not to accept a Facebook friend request from someone I don't know?

[dollybird]

I had a friend request from some guy I don'tknow and we had no mutual friends so I sent him a message saying I didn't know him. He basically said he sent me the request because he thought I looked cute and that I am a friend of a friend. I asked who and he then proceeded to call me hard work because I didn't just accept the request. I said that I'm not hard work and there's nothing weird about not accepting friend requests from total strangers & also that he didn't know which one was me as I'm with a friend in my profile pic. He then said he's looked at all my pics and knows which one's me.

I'm totally pissed off and upset, cos I don't think I'm hard work and upset that he's looked at my photos (I thought all my albums were friends only but one was accidentally everyone which i've now changed). Why would anyone send a friend request to a total stranger, and why would they then be pissed off when that person doesn't just accept the request and wants to know how they know them??

YABU - don't enter into conversations with people you don't want to be facebook friends with, just click the refuse button.

I've had requests like that in the past, and I just ignore them.
He sounds a bit tossy to me.

The thing is, is, that they can see your complete profile for a month as soon as you message them, so if you aren't interested in their request, just ignore it. They won't know you haven't accepted your request. You should re-check your privacy settings too as they have changed. YABU now because you let some yahoo upset you. Not worth it darling.

I get friend requests mostly from teenage american boys, much to DHs amusement!

They usually say 'I like your profile pic - maybe we could chat?'.

Just click ignore - I do.

when this happens to me i usually just ignore it

occasionally i will send a message asking how i know them, but if the response sounds a bit fishy then there is no point in entering into a protacted correspondence with them, just ignore their request

you have no reason to justify your refusal

YABU to get into a discussion about it. If I don't know someone I ignore the friend request and that's that.

Also, if you reply to any message on facebook, the person gets access to your profile for a limited amount of time. (Or they used to- has been a while since this happened to me). Thats why I don't reply.

*protracted

ignore ignore ignore, its what I do

Like everyone says why even respond? Honestly you are being a bit silly to get so upset about this.

I just don't get facebook I really don't

I think you are being very silly to get upset.
If you dont know someone ignre thier friend request - easy.

yeah, should have just ignored - I realise that, but just don't like that he looked at my photos (I know that's my fault for not setting it to friends only, but, even so, I don't look at strangers photos). lesson learnt!

oh, and i don't think they can see the profile if you message them any more - found that out a few weeks back

YANBU to not accept a friend request from someone you dont know, just press ignore and leave it at that. YABU to send this guy a message about it, sound do sound like hard work.

You're a bit daft to be arsed by a comment from a stranger, just ignore the request, I tend to say sorry do I know as I have sometimes not realised who some people are.

But seriously don't let some random person annoy you.

yeah, feel a bit silly to have got annoyed/upset now, but don't think i was unreasonable to ask how he 'knew' me in the first place. Won't be doing that again though

I had a few friend requests from a few men i did not know, I just ignored them and did not give them much thought.

Why get upset about what a total stranger thinks about you? Just ignore it and double check your privacy settings. Or don;t have a facebook account

It's a good idea to ignore friend requests you don't know because they are often information harvesters. If you can't see a clear link to someone you know or you don't know them, then stay well clear.

My DD aged 8 has just set up a FB page (false name etc, but real photo)She never goes anywhere alone, and we monitor her use etc.But in 2 years of FB I have had only had a couple of friend requests from strangers but she has had loads and loads in a few weeks

YABU for giving two shits about this, or for even messaging him. Blokes do this all the time, just ignore the request!

Try not to get too upset about it, it's only your loved one's opinions which count in the end, although I know that sometimes these things definetly hurt!

I occasionally get friend requests from randoms, but I just delete them straight away.