DD's friend has just been picked up from a playdate - that was meant to end at 6pm!!

[dilemma456]

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dilemma - I wouldn't have been annoyed, but I would have been really, really worried - especially when it was a 4yo.

I am glad it wasn't anything too terrible (like an accident/death), but as it wasn't, I would have been annoyed she hadn't bothered to ring, just to let me know she was OK - I would have happily then put them in the bath together, got them ready for bed, told her Mummy was doing some jobs and would be there later etc. or happily offered a sleep over.

Her niece being pregnant at 15 is a nightmare (judgy maybe, but it's the way I'd see it), but it's not such an 'emergency' that she couldn't have picked up the phone to you.

She also could have said to you that she was sorry she was late and that she'd call you a bit later on....

Anyway, I guess all's well that ends well.... (well, except for the poor niece )

agree- wouldn't have hurt to send a quick text just to sasy she'd be late!

but blimey!

dilemma - it doesn't quite add up to me. So, she left her very upset 4yo dd 3 hours longer than she should have in order to support her niece. Not even a breather to jump out and pick her up, text or phone you?

Nah.

Sorry but I agree - a PG Neice is not a good enough reason to do what this mother did. Where are the Nieces parents in all of this?

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it wasn't 3 hours.

op posted at 7.56 and the girl had been picked up at approx 7.45

so it was an hour and 45 mins. or, bearing in mind the 30 mins grace which mum may have been using, an hour and 15

I think she forgot.

She had to make up a really extreme story in order to justify her bizarre behaviour.

A pregnant niece is not a good enough reason to not answer your phone, to leave your dd distressed and scared without notice. She could have rung and said an emergency has cropped up.

She would have turned up apologetic and mortified.

She forgot the clock change and then was embarrassed to admit it.

I agree - that is total bollocks

Oh sorry I must have looked at the clock when I read the post.

Hmm, not as bad as I thought, but still not very good form, spec as the dd was left waiting and upset.

i am also a bit dubious re her cover story.

But only cos one of my friends had a very similar situation, someone's child left at end of an afternoon party for an hour and a bit longer than the finish time. Child's mother did not answer phone/respond to text, then rushed in late all flustered and embarrassed and said there had been a "family drama", profuse apologies and thanks for taking care of child, then whisked away before my friend had time to draw breath.

Friend found out about a month later that the mother had been shagging one of the other daddies in the group behind everyone's backs, using situations such as the playdates/parties to meet up for illicit bonking!! Hence not answering phone, turning up a little pink cheeked .....

toomuch - that was my instinct too. She's been Up To No Good, you mark my words.

Pretty crappy behaviour though regardless of the reason.

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I can see this happening, but if it were me I definitely would have taken a minute to call and say "I'm so sorry, we're having a family issue right now, would it be all right to pick up DD in another hour?" with profuse apologies and thanks.

This is easily checked. Just watch Jeremy Kyle for the next few weeks. Sounds like they'll be on.

Agree with everyone that she could have at least text but she may have also forgot the time/ lost track etc while talking to neice.

I think mummies we have all been guilty of that at one time or another.

Im glad all worked out in the end.

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No I wouldn't lose track (i hope)what I'm saying is maybe putting everything everyone has says into context her neice turned up they chatted she didn't check time hear phone etc and forgot to put clock forward so was looking at wrong time anyway. Personally I have never been late for my child i'm always the early one for fear of being late but I'd like to think that if I was ever in that situation people would be understanding.

Maybe I just like to see the good in people too much and i'm soft.????