I have namechanged for this, I don't think I am being unreasonable

[SelkirkGrace]

Yesterday was DS1's birthday, he's 12. During the course of the evening, my mum stepdad and brother rang, then my other brother, then DH's mum, and DH's stepdad rang back when he got in from work. my 2 aunts rang as well. All to wish him happy Birthday.
all my cousins and some friends left him birthday messages on my FB page,a dn eh got ome texts too. All except FIL and step MIL.
DS1 did say at bedtime "granny and grandad and nana dn papa all rang but gran and granpa didn't, why's that".
I said maybe they were busy.

Anyway, today their card arrived. Dh said at lunchtime "DS1 will have to ring my dad and say thank you for the card"
I said "NO, he won't ring, he can send a text, or you can get him post a message on FB (Normally I wouldn't suggest that option)"

DH said I am being unreasonable, as it's not his dad and step mums fault they didn't ring to wish him happy birthday - well who's fault was it then?

I know you will all say IABU, he's 12 and shoud get over, but this is the latest in a long line of things

He isn't on FB

coldtits - yes, where FIL and SMIL are concerned, but that's cos I know they don't care, they put a show on of pretneding they do, but they don't.

I do apologise, SG. My mistake. I've just re-read your OP and discovered that your FB page is some sort of proxy greeting card service.

My mum and dad never ring on birthdays. MiL and FiL ring for every possibly vaguely interesting event. Are they deliberately not ringing, or just don't feel the need to? If the card had arrived on the day (and probably the postal service to blame that it did not) this would entirely be a non-event.