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colour themed weddings

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MrsCosmopolite · 04/04/2010 13:20

Been invited to a wedding, it's in a couple of weeks but the bride has suddenly decided that all the guests should wear either cream or red . It's definitely not in the invite that we have to wear those particular colours, it's just something she has decided would be nice since sending the invites out.

I've already bought my outfit, it's blue.

AIBU to wear my outfit and ignore her request to wear cream or red.

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5DollarShake · 04/04/2010 13:25

No - she is BU, 2 weeks before her wedding, to expect guests to fork out for yet another expense.

Eglu · 04/04/2010 13:26

YANBU I would have thought that most people would have got an outfit by now.

hatwoman · 04/04/2010 13:29

yanbu - but you should tell her - gently, of course. perhaps also say that you suspect other people may already have bought outfits and may not, at this late stage, be able to get something red or cream. she's being completely ridiculous btw, but you can;t say that. not explicitly anyway

compo · 04/04/2010 13:31

could you swap your outfit for the same in cream or red, or more similar to those colours than blue, like orange or yellow?

Meglet · 04/04/2010 13:33

Yanbu. If she wants you all in cream / red she can go and buy all the clothes herself.

Do you know other guests so you can check what they're wearing. Hopefully loads of you will stick with what you've already bought and bridezilla will get a reality check.

SugarMousePink · 04/04/2010 13:36

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amber1979 · 04/04/2010 13:39

YANBU.

She's being an utter bridezilla.

I suggest you wear this instead:

www.the-gothic-shop.co.uk/black-gothiclolita-mini-corset-dress-p-2855.html

ChippingIn · 04/04/2010 13:43

I don't get the 'coloured theme' for guests - but if it's your wedding then you are entitled to do as you please (so long as no animals get hurt in the filming ), HOWEVER not putting this on the invite really makes the request 'too late darlin'. It's way too close to the wedding to expect people to do that. I would text her to say 'Sorry, I have already bought my outfit for your wedding, if you'd said so on the invite I would have been happy to oblige. If you'd rather we didn't attend the wedding as we will be in the 'wrong' colours - please just let me know'

sweetnitanitro · 04/04/2010 13:45

YANBU. I've never understood the whole 'colour theme for guests' thing.

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MrsCosmopolite · 04/04/2010 14:14

compo it was only available in blue.

Meglet yes, my sister iirc her exact response was ''is she having a fucking laugh'', also mutual friends with another lass and she has no intention of buying a new outfit, mainly because she was made redundant and has no spare money to do so. There will be three rebels at least .. oh and our husbands.

amber1979 lol, maybe if I was 10 years younger

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Blackduck · 04/04/2010 14:42

Do brides REALLY tell guests what colour to wear? How bizarre.....

amber1979 · 04/04/2010 14:54

Apparently they do - never come across it in RL. But then nor do I know anyone who would be so rude as to specify "no children" or to specifically not invite the occasionally confused elderly relative - all of these horrible ideas have been floated on here!

Good manners is not just about saying please and thank you, it's about accepting people warts and all as far as you possibly can.

EricNorthmansmistress · 04/04/2010 18:21

Does she expect the men to dress in red and cream too? The mind boggles. Honestly, what a horrible, naff idea. All the colours of red will be slightly different and clash and give everyone a headache. And the photos will look like the guests are some kind of sports team. Why are some brides so barmy?

CrankyTwanky · 04/04/2010 18:33

lol at sports team!
They'll look like those 118runners!

SHE is BU.

amber1979 · 04/04/2010 19:00

That or extras from a splatter flick!

thumbchick · 04/04/2010 19:15

YANBU - just wear a red or cream flower/corsage thingy (actually with a blue outfit I'd go for the cream flower option) and she can shove it.

Friends of mine got married - she was Indian, he was not, but they asked everyone to wear Indian costume (to help appease bride's motherzilla) and at least 25% of the guests did not comply. I doubt you'll be alone.

For entertainment, you might want to read this old thread on similar lines...

elliemental · 04/04/2010 19:20

wear a red or cream sash

pigletmania · 04/04/2010 19:31

YANBU bit bridezilla is BU. I would inform the bride that you have already got your outfit and many others have so it will not be possible. The utter nerve of some people really, and two weeks before the wedding

salbysea · 04/04/2010 19:34

that sounds like it'll look awful! everyone in different shades of red and cream!

wear a red or cream hair piece / broach / shoes with your blue dress that way you are technically complying

foxyD · 04/04/2010 20:37

What a naff idea telling everyone to wear red and cream. I would stick to your blue dress, i'm sure you won't be alone!

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 04/04/2010 21:21

YANBU. The bride is being bonkers.

cityangel · 05/04/2010 00:00

Sounds like she's just getting carried away and can't see the wood for the trees...
She is being a more than a bit silly though... anyone who honours the ridiculously late request will more likely opt for cream and too many guests in cream will look like several brides have turned up!
Also there are so many shades or red and some clash!

geraldinetheluckygoat · 05/04/2010 00:04

how ridiculous. Wear a massive wedding dress with red trimmings....

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