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To expect the school to inform me

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 21:36

when my DS1 runs head first into the edge of a metal door. Especaially when i'm in the building attending a meeting......?

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 22:03

DS broke his nose by the way - forgot to add that

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ben10isgr8 · 01/04/2010 22:28

YANBU

I would expect a call straight away

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 22:32

yeah a call would have been fantastic but I WAS IN THE BUILDING at a meeting in the room across the hall.

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annielouisa · 01/04/2010 22:34

YANBU I would have been really upset. Hope your DS1 makes a complete recovery.

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 01/04/2010 22:35

Poor mite. They should have told you.

Ds had a ball thrown into his face on his last day in June, there was blood on his shirt, no one came out at all to tell me what had happened , nor was I told that someone pushed his head into a filing cabinet

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 22:42

his teacher seemed surprised when i marched my son up to her at the end of the day to ask what the heck had happened?

Aparently my DS (he's only 6 by the way) had told the first aider (who is not qualified in children's first aid by the way only adult CPR etc) his nose was fine and when i challenged her she said i had so many children in the sick bay i didn't know DS had gone back to class.

My meeting with the head teacher today didn't go well as she took the position of "i can't really comment as i wasn't in the building yesterday...." WTF

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BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 01/04/2010 22:46

It really makes you wonder what's going on in our schools!!

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 22:51

my blood was boiling at the blase attitude of the school yesterday and again today. I have written an offical complaint to the education department and sent a copy to the school (not that i think they will bother). Have also told the school i want to be informed if my DS so much as breaks a fingernail.....

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BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 01/04/2010 22:54

They are supposto tell you if there's a head injury though so you can keep an eye on things. I don't blame you for complaining, it only takes once. If they don't tell a parent that their child has hit their head and something happens to that child then how are the parents to know? Surly it's common sense to tell them?

kid · 01/04/2010 23:06

Did the person that dealt with the injury know you were in the school? Either way, they could have phoned you.

With head injuries, a phone call should be made. For all other injuries, an accident letter should be sent home with the child that day.

Hopefully they will take notice of your complaint and think carefully about the way accidents are handled in future.

Hope your DS is okay.

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:06

well the school's position was that my DS1 had told them he was fine.....

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:10

the person who deals with First aid was the same person who signed me into the school building. I volunteer in the school library in the mornings so its not like they don't know who's mum i am. DS told me he could hear me in the meeting (we were having a heated debate about school transport plans).

apart froma big swollen nose, two gorgeous black eyes and a big red mark right down the middle of his nose - he's fine. Unfortunately the swelling will go down and the bruising come up just in time for his birthday party......

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edam · 01/04/2010 23:10

Yeah, like that's the deciding factor. Because obviously a 6yo is quite capable of diagnosing the absence of their own head injury. Not surprised you are cross.

ds's school send him out with a sticker and a note in the book bag every time he even bumps his head against another child, am amazed your ds's school is so lax.

kid · 01/04/2010 23:11

But surely there must have been swelling? Sounds like they didn't assess him properly.

I have done first aid training for schools. For some reason, they do seem to focus alot of CPR which is mad as thats not really a skill you are going to need working in a school.

Luckily, we also covered cuts, scalds, broken bones, recovery position, bandages, fits and diabetes.

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:12

last time he bumped heads with another pupil they phoned and insisted i came to school to "asses the injury for myself to decide the best course of action"

Even our GP was furious

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:15

i will admit that at 11am when the accident happened his nose was probably nowhere near as swollen as it was at 3pm when i picked him up. But i still think that i should have been told - even if it was just a quick "oh by the way...." as i was leaving the building.....

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kid · 01/04/2010 23:18

I think you should have been given an accident form to explain what had happened and what first aid had been applied.

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:22

the only first aid he got was an ice pack which he was told to hold on his HEAD!!! when i picked him up at 3pm his nostrils where caked with blood......

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Fluffyone · 01/04/2010 23:39

You will probably be asked to first complain in writing to the Head. The LA will not normally get involved until you have followed the school complaints procedure, so get a copy from the school if you do not already have it. If you write it is a good idea to include in your letter what action you want taken to resolve your complaint (or else no point complaining). If you are unhappy with the Head's response, then write to the chair of governors. If you are still not happy then the complaints procedure will tell you what to do next. Good luck with it.
(I deal with this stuff all the time).

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:43

we don't have a board of govenors - state run local primary here in scotland. Have written formal letter of complaint to the school after my very enlightening meeting with the head today. another letter of complaint including the head's response was handed in to the local education authority today.

DS1 has just come downstairs telling me his head is sore...... bloody school

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Fluffyone · 01/04/2010 23:48

Ah, Scotland, I beg your pardon. Well, the school was completely out of order in this case, so hopefully you can make sure that other children are looked after properly in the future!

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:52

i am on the board of the Parent Teacher Councilat the school though and you can be damn sure i will be bringing this up at the next meeting

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HoppingHeather · 02/04/2010 00:06

You were in the building and your son was running about unattended?

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outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 00:09

hopping heather. I was in the building attending a meeting about transport. My son was outside on his morning break.

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soapboxqueen · 02/04/2010 00:30

I agree that there is obviously something going wrong here. Even if a child said they were fine, I would at least speak to the parents so they knew what had happened.

However, sending home letters about injuries is good practise but not compulsary. Writing the incident into the accident book is compulsary though.

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