to be really annoyed at this? dh thinks i am!

[Broodymomma]

So it was my son's 3rd birthday party on saturday. He had some pals at soft play then we had a few days before invited a few friends back to our house after for drinks and food. They all accepted. Told ds what friends were coming back and spent loads of money decorating house with party stuff, buying food/drink not to mention the 2 days cleaning in preparation for all these people coming back.
Fast forward to the party, everybody seemed to enjoy it no hassles, habded out the partybags and then never seen anyone again - all just went home without even telling us they were not coming back.
I was mortified and felt awful for my son. They were mostly dh's pals and he is saying "whats the problem" - I am furious. Felt they could of atleast said thankyou for the party and sorry we cant come back and at very last goodbye.
AMBU to think they have been very rude?

YANBU and they were very rude - I expect you will find out why in the next few days. But also it is a good lesson to learn - never tell your young child ANYTHING until it actually happens. I have done it too many times - driven to the softplay just to find out it is shut on Mondays, told DSs we are going to meet X at the park just for X to ring up 15 mins before to say they can't make it etc etc!!
We never tell ours anything now!

Thanks for the tip! I will follow that rule from now on I think.

Sorry I told you it twice!

We always have a party after dd's birthday parties macdoodle. I pay the friends who come and help at the party with beer and barbecue at ours.

Just wondering - you don't think that they thought the invitation was for your ds's ACTUAL birthday, do you? Like, a party on the weekend for loads of friends and then a more private party on the day?

Because that's what we've done before.

That is very odd Broody.

I think you need to get to the bottom of it - whether they misunderstood or are just plain rude.

Next time you see one of them you can say in a breezy, off-hand way 'we missed you guys on Saturday. Did you get caught up?'

Then gauge their reaction. If they are confused and say 'what do you mean? We saw you at the party...' then you know they misunderstood.

But if they make up a lame-o excuse, then you know that they are rude, rude people.

And don't forget to come back and tell us.

Well, basically they are plain rude.

Texted last night and got texts back this morning.

Couple 1 - Son was tired so they just went home. Fine we have all been there totally understand but they could have atleast said.

Couple 2 - Had parents coming round - fair enough she did kind of say at the party but i did not pick up that it meant they were not coming back for even a little while

Couple 3 - Seem totally oblivoius to it all so no idea. Texted saying they had a nice time at the party but no mention of why they did not come back.

Anyway ds birthday today and we have had a ball - off to have more fun when he wakes up!! Thanks everyone for the advice and agreeing I am not unreasonable

V v v v rude. Dump them.

YANBU AT ALL!!

I would be livid at that. Everyone knows that when you're hosting a party at a soft-play area, you don't always have time to be chatting to other parents, you need to have eyes in the back of your head.

If there was a possibility that you were too busy at the end, handing out party-bags, to reconfirm to them what the after-arrangements were, one of them should just have asked you if you were still having people back, especially if they were friends of yours!

What a shame that you went to so much effort. I would also be V hurt. But then I'm a sensitive soul...

I say again, YANBU!!