DD's friend has just been picked up from a playdate - that was meant to end at 6pm!!

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What did you say to her mum? I hope you made your feelings clear.

Did she forget to reset her watch when the clocks changed, maybe?

Hope you gave out to the mum.

Imagine there was an emergency and she could not be contacted

What do you mean no reason given - did you not ask?

Bloody hell, that's either really rude or there's something going on. I'd see whether she gets in touch tomorrow to explain. If not then, if her DD comes to play again, I'd 'av a word beforehand.

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That's odd! No explanation at all? And what if you'd had to get ahold of her for an emergency or something?

Wow that mother is totally unreasonable.

Muttering somethgin about forgetting?!
Totally out of order.

Do you know this mother personally? Have you had the DD over before? Does she generally come across as flaky? I would not invite this DD over again TBH, unless the mother apologises and offers a further reasonable explanation.

at 4yo

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Not on. Poor little girl. Mum should definitely have apologised and given some excuse. Think if you have her over again you need o really highlight that she needs to collect on time.

That is so annoying, I have a similar problem.
The parents come to pick their child up but won't frigging leave.
Last time they arrived at 6.30-great, I thought but sat down and talked and talked with no encouragement until 9pm

am trying to imagine how a parent could forget to collect their 4 year old child. if she was at home, surely she must have noticed something was missing

Actually if you've had her over loads before with no problems, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. As dilemma says, it was probably something she didn't want to bring up.
Still - to be uncontactable during that time is fairly serious, whatever the reason

Perhaps she was out somewhere that she needed her phone to be off, and her DH was supposed to collect their DD, and he forgot. Which might explain why no explanation was forthcoming on collection?

I agree things happen - poss something serious if you couldn't contact her and she didn't call you.

Maybe reach out to her it could be something she needs supporting through??? Maybe it could bring the 2 of you closer???

Hard to say really not knowing either of you but if a once off I'd allow for extenuating circumctances.

YANBU did you have a contact number for her, you could have called her to see where she was! This is taking the p though.

Piglet - OP said she did try to contact the mum but there was no reply?

May be she had had some awful news that she didn't want to say in front of her dd, and so gave a lame excuse?

Oh maybe something happened (got stopped by Police?) and was embarrassed?

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Phew (well, not phew for niece), glad she got in touch. If I was being totally judgey mcjudge about it, I still think she should have called. There must have been a loo break and/or cuppa break in this mammoth talk or she could simply have told her niece that she had to call you to say she'd be late. Leaving a 4 year old at someone's house for an extra 2 hours is a but much. Still, no harm done and I'll take my wig off now.

oh dear dilemma - so she did have a good reason, but still she could have texted you to let you know a 'drama' was erupting round hers.

I thought there must have been a good reason - particularly since they've had playdates before.