colour themed weddings

[MrsCosmopolite]

Been invited to a wedding, it's in a couple of weeks but the bride has suddenly decided that all the guests should wear either cream or red . It's definitely not in the invite that we have to wear those particular colours, it's just something she has decided would be nice since sending the invites out.

I've already bought my outfit, it's blue.

AIBU to wear my outfit and ignore her request to wear cream or red.

Has the bride herself said this in these terms?

I "banned pink" at my own wedding... well in fact I did no such thing, but a throwaway comment I made early on in the planning about not wanting a "pink" wedding got passed on in the manner of a chinese whisper, no doubt in a similar way to this thread, i.e. "oh my god have you heard the outrageous demand the bride has made!"

It had never for one second even crossed my mind to dictate what my guests could or couldn't wear, but once the rumour got started it led to some bad feeling among some of the guests. I was even accused of conspiring to make sure only the "special people" got to wear the "special colour"! Madness!

YANBU- just tell her that you already have your outfit and will be wearing blue. Brides can control the bits they are paying for and not the rest! You could try telling her you will wear what you are told to wear if she buys it!

One of my friends did this.

Wanted everyone in primrose or puce. Even the mens ties had to be those colours, and thier suits grey.

The group wedding pictures looked shite, it looked like she had a hundred bridesmaids and ushers.

YA def NBU; have you and you DP got old red tshirts or cream jeans or whatever .

PMSL @ primrose or puce.

What colour is puce anyway?

I was thinking the same MaMight.

Picturing puce as the colour someones face may be after running a marathon.

Not a good look imo

Puce is grim purple AFAIK

YANBU, but maybe the bride is aware that it is a bit short notice, so won't mind if people don't turn up in cream or red.

Red and cream are gross so YANBU on this basis alone.

What sort of bride gives a flying poo about what her guests wear anyway? I had a traditional church wedding followed by a reception at a small stately home so even though I didn't stipulate a dress code, I just assumed most people would turn up at least semi-formal.

Looking through the wedding photos a month later, we realised that one of our mates had turned up in a denim jacket, my cousin was wearing Converse all-stars with his suit and my friends' boyfriend was wearing corduroy jeans and an open-necked shirt. I didn't even bloody notice and cared nothing when I saw it on the wedding photos. They'd taken a day out to come to our wedding and bought us a present! They could have turned up wearing loincloths for all I cared. Brides who want to control their guests' outfit choices are control freaks of the Adolf variety, full-stop.

Just as a response to Amber1979, we stipulated no children and I wouldn't consider it rude. It's the couples' choice. We were working to a budget and if we'd invited everyones' kids, it would have worked out to be an extra 27 guests. Couldn't afford it, plain and simple. Only one person (my cousin who I've moaned about in another thread ) took issue with it and neither she nor her DH came. That's their prerogative. The other people who couldn't bring LOs said they were grateful for the excuse to get a babysitter and have a day off. Likewise, we got invited to 3 weddings last year where LOs WERE invited but I chose not to take DS. They are long days for adults, nevermind LOs. It's also a pet hate when a parent will not take their crying child out during the ceremony. It's like "Yeah, I came to watch these people get married, not listen to your LO crying in the highest pitch possible." I bet I'll get flamed for that

I can just think how nasty the wedding photos will be