for inspection at Christmas)

NiceShoes · 04/04/2010 20:24

You are being daft but you already know that.
Congratulations on both pregnancies.In long run you will appreciate both having babies so close to support each other

5inthebed · 04/04/2010 20:29

YANB hormonally U. I know where you are coming from, ahving sort of been there myself, still living with the pissed off feeling 6 years later, so really I ABU, even worse so than you.

Maybe I should start my own thread, but it would take too much time and effort.

Congratulations , try to enjoy it and out those annoyed feeling behind you.

skidoodly · 04/04/2010 20:30

My little sis (18 months younger) got pregnant a few months after me. I didn't really have the foot stamping thing at all, I was delighted for my sis, but I can tell you how lovely it is to have a child close in age to your sisters.

We liked it so much we did it again (with the same "age gap"). My DD2 is 4 months younger than her DD

I knew people who were trying to get pregnant and having trouble were sometimes understandably resentful of pregnant friends. I had no idea that happily pregnant people were so petty.

When I've been pregnant I've always been really excited to find out other people were pregnant. Maybe it's because I find being pregnant a total pain in the arse (literally as well as figuratively) and like company in my misery.

GwennieF · 04/04/2010 20:31

I don't think YABU, my sister got pregnant at the same time as me. I as really happy for her, but just the tinyest bit pissed off too....

wonka · 04/04/2010 20:37

My sister fell pregnant unmarried dropped out of college and moved home when I fell pregnant with my DS1, After 4 MC at first I was a bit put out.. But it made us really close during our pregnancies.. and our DC are REALLY close. She even pipped me to the post delivering the first GC 10 weeks early! But I adore her and her child so you will get over it and it will be a good thing, Promise!