Probably, but DD is upset so what do you think?

[sherby]

DD is 4, in reception.

The class do some VIP thing, where every week 2 DC get to be the VIPs. So they sit on a special chair, get responsibility for taking the register to the office and other classroom stuff. They also get the VIP book to take home with a teddy and a badge etc etc.

They are all supposed to get a turn once in the term (you can see where this is going ). So obviously it is the last week of this term and DD hasn't had it yet. And she comes home today bloody upset because the teacher asked everyone to put their hand up if they haven't had it yet (3 kids) and she didn't get chosen.

Now obviously if there are too many children in a term it will have to be carried over to the next one, but expecting a 4 yr old to wait a whole term and still not get it and to be the only child who hasn't had it seems a bit off to me.

Especially as I know that the little sod who was called the TA a c**t during the class assembly had it two weeks ago

So AIBU to think that with only 3 kids left in the last week, that the teacher could have just let 3 of them be VIP this week?

SPB - I read the post thankyou. My point is that some things are less worth getting upset about (having to wait for a turn to be a VIP child) than others (starving).

but she wasn't saying the 2 things were equally upsetting

Perhaps next term they could plan it together as a class exercise in maths...

No, but I am saying that I would not say "life's not fair" to starving child.

Leaving this thread now.

Jamie, don't leave for me please - I have my own axe to grind! I just knew when I read that post that people would misread it as comparing not being VIP to not having enough food. I'm sorry I shouldn't have brought it up

SPB - Thanks for the Olive Branch

I am inexplicably in a foul mood and should not MN in this state. Although I do believe life is Not Fair, I wouldn't actually say it to a 4 year old in this situation. Although nor do I think it's worth getting het up about, as I think the teacher may have been having an off day.

I will leave now. Baby Names may cheer me up

I chickened out of calling dd Fann-Jo
Hope your mood improves

YANBU, can understand why poor little DD would be upset - but I bet teacher thought your DD would be the least 'dramatic' about not being chosen, and probably the least likely to kick up a fuss, so try explaining it to DD that its probably a compliment, and also try JoolyJoolyJoo's idea of making her the VIP of the home for the day!

On a side note, I had a very similar story with my neice (4yrs) who I collect from school, she is a little angel in school and came out very upset that she still hasn't got 'star of the week' yet, and one of the 'naughty' children in her class got it again. She thought teacher might not like her etc, and I explained that sometimes teachers reward the naughty children more so that they decide being good is much better, and they are good more often, which is why all the naughty children have been getting star of the week before her.

Next friday she came out in floods of tears.... she had got star of the week and so was insistent her teacher thought she must be naughty! doh!